[Consultation] I beat up my boyfriend with a child, and he said to transfer the money, and there was not a penny. Later, I didn't believe it before, but I found out later, on the second day of my abortion surgery, when I couldn't stand the stomach pain at 12:00 a.m. to get painkillers and couldn't find him, he talked and laughed with a girl we knew in the game, and generously transferred 1800 yuan to the female student flower, I was angry at the time, and the student sister had a big fight, she said that she had a boyfriend, 2 people said it was okay. Being so generous to friends of the opposite sex, thinking about his kindness to me at the beginning and his performance after beating the child, it is really fate to joke with me, huh. Now tell me that there is no money for me, said to turn in mid-April, I asked him why he agreed to turn at that time, he said he did not want to really be pregnant casually said, Oh, what do I have to lie to him? Maybe the communication was not right at that time, I am afraid that he is now casually saying, what to do? I'm so confused right now, I think my boyfriend must have felt that I still feel a little bit about him now, and will lie to me again. But my heart, during this time, has also been scarred Oh, can no longer believe in love, feel a little inferior, not good-looking, very depressed, every time I think of him so generous to female students, I can say that there is no money for him to beat the fetus, the abdomen hurts, the uterus is not well recovered, the mood is very low, the mood is not good, am I depressed? I found him a lot of feelings, my mood, our previous, I used to look forward to him, want to work with him to achieve the promise, but he did not return to me, said you have a good rest on the line, I probably know what this, but I have always felt that his heart is not bad, will also be soft, ask him what is wrong with us now, he said he does not know, may not dare to say that it is impossible to be afraid of stimulating me, you say what can we do now?
【Chestnut sister comments】There is no money to do a miscarriage for the girlfriend, but there is money to transfer 1800 yuan to the girl who knows in the game, and such a scumbag is rare. Don't hit the south wall and don't turn back, hit the south wall and pretend to be a confused girl, scumbags are your standard. Because you don't know how to cherish your body or respect your feelings. Go to bed without a condom, do not turn back in the pit, the scumbag can't deceive the wisdom sister, you can only play with your mentally handicapped little sister!
【Consultation】Chestnut sister, the cheating man is really disgusting, oh, I can't face it, what to do? (I can't get married for a while and a half)
【Chestnut sister comments】I think the cheating man is disgusting, there is no way to face it, you can vomit! A woman who can't afford to divorce and can't accept men cheating can only endure internal injuries except to survive. To give an inappropriate example, you are hungry for seven days and have nothing to eat, and you choose between starvation and eating pig food. I believe that most people will endure nausea while eating. Therefore, women must not live like they will starve to death without men!
[Consultation] I am 33 years old, have a daughter, and my husband has been married for 5 years, we have been arguing together for 5 years, the usual feelings are general, he does not know how to care about people, and does not like to do housework, we live with his parents, his mother does not let him do anything at home, clothes to reach out and open his mouth, he discusses everything with his mother, never consults with me, I sometimes feel depressed and say a few words to him, he is anxious, and I quarrel, sometimes I start to beat him, he fights back, I have been completely desperate, Financially as long as I think I have money, he has never given me financial help, but in order to give my daughter a complete home, I have been putting up with it, you say, should I get a divorce?
[Chestnut sister comments] Since you live with your in-laws, your husband does not work, about the housework and child care things are basically contracted by the in-laws, and you only bear a small part. The two of you live in your in-laws' room and eat your in-laws' meals, and your husband naturally consults with your parents everywhere. You say that you have no money for money, no room for money, no courage for divorce, and hope that your husband will not fight back and scold and not return the mouth, is this not a dream?
【Consultation】 Chestnut sister Hello, last night with the husband quarreled, I want to ask you to analyze whose right and wrong, first of all, I and my husband situation, we have been married for 10 years, there are two children a boy and a girl, pregnant with the second two before that is, in 2016 we bought the second suite, the down payment spent all our savings, and then the monthly payment was 4200 yuan, after buying basically I am paying off the mortgage, there are various expenses of living expenses, the husband has money in his hands, there are also expenses, because the husband is unstable, The company always can't pay wages, often no money in hand, I have opened a small shop for 5 years to do business, the business is good, the money is more flexible, during this period the burden of the family I think I bar more than him, he never said a word of gratitude to me, think this is all deserved, I because of his attitude in the heart also have emotions, so he also got angry, just last April he changed a company, even if the salary is timely, then it is good that he took the mortgage past monthly repayment, This point I am still comfortable and relaxed, I also saved some money, the family of six people living expenses I am out, 2 children and 2 old people with us to see the children, so that we 6 people, the cost is not less, the boss to go to primary school costs less, is to go to cram school to spend some money, but these various costs of life are not less, at least not less than the husband I think. This year's business is not good because of the coronavirus, these months I not only can not earn money, but also may lose some rent, just in time to pay car insurance, husband to pay, because it is my name, said that I can only pay it myself, he WeChat said to me I also paid, go home and ask me if it is because I pay car insurance is not happy, I said you give me again, he said I will give you ah, this car I think are used by my husband at work, car insurance should also be responsible for him, so the next day I asked him how he did not transfer car insurance to me, he was very angry, Saying that I was too worried about money, I originally wanted to pay me a salary next month, I said don't you have money in Alipay? He said he didn't want to move the money in the balance treasure, I said just ask you if you can't do it, he said he shouldn't ask, I said that the car is basically he should drive him to pay this car insurance, this sentence makes him even more angry, he said that this is common property, said that the car is used to make money for the family, said that I look at the money too heavy and too calculated, so we quarreled and got angry, Chestnut Sister troubled you to analyze whose right and wrong, thank you!
[Chestnut sister comment] car insurance is at most two or three thousand yuan, you can argue like this, indicating that you are too calculating. Your husband is right, everything in the family is common property, husband and wife earn money to spend together, do not need to calculate every penny. You are not only a problem of taking money too seriously, but mainly because you have low emotional intelligence, do not deal with things, do some hard work and do not complain, pay while paying, while nagging, one mouth will pay your hard work all the failure.
[Consultation] I have been with my boyfriend for two years intermittently, and my parents and relatives do not like it, for many reasons, such as family conditions and his family hygiene. I didn't want to give up on him, but the disagreement of my parents and loved ones made me very embarrassed, and I didn't know what I should do for the relationship. And very confused, he had a bad temper when he had a conflict with me, said a few dirty words, I forgave him a few times, he did not change, which also made me more afraid inside. I looked for the fortune teller and said that I would not get over it with him, I was half-convinced, I still believed that fate was in my own hands. There's also the problem that I think if he buys a house, maybe my parents and relatives will agree to be with him, but I don't know if this idea can be realized.
【Chestnut sister comments】 As the saying goes, children are not by the mother, and women are not left behind. When encountering emotional problems, most daughters will disobey their parents' opinions and insist on thinking that they are fighting for love. In fact, most of the parents in this world oppose their daughter's marriage, all for the sake of their daughter's good. They are not trying to get their daughters to marry the rich, thinking that they can follow the light, they are actually not seeing their spoiled daughters marry into poor families and suffer.
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