Rural proverb: "Female big is not left in the middle" And the next sentence, very realistic, many people do not know
There are many classic sayings in rural China that tell a variety of life relationships. Rural sayings are easy to understand and rich in philosophy, and they are loved by the common people, and they will hang such sayings on their lips. This time, let's talk about a very classic rural saying: "Women are not left behind."
Presumably, many older women often hear this sentence from their parents, which is the feeling that their parents can't manage their daughters. Ordinary women need to get married when they reach a certain age, and if they do not marry, they will become a "big girl". Then they will be rejected by their families, and their children will have some other ideas and think back to marrying, so they will make the family less harmonious.
In ancient times, women had to marry at the age of thirteen or fourteen, why? Mainly because the population was relatively small in ancient times, the state encouraged more children to increase the labor force in order to enhance national strength, so many women married at a very young age. It is to be able to have more children, increase the population, and reduce the burden on the family.
In addition, in some special periods, if a woman is over sixteen years old and has not yet married, the imperial court will punish such a family and increase the family's taxes. Therefore, in order to reduce the burden on the family, many women marry at a very early age. Another reason is that in ancient times, medical conditions were not developed, so if you marry late and become an elderly mother, it is easy to have unexpected situations. Because of the influence of this custom at the beginning, many women began to think about marrying when they were sixteen or seventeen years old, hoping to meet a ruyi langjun. This is the reason why "women are not left in the middle".
But many people only know this sentence, and do not know that behind this sentence, there is another sentence called: "Leave a grudge", that is, girls should marry out when they reach a certain age, if they have to stay at home, they will have conflicts with their families. Such a thing is very bad, and it is easy to cause discord in the family. This is a very realistic truth.
Therefore, at the age of starting a family, we should let go of the constraints on our children and let them bravely seek their own happiness. Bravely starting a new family is the best way. Because this is a process that must be experienced in life, parents should give their children enough blessings at this time. If forced, it will only be counterproductive. This is the explanation of this saying, "Women do not stay in the middle, leaving a grudge", I don't know what everyone thinks of such a saying? Welcome to leave a message to discuss, thank you for watching.