The old saying often says: "The female eldest is not left in the middle", what is the second half of its sentence? A lot of people don't know!
China has a history of thousands of years, in the long history, each dynasty has left us a brilliant culture, but also the emergence of a very large number of literati rioters, they often drink together to discuss poetry, talk about the meaning and ideals of life, in many cultures, there is a kind of we often hear, that is, the colloquialism, the formation of these colloquialisms is the older generation through their own life experience, generation after generation of transmission to this day, because it is easy to remember, there is also a certain admonition meaning has been widely handed down, Today Xiaobian will tell you about the old saying: "Female adults are not left in the middle", what is the second half of its sentence? A lot of people don't know!
This saying is almost already known to everyone, everyone has heard it, now let's talk about the meaning of "female big is not in the middle", it is said that at home, their daughters will get married when they grow up, they can't accompany their parents, this old saying is from "Linjiang Yi Xiaoxiang Autumn Night Rain", it is about ancient times, we also know that people at that time were married very early, only fourteen or fifteen years old, because it was the feudal period, girls were in the house from childhood, rarely went out, every day at home is to be a female red, Because the women at that time were very low, there were requirements that they could not go to the street, they were stipulated in a small house since childhood, they did not know anything about everything that happened outside, they derailed from the society at that time, they had not seen anything in the world, so they could only listen to their parents, they even got married, they were given good by their parents, they had no right to speak, they were young, they had not seen several people, and they could only listen to their parents' arrangements, thinking that they could live better when they arrived at their husband's house. But there are three more virtues that require them to obey, and they must listen to their husband's words completely, and if they dare to disobey the slightest disobedience, which makes him angry, if it is serious, they will be suspended. Therefore, in order not to be suspended, they could only obey, and there was a law that was very unfair to them at that time, that is, any girl who was older than the age and had not yet married would be asked by the government to increase the tax.
When the Tang Dynasty, there was such a legal provision, men are required to marry at the age of 20, women must be 15 years old to marry, so there are legal requirements, at that time only 13-year-old girls are also married very much, at that time if there is a woman is more than 20 years old without marriage, is the older woman, is at home and in the neighborhood, will be ridiculed, so girls in only fourteen or fifteen years old, will be arranged by their parents to return to the family, marry to the designated family, can not stay with their parents, At that time, there was a "female big not staying in the middle". This sentence.
For this old saying, in fact, the second half of this sentence is what, in fact, is the essence of the part, but few people know, that is, "the female eldest does not stay in the middle, leaving a grudge", and "the female eldest does not stay, stay and stay to become a vendetta", etc., the meaning is the same, when a girl reaches the age when she can already marry but does not marry, so that she does not urge, let her not marry, for a long time, but will become an enemy with her daughter, will be resented by the daughter, our country in ancient times is very advocating filial piety to rule the country, If there is a girl, she is not willing to marry, that is, she is not filial to her parents, and if she is wrong, she will even have a vendetta.
Look at this old saying to illustrate, when a woman reaches the age of marriage, as a parent is also very reluctant, their daughter who has worked hard to raise, once married to a bad person, was treated badly, as a parent is very distressed, today Xiaobian told everyone about "the female big is not left", what is the second half of the sentence? Now everyone must know that these old sayings have a certain truth, these words can be handed down, indicating that there is a certain amount of experience, although it may not be adapted to today, but many are still very useful for reference and warning significance. What do you think?