For many young people in rural areas, it is very common to arrange blind dates at home during the New Year's Festival. Although blind date is a common way in marriage, for the younger generation of post-90s or post-00s, blind dates seem to be too old-fashioned; it is also easy to equate "marriage" with "interests", so many post-90s or post-00s are more resistant to blind dates.
There are many colloquialisms in the countryside, and the colloquialism is one of the familiar phrases, which refers to the conventional, widely popular, and concise sentences. In a broad sense, colloquialisms include proverbs, post-pause (quotations), idioms and idioms commonly used in speech, but do not include dialect words, colloquial words, idioms in written languages, or famous sayings and aphorisms in famous works;
In a narrow sense, colloquialisms are one of the language classes with their own characteristics, which are different from proverbs and post-break languages, but some colloquialisms are between several. The sources of colloquialisms are very wide, not only from the oral creations of the masses of the people, but also related to famous verses, aphorisms and warnings, historical allusions, etc. However, in the mouths of many rural parents, they often chant such a rural saying, "Women are not left in the middle", and the second half of the sentence is the essence, which is the heartfelt words of the ancestors!
A complete proverb is: "Female adults do not stay in the middle, stay and stay to stay into a vendetta", the first half of the sentence "female adults do not stay in the middle" is estimated that many people have heard of it, but the second half of the sentence "stay and stay to stay into a vendetta" is ten people and nine do not know; why do rural parents have such a statement? The reasons are nothing more than the following:
First, parents are too aggressive
Speaking of parents, many people must think of the phrase "poor parents in the world"; it is precisely because many parents have experienced many ups and downs, so they are particularly worried about the growth of their children.
Especially for the daughter, it can be said that "holding it in the hand is afraid of falling off, and holding it in the mouth is afraid of melting!" Therefore, many parents are too strong in their communication with their daughters; this strength will lead to the following two situations:
In the first case, the daughter submits to the "arrangement" of the parents, but the marriage is not happy
Once the daughter advocates free love, the parents "pick and choose" excessive interference, then it will lead to a gap between the two generations; if the daughter reluctantly agrees to the parents' arrangement, the future marriage is unhappy, then the daughter will complain more about the parents, and even "resentful".
In the second case, the daughter refuses to submit to the "arrangement" of the parents, resulting in becoming an "older leftover girl"
There are also some girls whose personality is "soft on the outside and tough on the inside", so when such girls face the "coercion" of their parents, they often resist the pressure and never give in. However, this situation will also lead to girls gradually becoming "leftover women".
Once this happens, then the girl will also have an "opinion" on the parents! Therefore, there will be such a saying, that is, "the female eldest does not stay in the middle, stays and stays to stay and become a vendetta"!
Second, there is the limit of women's "reproductive age"
We often say "poor parents in the world", most parents are more "strong" to their daughters, and there is one of the main reasons, that is, women have "childbearing age" restrictions.
Parents worry that once their daughter does not find herself at the best age, then as time goes on, her chances of having a good marriage will become less and less. Therefore, it will be said that "the female eldest does not stay in the middle, stays and stays to stay and become a vendetta"!
In summary, the reason why the ancients had the saying that "women do not stay in the middle, stay and stay to stay as enemies" is actually based on the heartfelt words summarized from life experience. For today's parents, when facing the marriage of their children, they must grasp the measure, neither let it go, nor can they be too strong.
For a family, parents do their duty, children understand their parents' concerns, and everyone can perform their duties. After all, "children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren"!