As the saying goes, "a woman is not left behind, stay and stay to leave a vendetta", this sentence was very popular in the past, it means that the daughter is old, it is time to marry, can not stay at home all the time, otherwise it will remain as an enemy. Isn't that a bit heavy? Can't a daughter stay home when she's older?
Men should marry, women should marry, since ancient times. When the daughter is older, the parents are busy telling the daughter that the in-laws are family, and the parents definitely do not hate the daughter and go out to beat them up. I just want my daughter to have a good home and a good life as soon as possible.
"The female eldest does not stay in the middle, stays and stays to leave a vendetta" is not to say that parents regard their daughters as a burden and quickly marry out. This is the unspeakable suffering of parents.
The daughter is older and cannot stay, which is based on the situation of the traditional Chinese family. There should be two reasons for this.
First, it is easy to have conflicts with brothers and sisters
When the daughter is older, the parents must quickly marry the daughter out and keep it hard, and after a long time, the daughter will have conflicts with the brothers and sisters in the family. In the past, in the countryside, the family's property was generally not related to the daughter, and the division and inheritance of property was only carried out between brothers.
If the daughter is older, married and still stays at home, it is a bomb. Although parents do not worry about their daughters fighting for property, it will cause dissatisfaction among siblings. This is especially evident in families with many brothers and sisters, and if the eldest or second eldest does not marry out quickly, it will affect the brothers and sisters behind them to find the right image and get married.
Now, this situation is more likely to cause contradictions in inheritance. Although in rural areas, most people marry their daughters and do not compete for their mother's property. But at the legal level, daughters have the right to inherit. It's okay to marry out, you're not at home, and you won't fight with your brothers. However, if you get married and stay at home and don't leave, this will cause the dissatisfaction of the brothers, stay in the mother's house for a long time, and easily lead to the woman's idea of competing for property.
Therefore, the daughter quickly marries out, and when married, she cannot stay at home for a long time, so as to avoid unnecessary family conflicts.
Second, there is a conflict with the parents
The female eldest does not stay in the middle, stays and stays to leave a vendetta. What is said here is that the daughter is older and quickly finds someone to marry. Can't get used to her, reluctant to marry out. When you are old and can't get married, you will have conflicts with your parents.
In the past, most of the children's marriages were decided by the parents, the daughter was satisfied, the parents were not satisfied, and the parents were in love with each other, and the daughter was not satisfied. In this way, the more procrastination is more and more difficult to find, it will make many girls reach the age when they should marry and still can't find a partner, becoming an old girl. As a result, the daughter has written all the resentment on her parents, can she not have contradictions?
Moreover, when the girl reaches the age and does not get married, others will laugh at the parents and not say, and the girl will also attract gossip, and even think that there is something wrong with the girl, and the sending will have a great psychological burden on the girl, and some will also have the appearance of the woman's mental problem, and finally this will make the parents regret it.
Therefore, no matter what the reason, if the daughter is old and still delays in marrying, parents must pay attention to it, and they must quickly think of letting their daughter marry out, and cannot stay at home. Otherwise, it will eventually affect yourself and your family, and you may become a "hater".
Having said all this, we can understand the reason why the female eldest does not stay in the middle, and stays to stay and leave a vendetta. There's actually some truth to that. When the daughter grows up, she will eventually marry someone who will leave her parents.
As a parent, especially a parent in modern society, you must respect your child's choice, of course, you can also make suggestions, and your ideas are right, but you must not forcibly obstruct it, and you must go with the flow. Girls grow up and have their own ideas, it's normal, and parents must not give up their children's right to find love and happiness for their own wishes. Otherwise, there will be contradictions.
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