From April 1861 to April 1865, the United States had the largest civil war in history, namely the United States of America in the north and the Confederate States of America in the south, that is, the "Civil War". According to statistics, the Volunteer Army accounted for the vast majority of the 3.5 million soldiers, and the war ended with the death of 750,000 soldiers and the disability of 400,000 soldiers, ending in the victory of the United States of America in the north.
The March family is one of the epitomes of the toiling masses living in such a big context, life is hard, and poverty is the basic they face every day. There are even some people who starve to death, freeze to death, and live exhausted.
So, in such a war-torn era, how difficult is it for a woman to support a family alone and raise 4 bear children with very different personalities to be outstanding?
Due to the outbreak of the war, Mr. March followed the army with a sincere patriotic heart and became a member of the 3.5 million army, leaving his wife and 4 daughters to rely on each other, losing the support of his father, which made the already destitute family even worse.
The four daughters have different temperaments and personalities, including two sisters of fifteen or sixteen years old in adolescence, one who loves vanity and wants to marry a rich man and wear beautiful clothes; a big grinning, simple and rough demeanor, and a naughty boy; there are also timid and shy, in order not to conflict with others, simply drop out of school to study at home; and there is also a seven- or eight-year-old daughter who has to make a little splash and express her childish opinions in anything, and even a little flirtatious.
However, in the difficult times when Mrs. March saw that others could not eat, she said to the children:
Children, listen, there is a poor woman not far away, she has a newborn baby. Her six children huddled in a bed for warmth because they didn't have firewood to make a fire. They had nothing to eat, cold and hungry. How about you give them your breakfast as a Christmas present?
But in fact, these so-called breakfasts are actually just some potatoes and bread, and these are the basic livelihoods that are barely maintained by the small wages earned by the mother and two uneducated sisters.
In such a situation, the mother's short sentence, not aggressive, nor righteous words, but with a consultative tone to the children to tell the facts and solutions, so that the four children not only understand the truth, but also leave the choice to the children, is really a template in the field of parenting.
The weather was unpredictable, and the news came from the front line of the war that his father was seriously injured. This means that the family must have a life to go to the front line to take care of their father. After thinking about it, it was decided that Mrs. March would take care of her husband and leave her four children to guard the family.
In the first step, Mrs. March was undignified, went to the neighbor's house to ask for wine, and took it to the front line to give it to her husband; the second step instructed the four children to arrange their lives next.
The second daughter, who has a strong personality, saw her mother's embarrassment and secretly sold her beautiful long hair, which she had always been proud of, in exchange for 25 yuan, all of which was handed over to her mother in case of emergency.
Another time, when the daughter and the boy next door went to the ball, the bystander pointed out to the daughter, and the words said that Mrs. March and the rich neighbor next door were getting close, and they wanted to climb the neighbor, and the words were very ugly. When the young daughter heard others insulting her mother, she cried very sadly.
Mrs. March calmly said to her daughter:
Dear, all mothers have plans, I want my daughters to be loved, I want everyone to like them. I want them to marry happily, not just to be rich. If you become wives of the poor, it means that you have a happy and peaceful life, and I would rather you do that. But your father and I believe that we will always be proud of our daughter, whether you are single or married.
If you want to ask what kind of mother is Sanguanzheng? That should be like this mother, unswervingly thinking about her daughter, and not hesitate to transmit the correct values to her daughters when they need guidance.
She would sincerely say "I'm sure you would succeed" when her daughter was frustrated, and she would tell her daughters that "what we should cherish most is love, peace, and health", "You are never allowed to repeat bad gossip", "Learn not to show anger, learn to stop when angry words come to your mouth"...
It is such a restrained, emotionally controlling mother who, in the war-torn era, raised four outstanding daughters alone.
The eldest daughter married a poor boy who worked hard and harvested a happy marriage; the second daughter became a writer and founded a school; the third daughter was no longer timid and cowardly, bravely chasing her musical dreams; the younger daughter married the boy next door and became a painter, with a career and family, living independently and elegantly.
That's the tip of the iceberg for Little Women, and much more to be interesting, educational, and thought-provoking.
If you want to find a lifelong growth book that can affect a girl's life, independence, love, and mate choice, "Little Women" is definitely well deserved.
"Little Women" has been published for 150 years, after the test of time, it is still a bestseller, the sales are high, and it has been adapted into a TV series, a drama, and the movie will be remade every few years, and whether it is the original work or a film and television work, the rating is above 8.2.
Of course, compared with the point of the film and television works, the meticulousness of the original book is so exhaustive that it is the most attractive. For more inspiration and growth, the original book is the best choice. There are also beautiful illustrations in the book that help us read and understand.
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If you read this book for yourself, you can learn Mrs. March's concept of raising a baby, and it also helps to communicate between parents and children; reading it to children can make children have a deeper understanding of independence and growth in the book.
I hope that in reading, we will harvest more growth and start a new year.