After watching the Singapore movie "Kids Are Not Stupid 2", crying turned into tears. Highly recommend this movie!
The film mainly revolves around the different education methods of the two families.
Tom and Jerry come from a middle-class family, their parents are busy working to make money, they think that it is enough to provide a rich material life for their children, lack of communication, but do not know that children need more love and praise from their parents.
Parents feel that talking a lot to their children is communication, and the two brothers usually pretend to listen.
In fact, the parents are their own talk, their own cool, the brothers in the end whether they listen to it or not, the parents do not care, as long as they talk about it.
So whether it is the communication between parents and their own mothers, or the communication between parents and brothers, it is amazingly similar, always answering hum, ah, oh.
The younger brother Jerry communicates with his parents by posting messages.
Once, when he was the lead actor in a school performance, he posted several messages for his parents to invite them to watch the performance, but the message was inadvertently thrown into the trash.
When he heard that the supporting roles as a small flower had invited the seven aunts and eight aunts to watch the performance, he was very disappointed.
When he knew that someone would pay 500 yuan an hour to invite his father to speak, he sold all his beloved Pokémon cards, did not eat to save money, but near the performance, he still did not have enough money, so he stole money in the school store.....
When the parents learn that Jerry stole the money just to buy his father for an hour to watch his own performance, the three of them hold their heads and cry...
Brother Tom said on the blog: My mother will only scold me and force me, no matter what I do, in her eyes it will always be wrong, not good. I remember when I was just in the first year of secondary school, once I came home on the wrong bus and got lost, I couldn't get home, I was so scared, I found a public phone to call my father, he said he was busy, there was no time to listen to my phone. It was so scary to get lost, it was dark, I came home, and my mother scolded me. Slowly, I came to know that this home was just a place for me to sleep, and this home had everything on the surface, but in fact there was nothing.
Because of the fight with the teacher, his brother Tom was punished by the school with public whipping, and his heart was severely traumatized!
He wrote on his blog: "Yang Xueqian (Tom's Chinese name) has been whipped to death".
Unable to get approval at home or at school, he defines himself as a rotten apple and begins to mingle in the gang.
When Dad found Tom in the gang, he said to Dad, "Yes, these little bastards are my treasures, only they will appreciate me".
Dad said, "What do you have for me to appreciate you, you say"?
"No matter how well I do, you don't think it's enough, no matter what I do, you all feel bad, I'm useless in your eyes!" Is it enough for you to have Jerry, a good boy? Forget it, when I'm dead forget it"!
Tom ends up being used by gangsters and blackmailed by fake cops, leading to the robbery of street women in broad daylight.
In the end, it was his father who knelt down in the crowd and begged the old woman for mercy, so that his son did not have to go to jail, and he resolved the conflict with his parents.
Tom's nemesis and father fight and kick each other all day. A humble father who had been imprisoned and had his leg broken.
In order not to let his son follow in his footsteps, he disciplined Chengcai very harshly, hoping that he would study well and have a future appearance.
Cheng Cai was expelled from the school for violating school rules, and when he joined the "underworld", he was beaten for robbery, just happened to be bumped into by his father, who fell off the steps of the overpass to rescue his son, and his head hit the cement pillar fiercely...
When Dad was pushed into the emergency room, the fat aunt at the grocery store told Chengcai: "Do you know how much your dad loves you?" In order to find a school to take you in, he only wrote abc, copied 163 copies of the English distress letter I wrote for him, and ran through more than a hundred secondary schools in Singapore with his disabled legs...
He loves you so much that he doesn't know how to love you..."
On the occasion of his death, Chengcai's father hoped to thank the fat principal who was finally willing to "take in" Chengcai, and Chengcai went to the school to cry and begged the principal to "cheat" on his father...
When everyone gathered around the hospital bed to send Chengcai's father, his father said to Chengcai: "There is no child whose parents do not love themselves, there is no child who cannot teach well, only parents who cannot teach children." I grew up in sticks, so I don't know how to express love."
When I understood my father's hard work, I never had a chance again...
Chengcai, who has always been disapproved by everyone and has always been considered to be unsuccessful, has finally become a good wrestler by virtue of his ability to fight. He achieved "hitting the whole world".
And the miracle happened because the principal and Teacher Fu later appreciated Chengcai, so that Chengcai was no longer a rotten apple.
The apple is rotten and the rotten part is cut off, he is still a valuable apple! If you throw it away, it will never have a chance.
Appreciation is a powerful driving force. And this driving force is your simple few words, a few words, or one of your actions, an expression.
Jerry understands family as fat and mother i love you.
The last stage monologue of Jerry: Mom and Dad can finally come to see my performance, and even happier is that they have found the key that Teacher Hao said.
In fact, this key has always been on everyone's body, remember that when we were young, we often fell down and stood up under encouragement and praise, how happy we were at that time, we didn't know.
And I don't know when it started, the words of praise and encouragement to us, as we grew up, slowly changed, and the door slowly closed.
Is it really that difficult to encourage others and look at their advantages?
In fact, both adults and children need to be praised, but why are we always so stingy when we praise others!
In every child, there is a good child and a bad child, and as long as they wake up their good children, they will take out the best.
How long have we not praised others, and how long have we not been praised? Hasn't it been a long time?
In the play, Teacher Hao said to the teacher: "As long as there is progress, it is an effort." Their door was closed. You need a key. Look less at their shortcomings and more at their strengths. That's the key. With this key, it is easy to communicate."
Blindly accusing, the door of other people's hearts will be closed to you, and you need to open the hearts of others with praise and affirmation of this key of love.
The grocery store lady gave us a great demonstration as she said i love you, which has a lot of magic!
Key to Love: Praise and Affirmation. May everyone find this key to love!