The TV series "We Can't Be Friends" is adapted from Ayame's 2018 novel of the same name, which successfully detonated the topic due to the spicy theme, bold dialogue and subversion of the protagonist of previous idol dramas.
The play nakedly depicts the temptations of real society, thus exploring the fragility of human nature, the warning of splitting legs, and the nature of marriage. The ultimate open-ended ending, conveying that marriage is no longer the only area where women realize themselves.
Traditional society has always held a disapproving attitude towards extramarital affairs, believing that cheating is not only a blasphemy against the marriage system, but also endangers social stability when serious, but extramarital affairs are truly staged in every corner.
Most people focus on the problem of infidelity in the marriage relationship, but few people face the problem of pre-marital infidelity, and the special feature of this drama theme is this. The male protagonist Chu Kehuan and Gao Ziyuan, the female protagonist Zhou Weiwei and Li Haoyi, although there is no name for husband and wife, in fact, it is no different from ordinary couples. The former lived together for ten years, Ziyuan helped Ke Huan to make some career interpersonal relationships, and Ke Huan was in charge of the family. The latter had been dating for three years, and on weekends, they would spend the night at Haoyi's place, and they had a complete plan for the future and were about to enter the auditorium. Therefore, it is difficult to regard this drama as a play of infidelity before marriage.
Based on betrayal, the play is described as a leg-splitting drama; because it is contrary to traditional values, some people call it a drama that destroys the three views. The above is all reasonable, but the drama's reflection on love and marriage is worth pondering. The English title points out that before getting married, you must think carefully and never make a wrong decision because of stereotypes, as Ayam said, "Marriage is a grave, and you must carefully choose to bury your companions."
As early as 2017's work "Lying loves you, lying doesn't love you", Ayami talked about the problem of splitting legs. This work depicts the heroine Yu Zuole who no longer believes in love because she has been split legs, and later falls in love with Gao Baijian, a psychology doctor with an eccentric temper.
Through Bai Jian's ex-girlfriend Cheng Caishan, the author expressed his views on leg splitting: "I admit that splitting legs is wrong. However, there are many kinds of sins in a person's love relationship,...... Splitting legs in love is just one of those sins. It is only that it is equivalent to murder in love, so it is the easiest to be attacked by everyone and the easiest to convict. ”
Cheng Caishan pointed out that the mistakes that Bai Jian made in love are not to care about the other party's feelings and the scope of tolerance, to be unable to accept feelings freely, to always think that they are right, and to argue for everything. Compared with Gao Baijian's self-righteous justice, Cai Shan feels that "the person who splits his legs makes me feel more love and be cared for, and I even feel the sincerity of him wanting to maintain this love relationship. Cheng Caishan's explanation of the split leg, of course, there is room for discussion, but this passage points directly to the way of strangling love, in addition to the split leg, there is also indifference, selfishness, irritability and arbitrariness.
Haoyi is very similar to Gao Baijian. Haoyi's life planned for Wei wei was completely based on himself, and things were often decided before telling his girlfriend that even if he went to Shanghai to find him, he still naturally blamed her for delaying his work. Haoyi is simple and sincere, such a person should be the best candidate for her husband, but in the love relationship, she can't feel a trace of warmth. Love without warmth and lack of communication finally made her choose to leave.
▼ Haoyi's life planned for Wei Wei was completely based on himself, and finally let Wei Wei's heart leave.
In addition to splitting legs, the male protagonist's personality is almost perfect. Chu Kehuan is rich and handsome, capable and dignified, when the heroine needs to listen, he can always appear in time, and when the heroine encounters danger, he can also help in a timely manner, and what is important is that he is romantic and affectionate. The appearance of such a perfect person in the only life seems to be a fatal attraction and tests her and Haoyi's love. One scene that makes the audience (especially the female audience) feel excited is the scene where Ziyuan takes Haoyi to see the public setting, and Ke Huan forces Wei wei to kiss him on the balcony. The window screen raised by the wind shaped the atmosphere of this scene very beautifully, and the male protagonist's domineering courtship was once again displayed.
The heroine is only an independent and neat project manager, but her thinking is quite traditional. According to Haoyi's plan, she lived a life of only spending one hundred and fifty yuan a day, and her only leisure was to go to the telephone KTV, spend fifty yuan, and listen to a song. Until Ke Huan appeared, she began to doubt her own life; because of Ke Huan, she re-examined her own life.
If Chu Kehuan is a fictional ideal character, then Zhou Weiwei is the epitome of a real person struggling between love and morality. She can't pursue love like Ke Huan, nor can she express emotions undisguisedly like Ke Fei. In her heart, Ke Huan was just an accident, and Hao Yi was the one who should spend her life together. However, the only thing that cares about the world's vision is contradiction, on the one hand, she agrees to Haoyi's marriage proposal, but cannot resist Kehuan's courtship; on the other hand, after refusing to be with Kehuan, she agrees with him to be a good friend.
This drama successfully created a character, that is, Han Kefei, who only wanted to "buy Coke".
▲ Yuan Aifei plays the meat-eating woman Han Kefei
Ke fei is sexy and straightforward, moralistic, and only wants to have sex but does not want to have a stable relationship. Although she was happy in time, she insisted that she could not share a man with her friends. Sticking to principles and being brave enough to be yourself highlights the hesitation of only being in a love relationship.
Cheng Caishan's so-called "leg splitter's lying 'evil deeds'" are also reflected in the male and female protagonists. Both Ke Huan and Wei Wei talk about the problems of feelings, and it is never because of a third party. In contrast, kehuan and Ziyuan's problems are more serious. Although they have been together for ten years, they have long been separated. However, if there is no appearance of Wei Wei, can Ke Huan resolutely end this relationship? Abandoning a woman who has loved him for ten years, centered on him, and supported him wholeheartedly, is there no place for Ke Huan to be criticized at all? Ke Huan has long been out of love with Ziyuan, but he has not confessed to her, is it fair to Ziyuan?
When Ke Huan pursued Wei Wei, he said, "I like you and I don't love Ziyuan, these are two different things, at most you give me the courage to deal with this matter." I wasn't brave enough before, but I'll be brave in the future. "In fact, I have already thought about it, but I just don't know how to open my mouth." "No one is perfect, a person who is not loved, there is always something to be picked about. The sudden "Let's break up!" "For Ziyuan, it is too cruel.
During a trip to visit Wang Dong, Wei Wei and Ke Huan kissed passionately on the bed, and if there was no call from HaoYi, the two might have overstepped their bounds. But this episode, but never mentioned to Haoyi, as if she and Ke Huan were innocent. The so-called derailment, is it the last step?
In contrast, the original work is more honest and generous. The male and female protagonists of the original work rarely justify their betrayal, let alone describe Haoyi and Ziyuan as people with flawed personalities. They simply believe in love, as Wei Wei said, "only because we are so purely attracted to each other, that is the most necessary and only condition for love." ”
In the end, through David, after learning that after the breakup, Haoyi has been married and Ziyuan also has an object. How the mood of the two changed is not described.
The conversation between Wei Wei and Hao Yi in the park makes Hao Yi, who has always been self-centered, finally understand the hurt he has suffered in this relationship. When he heard Wei Wei say, "I can't continue to love you, I'm sorry," he finally decided to let go. Haoyi is a pragmatic man who will like Wei Wei because she is the first woman to date him and will be the one who will work with him towards retirement plans. Haoyi worked hard to make Himself a noblewoman with no food and clothing, but this was not the only thing he wanted. Whether the marriage can be long-lasting is often not a question of whether the object is good or not, but whether they are suitable for each other. Therefore, it is not difficult to imagine that after the change, As long as he can find a woman who is in line with him and identifies with him, he will be able to get happiness.
▲However, he agrees to Haoyi's marriage proposal, but he cannot resist Ke Huan's courtship
As for Ziyuan, how can she give up her relationship with Ke Huan for ten years within one year, the way she has been said is slightly insufficient. Ziyuan is actually a good woman—beautiful, intelligent, generous, and dedicated. Even if he knew that a rift had appeared between him and Ke Huan, he was still willing to wait for him. There is a conversation between Zi Ting and Zi Yuan that is like this, Zi Ting said that it is so late, Brother Ke Huan has not returned, do you not need to make a phone call? Ziyuan replied calmly, "When the time comes, he will come back." "The clever Ziyuan will not know that Ke Huan often plays with girls outside, but still acquiesces to his behavior, as long as the man eventually returns to her, therefore, it is not fair to say that Ziyuan is a control freak. Ziyuan can be said to be the tragic character of the whole story, although she lives a noblewoman-like life, she is not happy. Her shopaholic just hides the emptiness in her heart.
The finale ends with Wei Wei asking Ke Huan "May I buy you a coffee?" (Can I invite you for a cup of coffee?) Ke Huan gestured behind him to compare the scene of OK. The open-ended ending of the male and female protagonists leaves the audience with unlimited imagination.
▲ "We Can't Be Friends" ended smoothly
This open-ended ending dates back to 2009's Queen of Defeated Dogs. From looking forward to marriage to realizing that marriage is not a necessary destination for women, because she has learned how to make herself happy and enjoy the beauty of life. However, his relationship with Haoyi was premised on marriage, and he even planned to have two children before the age of 35. When Haoyi postponed the wedding again and again because of his work, he could not help but feel anxious. She said sadly to Ke Huan: "I just want to get married, am I wrong? Am I excessive? However, after the transformation, she no longer believes that marriage is a necessary choice in life, and she becomes a woman who yearns for freedom and seeks herself.
"May I invite you for a cup of coffee?" It was Ke Huan who teased her at the beginning, inviting someone to drink coffee just to have sex with her. In the process of pursuing the only thing, Ke Huan fully demonstrates the aggressiveness and aggression of men. After ending his relationship with Haoyi, he only took the initiative to jooque Huan and slept with him. In the process of making love to Ke Huan, he only said in his heart: "I know that at this moment, this is what you wanted when you chased me, and now, this is what I want." ...... I've been tied up by myself all my life, I want to change, I want to live happily,...... I don't want to be attached to anyone anymore. Whether I love it or hate it, I want to decide for myself. Whether I love or hate, I have to learn to love myself first. I sincerely hope that when I upgrade to Zhou Weiwei 2.0, I can face you with a new, stress-free Zhou Weiwei. "May I invite you for a cup of coffee?" This sexually suggestive sentence not only has the effect of echoing from beginning to end, but also represents that women are no longer passive in love relationships.
It is not an exaggeration to say that this is a history of women's growth in self-pursuit. Maybe only Ke Huan will be with Him, maybe He will find the next Chu Ke Huan, or maybe Ke Huan will find the next Zhou Wei Wei, none of this matters, what is important is that Only He finally learns how to love himself.
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