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The circle of friends is a kind of general reference represented by the WeChat circle of friends to show their recent situation on social platforms. With the increasing development of science and technology and people's pursuit of life efficiency, mobile phones occupy an increasing proportion of people's daily lives, of course, social phenomena such as "low-headed people" are also produced.
However, I have to admit that the existence of mobile phones, networks and social software, so that compared with the past, the cost of social interaction is greatly reduced, neither need to visit the door, nor use the phone, or even can not move, just move your fingers, you can roughly understand the general dynamics of the social circle around you, it can be said that there are advantages and disadvantages.
Civil servant, as the name suggests, is the abbreviation of state public officials. Maybe you'll be confused the first time you see the headline – what's the connection between civil servants and the circle of friends? There is actually a connection.
Because the civil servant group has a relatively high degree of homogeneity, as a group in society, their group nature is worth thinking about.
The act of "sending a circle of friends" may be dispensable or even meaningless in the eyes of ordinary people, but for civil servants, the social space represented by the "circle of friends" is actually very different from ordinary people. If you don't believe me, you can think about what kind of social platform is the social platform of your civil servant friends around you, is it "only three days visible" or nothing at all, or is it all work-related status?
This article analyzes the relationship between the civil servant group and the display of social status.
One thing to state in advance is that "staying away" does not mean really severing ties with them, but rather thinking about your relationship appropriately.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="11" > the sociological significance of publishing the circle of friends</h1>
As analyzed above, it is a normal social behavior to publish some social software status represented by the circle of friends.
Individuals are in groups, and different groups make up the whole society. The famous German philosopher and sociologist Jürgen Habermas has made a profound study of the social interaction of individuals, arguing that communication between individuals is based on real meaning, and if two or more parties want to communicate, they must understand the meaning of each other's words or actions.
To some extent, the existence of WeChat and the circle of friends is today's great development of the Internet and mobile devices, the interaction and public space in the social life of people.
In short, when you post a circle of friends, individuals in the social interaction space, including yourself, will see the message as "real", "meaningful", and "socially valuable".
I believe that everyone has also seen some friends: their circle of friends seems to be "live broadcasting" their own lives, hate can not show their experience every moment. Such behavior renders one's social interactions meaningless—frequently posted messages undermine the value of social content.
Therefore, we can think that those who do not even send the circle of friends, they may be aware of this, in their minds, their own release of dynamics is "meaningless", in other words, they are not willing to show their life situation to the outside world, at least not willing to show you. Maybe in their hearts, your value isn't too important.
In addition, people who are reluctant to post their circle of friends may have another mentality, they do not think that they are "worthless" to post these dynamics, but they are reluctant to show their true situation. "Like a person drinking water, cold and warm self-knowledge."
Some people may have a very good life, but they don't want to cause jealousy from the people around them, and they don't want people to feel that they are showing off; there are also some people who are not in a good life situation, but they don't want people to "see" themselves because of this, so they also intentionally hide their living conditions.
Regardless of the situation, people who deliberately restrain themselves from posting their circle of friends with this motivation are more thoughtful and think more deeply about many things.
So as friends, whether you want to help them or try to admonish them, you may experience some twists and turns. Therefore, in the process of social interaction, it is necessary to pay proper attention to the social distance between you.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="22" > the group characteristics of civil servants</h1>
Although this behavior of summarizing the characteristics of a class of people is somewhat "partial", there are many similar studies in social science research.
For example, the famous female anthropologist Ruth Benedict's "Chrysanthemum and the Knife" studied the national nature of Japan from the perspective of overall characteristics; Margaret Mead, who also wrote "The Gender and Temperament of the Three Primitive Tribes", analyzed the group characteristics of the three tribes of the South Island from a holistic perspective. Similarly, as a highly homogeneous group, civil servants share certain common characteristics.
Most of today's administrative organization systems are born in the West, and the more famous of the relevant theories is the German philosopher and sociologist, who is known as one of the "three great teachers of social sciences", Max Weber's research on the bureaucracy (bureaucracy).
The bureaucratic system is a system that emerged after the traditional and Karisma-type rule, along with the emergence of modern society. So people who are bound by this system will naturally have some similar characteristics.
We might as well try to think about the public servants around us and think about whether they really are like this. First, they tend to be more serious. Because the content of their work is often related to key actions such as administration, they generally bring a conscientious and responsible attitude into their daily lives; secondly, they will appear to be somewhat formal in their words and deeds.
Although life can't be hippie and smiling, it is not always a one-sided glance; in the end, most of them will be more talkative.
Because they are exposed to many policy matters in their work and often attend meetings, their desire to talk is relatively strong, and they often try to communicate their views with the people around them.
To sum up, for those public servants who have a rigorous language logic on the one hand, who have a certain view of everything in the world, and who have the desire to communicate with people, if their circle of friends does not have any dynamics, and even when some major social events occur, they are still silent, then it means that he may bury many feelings in his psychology.
But as for the nature of the buried ideas, it is also unknown to the outside world.
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参考资料：Collins, N. L., &Miller, L. C. (1994). Self-disclosure and liking: a meta-analytic review. Psychological Bulletin, 116(3), 457
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