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Know your true self

Carnegie said that every normal person, analyzed, has three "I."

The first I was "the animal me.". The "animal me" must be achieved for two purposes: one is to preserve oneself, and the other is to preserve the race. To preserve himself, he wants to eat; to preserve the race, he wants sex.

The second I am "the social me." The "animal me" is ignorant of compassion, love and cooperation, so the education we receive in childhood is to domesticate our animal roots and establish the concept of compassion, love and cooperation, and the product of this domestication is the "social me".

The third me is "the personal me." This is the product of the mind, because each of us receives a different experience of production, and the concept of security and pleasure has its own characteristics. Each person's character and personality are the tools for the development of each person's personal security and happiness.

A normal and happy person is a community formed by the combination of the three "I's" mentioned above. Such men and women do not deny that they have certain animal characteristics, but they also change the needs of primitiveness and conform to the moral standards of the crowd society. However, Carnegie believes that there are not many normal people who are truly fully successful, and most people are not fully domesticated, but will commit various sins or develop certain feelings of guilt. All inner contradictions are contradictions of the three "I's." The recent incident of Li Yundi's prostitution can be said to be the result of the dominance of the animalistic Li Yundi.

Some people have domesticated the "animal me" very well and will never dominate his personality, but in his heart, he often feels bitter, because the survival of the individual is often the survival of animals. If the "animal me" is overly suppressed, anxiety and depression will arise.

There are also some people, because the "personal me" can not reconcile with reality, the heart is also full of contradictions. For example, a young woman who feels that she is not noble enough, but wants to be a saint in front of the world. Her standard of being a saint is not only incompatible with her "animal me", but also contradicts her "social me". Her desire to eat color and her need to be a saint dueled, and her heart suffered.

There are many kinds of contradictions in life. Between the desires of the "animal me" and the decrees of the "social me", between one's own standing and responsibility to one's parents and the state, between cruelty and being loved, between nobility and pride, between bravery and security, between loyalty and amorousness, between desperately accumulating wealth and spending money and enjoying, all of these are self-contradictory.

Once people have inner contradictions, life will be very distressed and unhappy, and there will often be neurasthenia, indigestion, insomnia, fear of seeing others, fear of talking to authoritative people, and depression. If you want to make your body and mind happy and sound, you have to resolve your inner contradictions.

Carnegie did not provide any specific cure for healing inner conflicts. He had two suggestions: first, go buy books to read, especially the relevant books written by psychiatrists, read and study carefully, and solve your troubles and misfortunes from there; second, start fundamentally, first figure out the reasons for your contradictions. Carnegie said: "Recognize the animal nature that enables you to survive, contain the social standards of survival, and then adapt personal desires to the real environment." In this way, we can avoid all kinds of contradictions and get real pleasure and happiness in life. ”

I'm half-convinced of Carnegie's claims. I think that a life with contradictions is a truly real life. If you really want to reduce or eliminate the contradictions in life, then you should not have any hope or desire. You'd better get out of the empty door.

In fact, the way to heal or deal with your inner contradictions is the same way that Carnegie once said, which is to accept the inevitable reality and recognize the universality of contradictions. You should probably think so, because with the contradictions, my life is so colorful. As long as your contradiction is a "contradiction among the people," let it exist. You tell me?