Wen | Northern Su
The love of a married man, like a poppy, looks beautiful and only after accepting it is poisonous.
Love is like two people riding a roller coaster together, to be able to enjoy the joy of climbing together, but also to comfort and rely on each other when the rapid decline.
All love cannot have only its short-lived beauty, and ignore the trivialities and responsibilities of the details.
If a love does not start out "very good", even if the process is beautiful, it is difficult to ask it to fulfill the exclusive responsibility of that love.
Xiao Yan divorced three years ago, after the divorce has been a person with children to live, she thought very thoroughly after the divorce, no longer easily let herself give her heart to a man, and will no longer be like the ex-husband in love and marriage that will be silly because of love for a person and regardless of whether they will be good.
Xiao Yan originally thought that she herself had seen through the so-called love and marriage, and she would not let herself fall into the same mess as the previous marriage because of which person.
Last year, at a friend's wedding, Xiao Yan met Sun Hui, a mature and personable, humorous and principled man, at that time Xiao Yan did not think that she would have any kind of feelings with this person, but felt that after shaking hands with each other politely and adding WeChat to each other, somewhere in her heart suddenly warmed up a lot.
Why add WeChat, because in the process of chatting, Xiao Yan knows that this person and Xiao Yan are peers, and they are all acting as agents for certain brands in a shopping mall to do sales, get to know each other, and what may happen in the future may have a care for each other.
Although this reason is simple, they may all understand that under this reason, what disguises the mutual ambiguity and yearning between them adults is the yearning of their hearts.
The love between adults is no longer as shy as when they were young, but that feeling is still shy and throbbing, of course, this feeling between adults may also be more beneficial and purposeful than the love in youth.
Not long after contacting privately, they established a romantic relationship, Xiao Yan herself was frightened by herself, did not expect that she could overturn her previous principles and bottom line so quickly, so easily fall in love with a man who would not necessarily give him a future.
When Sun Hui and Xiao Yan were together, they solemnly promised that they were going through divorce procedures, because they and their wives had been incompatible for many years, and they had reached an agreement to divorce, that is, the children at home were not accepted for the time being, so they divorced after doing a good job of the child's ideological work.
Sun Hui is very good to Xiao Yan, he is excellent and handsome, considerate, careful, and cares about Xiao Yan's feelings, and said that if they remarry, he is very willing to raise him and Xiao Yan's children well together with Xiao Yan.
Xiao Yan, who has been in the empty window period for many years, was warmed by this man with temperature, and fell in love hopelessly, and envisioned a lot of pictures of marrying him in the future, two people and two children and a happy life.
Xiao Yan waited for this person for almost a year, and did not wait for him to divorce, at the beginning Xiao Yan still believed that he would do what he said, because the look in his eyes when he spoke to Xiao Yan was very sincere, so that Xiao Yan could not suspect that his feelings were fake.
However, slowly Xiao Yan always felt that something was wrong, because he gradually rarely mentioned the affairs of his family, and he would also start to perfunctorily ask Xiao Yan to meet.
When a man's attitude towards you in his relationship changes, making you suspect that he is starting to dislike you, then he is probably really not that much for you.
Xiao Yan began to become the active lover of their feelings, from the initial Sun Hui to her hospitality, slowly became Xiao Yan went to Sun Hui again and again to verify the fact that he still loved her.
A woman's attitude towards feelings will be obsessed with her own imagination, originally thought that she would not love, but fell in love with a husband with a wife, originally thought that she could slowly wait for him to divorce, and could slowly find herself immersed in a scam.
Xiao Yan was alone for a long time before he woke up, he did not divorce for a long time, maybe it was not the excuse he said, it was likely that from the beginning, she was just his prey, getting was the goal, and it was impossible to give her a marriage.
Xiao Yan asked Sun Hui for the last time, did not pester, did not repeatedly ask him if he loved or not, just said to Sun Hui, "If you do not divorce, then we can only break up", Sun Hui did not respond, just used a long silence to face Xiao Yan.
Xiao Yan knew that the day of the breakup really came, and it was the day when they would not interact with each other in the future, Xiao Yan did not understand this person and this inexplicable loss of love. But a man who loves you will not be silent, and a man who is silent under your questioning is the truth that he does not love you.
What Xiao Yan couldn't figure out most was that he was very in love at that time, but why couldn't he give up his marriage and say that he loved her?
I have to say that for a woman, sometimes the pain is indeed someone else's fault, but sometimes it is her own mistake.
In feelings, loving a person is a woman's freedom, but loving a person is a woman's wisdom,
Smart women know how to ensure that this person is worthy of their own love and worthy of their own faith before they begin to accept a person's pursuit and let themselves love someone fearlessly.
Sun Hui's initial feelings for Xiao Yan may have love, but it is difficult to say how much true love is in it.
For it is a man's sense of urgent need for marriage and the freshness of marriage, and the love and longing in his mouth are mostly related to his unsatisfied greed, and once this feeling is satisfied, he will quickly return to his sanity, and choose the former that is most beneficial to him in the face of marriage, interests and so-called love.
If a woman wants to make herself happier, she must stay away from the love of a married man, whether he is happily married or not, whether he really loves you or not.
The love of a married man should not be believed or believed, which is the most basic concept of love that a happy woman should have.