Summer is coming, the weather is getting hotter and hotter, many mothers choose to take their children to swimming pools, water parks and other places, thinking that they can cool down and exercise their children's bodies.
Unexpectedly, the locker room of the swimming pool also caused a storm because of the child.
On June 8, a netizen on Weibo posted that women brought their sons in the locker rooms of the swimming pool where she was located every day, all in their 10s, and that the boys were bathing with women. And self-exposure bath was peeked at by the boy, after feedback the staff said that it was still a small tube, and encountered the boy's mother counterattacked" "The child can't understand it, you are afraid to watch!" The boy was still laughing.
In fact, we have said this topic many times, and the heated discussion caused by "the prince's mother taking boys to the women's toilet" a while ago is also a similar problem. It's just that this time the little boy looks too big, right? Look at the size has reached the shoulders of adults.
Sure enough, the following netizens were scolded again:
Every time there was a discussion on the Internet about what boys were going into a place like a women's restroom, many people attacked the entire group.
Some are a last resort. Some are really giant baby parents with giant baby kids.
Judging from the picture, the child should be around 10 years old, such a child bathing and changing clothes by himself should be no problem, and the mother is not at ease, regardless of the feelings of other women to take the child to the women's locker room is to take a bath and change clothes.
On the bright side, it seems that the mother is very thoughtful about the child's care, afraid that the child will lose in public, but in fact, this excessive care is very harmful, one is that the child's independence has not been exercised, the second is not taken into account the feelings of others in public, and the third is because the parents' behavior of ignoring gender and privacy education will bring bad influence to the child, and even hurt others and hurt themselves.
Once I went to the gym, sweating profusely to take a shower in the bathroom after the end, highly myopic I suddenly saw a five- or six-year-old boy with his mother in a piece of water vapor, and I was really shocked.
In embarrassment and embarrassment, I quickly walked away and heard the boy still asking his mother: Are they all boys? Why can't I go to the men's bathroom and take a shower?
It's really not good at all for kids, really.
In principle, children have a clear gender consciousness after the age of 3. At the age of 4 or 5, they are full of curiosity about the gender characteristics of the opposite sex.
At this time, the child may be embarrassed that the opposite sex parent sees him bathe or go to the toilet, and will also notice that the opposite sex parents are different from their own.
Parents of the opposite sex take their children out, and there will indeed be many inconvenient places, such as public toilets, bathrooms, etc. But you can't try to make yourself convenient, just let others inconvenience.
Especially the bathroom is a public place, has its own rules, some will stipulate the age of the child, some will stipulate the height of the child, and some even strictly prohibit the child of the opposite sex into the bathroom.
Although it is inevitable that there is not enough humanity, but this is the rule, we all need to abide by, such a rule not only protects the privacy of the public, but also protects the healthy growth of children.
Yes, children of the opposite sex are not allowed in the bathroom, which is a kind of protection for children.
Because children should know that I can't just look at other people's "naked" or "body", and I can't be casually seen as "naked" or "body". Regardless of whether the other person's age is old or small, the gender is male or female, this is our privacy. (Except for visits to the hospital)
In the eyes of most parents, they always think that their children are still young and there is nothing wrong with entering the women's toilet.
But what they don't know is that their own practice is likely to lead to the child suffering from "gender dislocation".
In psychology, it refers to a person's psychological inability to identify with their biological sex and some misalignment symptoms that arise for this purpose.
In short, he will not know whether he is a man or a woman, whether to go to the men's toilet or the women's toilet, to go to the men's locker room or the women's locker room, of course, it will also have an impact on sexual orientation.
Soon, the topic of "children should learn to bathe themselves when they are three or four years old" was also on the hot search.
When a child starts bathing independently is actually not an exact standard, it all depends on whether the child is or has the ability to bathe independently. I think that three- and four-year-old children bathing alone still have certain safety hazards, and they need the assistance of same-sex parents as much as possible. However, the skill of bathing can be cultivated as soon as possible.
For example, when a child is three or four years old, he can learn from his parents how to wash his arms and legs, and he can learn to wash his hair. Some children at this age still have difficulties in overcoming the difficulty of washing their own hair. I remember when my sister was in elementary school, we both took a bath together, and she often asked me to see if the foam in her hair was rinsed clean. Therefore, for three- and four-year-old children, washing their hair is still a relatively difficult thing.
When the opposite sex bathes together, whether it is a child or an adult, when it feels awkward, then we need to take action, tell the child the reason for bathing himself or the man and woman bathing separately, with love and understanding, to help the child prepare.
"You're the big kid now, and the big kid has to take his own bath."
"The baby is grown up, it's a big boy, and the boy has to bathe with the boy."
The child has this awareness, you take him into the women's locker room, he himself will not be willing to enter, even the smallest child has shame.
Many mothers will say that they usually bring their children by themselves, so why can't they take their children to the toilet and go to the locker room?
1. Teach children to protect their privacy
When the child is very young, we must let him know that the private parts are not allowed to be seen by others, let alone touched by others. At the same time, I don't stare at people's eyes.
Let children know that their private parts are their own, and others are violating their rights by looking or touching them.
Parents can gradually help their children learn to clarify their own physical boundaries, telling children that sexual organs and private parts can only be touched by themselves and close people, and only when parents help you bathe or when the doctor checks the body. (To ensure safety, parents are present when the doctor examines.) ）
If you don't agree, other people's contact is a violation.
When the mother takes the boy to go swimming alone, in fact, you can wear the swimsuit in advance at home, and when you go to the swimming pool, the mother can find a relatively hidden place for the child to take off the coat, so that the child waits for the mother to change into the swimsuit at the door of the women's locker room. During this period, you can constantly talk to your child out loud to determine your child's dynamics.
Similarly, after swimming, the mother can bring a large bath towel, cover the corner to let the child change into the swimsuit, simply dry, change clothes and go home and take a bath.
If you are really forced to bring your son under the age of 3 into the women's locker room, you can tell the child: You are a boy, you should enter the men's locker room, but today's special circumstances, your mother took you into the women's locker room to change clothes, you can't look around, quickly change clothes We will go out. Be sure to explain that this is only a special case, not an example below.
2. Teach boys to learn to respect women
Respect for women, respect for women's bodies, is the most important lesson in boys' sex education.
Many boys may not have any gender concepts when they are young, he is simply curious to see the bodies of other women, and if the parents do not stop it, he will feel that he can take it for granted that he can see the bodies of the opposite sex.
Therefore, mothers with sons at home, when the child's gender consciousness germinates at the age of two or three, do not take off clothes and expose their bodies in front of the child. At the same time, tell the child: the mother is going to change clothes, the baby is a little boy, and you can't watch the girl change clothes.
The same is true when bathing, the mother can also help the child bathe, but it is not suitable for bathing together.
Why should we teach boys to respect women and care for women from an early age?
Because when he grows up, he will become a husband and become a father.
A boy who is full of love in his heart will love his family more when he grows up, and a boy who respects girls will not despise women and take advantage of them when he grows up.
We always emphasize that girls should protect their privacy and prevent being spied on outside, but the parents of boys should also pay attention, and they need to teach their children to respect women and avoid them appropriately.
The child is not the third sex, and the age of the child is not his "gold medal of exoneration".
So please don't take the child's young age as a reason why he can offend the opposite sex.
3. Appropriate improvement of public places
Public baths should be managed and optimized, with clear age rules for the opposite sex to enter the locker room (making instructions and guidance in advance before swimming, etc.); persuading older children and parents, or opening up independent areas if conditions permit.
Provide necessary assistance for children who really need to be cared for, such as providing family locker rooms, etc.
At present, there are already many humanized shopping malls in China, and I hope that it will become more and more popular in the future and achieve true "intimate care"!
Children's sex education should start from gender awareness.
Whether at home or outside, whether in the face of strangers or intimate parents, gender awareness must be cultivated from an early age.
Cultivating children's gender awareness from an early age is actually good for children and is conducive to the development of healthy personality qualities, styles, and behaviors that are suitable for their natural gender characteristics. It is also very beneficial for the healthy growth of children.