This high-scoring divorce variety show fire: no divorce for the sake of children, perhaps the best ending 01 Broken families, bring more harm to children 02 Don't take "for the sake of children" as a reason not to divorce 03 More important than not divorcing is how to deal with parent-child relationships after divorce
author：Big Meow says parenting
Recently, the variety show "Goodbye Lover" is very popular, Douban score 8.7, as a divorce-themed program, the program invited three groups of very representative couples: want to leave, in the departure, has left, and these couples who are deeply involved in the marriage crisis, together opened an 18-day caravan trip.
This high-scoring divorce variety show fire: no divorce for the sake of children, perhaps the best ending 01 Broken families, bring more harm to children 02 Don't take "for the sake of children" as a reason not to divorce 03 More important than not divorcing is how to deal with parent-child relationships after divorce
I have to say that the way these three groups of couples get along, let people see the beginning can guess the ending, many couples eventually separated not necessarily because of particularly important things, and may not even be because love is gone, the reason is at any time visible and sensible life in the daily life.
This high-scoring divorce variety show fire: no divorce for the sake of children, perhaps the best ending 01 Broken families, bring more harm to children 02 Don't take "for the sake of children" as a reason not to divorce 03 More important than not divorcing is how to deal with parent-child relationships after divorce
Among them, Zhu Yaqiong and Wang Qiuyu, the couple, divorced as early as two years ago, at this time, Zhu Yaqiong became pregnant, for the sake of the child, the two chose to remarry.
This high-scoring divorce variety show fire: no divorce for the sake of children, perhaps the best ending 01 Broken families, bring more harm to children 02 Don't take "for the sake of children" as a reason not to divorce 03 More important than not divorcing is how to deal with parent-child relationships after divorce
However, the child's life-saving straw did not save the marriage after all, and two years later, the two approached the Civil Affairs Bureau again to register for divorce.
This high-scoring divorce variety show fire: no divorce for the sake of children, perhaps the best ending 01 Broken families, bring more harm to children 02 Don't take "for the sake of children" as a reason not to divorce 03 More important than not divorcing is how to deal with parent-child relationships after divorce
At this time, their child was only 16 months old, and Zhu Yaqiong's mother had asked her: "Have you ever considered that such a decision will make the child unhappy?" ”
She said with tears in her eyes: "Do you want me to be unhappy, or is he unhappy?" ”
This high-scoring divorce variety show fire: no divorce for the sake of children, perhaps the best ending 01 Broken families, bring more harm to children 02 Don't take "for the sake of children" as a reason not to divorce 03 More important than not divorcing is how to deal with parent-child relationships after divorce
Many people think that divorce will cause serious harm to their children, so in order to give their children a complete home, even if they can't go on, they still force both parties to torture each other in the besieged city of marriage.
This high-scoring divorce variety show fire: no divorce for the sake of children, perhaps the best ending 01 Broken families, bring more harm to children 02 Don't take "for the sake of children" as a reason not to divorce 03 More important than not divorcing is how to deal with parent-child relationships after divorce
But can children who grow up in seemingly intact but already broken homes really be happy? Not necessarily!
Adults don't seem to understand that children need not a formally complete home, but a home where they can feel constantly loved.
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"Dad, I went to school, mom and dad don't want caojia (quarrel), and then chaojia (quarrel) I committed suicide." This is a message written by a primary school student in Zhengzhou after witnessing his parents quarrel many times.
How desperate would it be to threaten one's parents with one's own life? Given the chance to choose, they'd rather their parents be separated than stay in a home where arguments always break out!
This high-scoring divorce variety show fire: no divorce for the sake of children, perhaps the best ending 01 Broken families, bring more harm to children 02 Don't take "for the sake of children" as a reason not to divorce 03 More important than not divorcing is how to deal with parent-child relationships after divorce
And the tragedy really happened, there was a 14-year-old boy in the second grade, the grades were good, but his parents often quarreled, the boy repeatedly dissuaded, at the beginning he said: "You quarrel again, I will jump off the building", the parents did not take it seriously, think the child is talking nonsense.
Unexpectedly, he actually jumped from the 29th floor.
This high-scoring divorce variety show fire: no divorce for the sake of children, perhaps the best ending 01 Broken families, bring more harm to children 02 Don't take "for the sake of children" as a reason not to divorce 03 More important than not divorcing is how to deal with parent-child relationships after divorce
The environment full of smoke is a constant torture for children, is there still a need to barely maintain such a home? Maybe divorce is a relief for three people!
Someone once posted a topic on Weibo: When parents quarrel, what do you do?
The comments section on this question is poignant...
Quarrels will make children timid and afraid, and even after adulthood, they can still recall their weak selves and become very intimidated, and the saddest thing for children is that their parents do not love each other!
This high-scoring divorce variety show fire: no divorce for the sake of children, perhaps the best ending 01 Broken families, bring more harm to children 02 Don't take "for the sake of children" as a reason not to divorce 03 More important than not divorcing is how to deal with parent-child relationships after divorce
Even when they grow up, they are still unable to solve their parents' quarrels, and the once helpless child is still deeply buried in their hearts.
This high-scoring divorce variety show fire: no divorce for the sake of children, perhaps the best ending 01 Broken families, bring more harm to children 02 Don't take "for the sake of children" as a reason not to divorce 03 More important than not divorcing is how to deal with parent-child relationships after divorce
"Mom and Dad quarrel, it's my fault", such an illusion, countless children have had, fear, self-blame, pain... Those young children have carried a heavy responsibility in advance that even adults cannot bear!
This high-scoring divorce variety show fire: no divorce for the sake of children, perhaps the best ending 01 Broken families, bring more harm to children 02 Don't take "for the sake of children" as a reason not to divorce 03 More important than not divorcing is how to deal with parent-child relationships after divorce
International educational institutions once did a survey: children with psychological problems, the proportion of parents who often quarrel is 32%, divorced families are 30%, and the proportion of ordinary harmonious families quarrels is only 17%.
War between parents can be lifelong, and even as an adult, it can still be affected by childhood nightmares.
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Actress Jing Tian once recalled in the variety show "Great Sister":
When she was young, her parents often quarreled, and the two of you talked about each other, and the more they quarreled, the more fierce, and even rose to a physical conflict - a fight.
As a child, she could only hide in another room in fear to write her homework.
This high-scoring divorce variety show fire: no divorce for the sake of children, perhaps the best ending 01 Broken families, bring more harm to children 02 Don't take "for the sake of children" as a reason not to divorce 03 More important than not divorcing is how to deal with parent-child relationships after divorce
After many years, even though she had understood that she should not blame her parents, she still felt that for her little self at that time, her parents' quarrel was a particularly big harm.
This high-scoring divorce variety show fire: no divorce for the sake of children, perhaps the best ending 01 Broken families, bring more harm to children 02 Don't take "for the sake of children" as a reason not to divorce 03 More important than not divorcing is how to deal with parent-child relationships after divorce
This high-scoring divorce variety show fire: no divorce for the sake of children, perhaps the best ending 01 Broken families, bring more harm to children 02 Don't take "for the sake of children" as a reason not to divorce 03 More important than not divorcing is how to deal with parent-child relationships after divorce
After the epidemic, Jing Tian's mother asked her: "You are now in your 30s, if I choose to divorce now, will you hate me?" ”
It's really hard to imagine that even if the child has grown up, the parents will still feel sorry for the child by choosing to divorce.
This high-scoring divorce variety show fire: no divorce for the sake of children, perhaps the best ending 01 Broken families, bring more harm to children 02 Don't take "for the sake of children" as a reason not to divorce 03 More important than not divorcing is how to deal with parent-child relationships after divorce
The marriage that the parents once barely maintained could not come to the end of their lives because of the children, and the family integrity that the two of them committed to maintaining has never stopped the harm brought to JingTian.
Later, the parents are still divorced, mentioning this matter, although Jing Tian will also shed tears, but said that she is very supportive of the parents' choice, thinking that the two people may have a better life when they are separated.
This high-scoring divorce variety show fire: no divorce for the sake of children, perhaps the best ending 01 Broken families, bring more harm to children 02 Don't take "for the sake of children" as a reason not to divorce 03 More important than not divorcing is how to deal with parent-child relationships after divorce
Instead of being a couple and grumbling with each other, it is better to let each other go, and when you do not divorce on the grounds that you are using "for the sake of the children, so you have to endure such a marriage", the children do not benefit from it.
The "self-sacrifice" and "appearance of separation" of parents have made children bear the double burden of "parents quarrel with me" and "parents lose the right to pursue happiness for me".
This high-scoring divorce variety show fire: no divorce for the sake of children, perhaps the best ending 01 Broken families, bring more harm to children 02 Don't take "for the sake of children" as a reason not to divorce 03 More important than not divorcing is how to deal with parent-child relationships after divorce
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Choosing divorce, the child may face the situation of parental separation, but as long as it is handled properly, the child can grow up healthy and happy.
Psychologist Dr. Huang Weiren once cited a large number of experiments and investigations in "There Is Still a Blue Sky Outside the Window" to prove that so far, there is no evidence to assert that divorce will cause mental illness in children and increase the hypothesis of crime. On the contrary, there are many examples that, if handled properly, the misfortune of a parent's divorce can be turned around.
There is an Indonesian child named Azka, who created a set of cartoons called "The Story of a Broken Family", which describes the lives of divorced parents and themselves, although the parents are separated, the child can still feel the love from the parents, feel the warmth of the family, and live happily.
In Azka's comics, the parents once fell in love, but eventually decided to separate due to a quarrel.
This high-scoring divorce variety show fire: no divorce for the sake of children, perhaps the best ending 01 Broken families, bring more harm to children 02 Don't take "for the sake of children" as a reason not to divorce 03 More important than not divorcing is how to deal with parent-child relationships after divorce
This high-scoring divorce variety show fire: no divorce for the sake of children, perhaps the best ending 01 Broken families, bring more harm to children 02 Don't take "for the sake of children" as a reason not to divorce 03 More important than not divorcing is how to deal with parent-child relationships after divorce
After the divorce, his father was more humorous, and his mother also lived in a house close to home and often went to see him!
His parents took action to make Azka understand that he hadn't lost his father and still had his mother, that they just didn't live in a house.
This high-scoring divorce variety show fire: no divorce for the sake of children, perhaps the best ending 01 Broken families, bring more harm to children 02 Don't take "for the sake of children" as a reason not to divorce 03 More important than not divorcing is how to deal with parent-child relationships after divorce
This high-scoring divorce variety show fire: no divorce for the sake of children, perhaps the best ending 01 Broken families, bring more harm to children 02 Don't take "for the sake of children" as a reason not to divorce 03 More important than not divorcing is how to deal with parent-child relationships after divorce
This high-scoring divorce variety show fire: no divorce for the sake of children, perhaps the best ending 01 Broken families, bring more harm to children 02 Don't take "for the sake of children" as a reason not to divorce 03 More important than not divorcing is how to deal with parent-child relationships after divorce
Moreover, parents no longer quarrel over small things, they can still go to the supermarket together or even travel abroad.
This high-scoring divorce variety show fire: no divorce for the sake of children, perhaps the best ending 01 Broken families, bring more harm to children 02 Don't take "for the sake of children" as a reason not to divorce 03 More important than not divorcing is how to deal with parent-child relationships after divorce
Someone asked Azka, "What is it like to live in a broken family?" ”
His answer was: "The family is not broken, although they are not husband and wife, they are still my father and mother." I enjoyed life like this, and they never quarreled anymore. ”
This high-scoring divorce variety show fire: no divorce for the sake of children, perhaps the best ending 01 Broken families, bring more harm to children 02 Don't take "for the sake of children" as a reason not to divorce 03 More important than not divorcing is how to deal with parent-child relationships after divorce
This high-scoring divorce variety show fire: no divorce for the sake of children, perhaps the best ending 01 Broken families, bring more harm to children 02 Don't take "for the sake of children" as a reason not to divorce 03 More important than not divorcing is how to deal with parent-child relationships after divorce
This high-scoring divorce variety show fire: no divorce for the sake of children, perhaps the best ending 01 Broken families, bring more harm to children 02 Don't take "for the sake of children" as a reason not to divorce 03 More important than not divorcing is how to deal with parent-child relationships after divorce
He doesn't even want his parents to get back together because he "wants everyone to be happy"!
This high-scoring divorce variety show fire: no divorce for the sake of children, perhaps the best ending 01 Broken families, bring more harm to children 02 Don't take "for the sake of children" as a reason not to divorce 03 More important than not divorcing is how to deal with parent-child relationships after divorce
As long as you can feel the love of both parents, this is not a broken family.
This high-scoring divorce variety show fire: no divorce for the sake of children, perhaps the best ending 01 Broken families, bring more harm to children 02 Don't take "for the sake of children" as a reason not to divorce 03 More important than not divorcing is how to deal with parent-child relationships after divorce
The parents are textbook divorces, and the fact that they are a lifelong couple does not affect them from becoming great parents.
Divorce is only the end of the relationship between husband and wife, not parent-child relationship. Co-creating a better environment and taking responsibility for raising children together is the most responsible way for children.
"The Road Few People Walk" said: "The love of parents determines the quality of family education." An education full of love brings luck, and an education without love can only lead to misfortune. ”
Don't kidnap children with adult things, don't endure misfortune for children, some people say: "Marriage is not necessarily for happiness, but divorce must be for happiness."
What do you think?
This high-scoring divorce variety show fire: no divorce for the sake of children, perhaps the best ending 01 Broken families, bring more harm to children 02 Don't take "for the sake of children" as a reason not to divorce 03 More important than not divorcing is how to deal with parent-child relationships after divorce
