"When I was young, I said that meeting you was like wading through a mountain and meeting a round of moon, and after dark and sad, I asked to borrow a little moonlight that day."
Writer Zhang Jiajia wrote in his new book "Paradise Tour Group" that it is still a familiar taste, a familiar healing system, with a gentle pen to tell the story, from the perspective of ordinary people Song Yili, writing about the various struggles of feelings, writing about the difficulties and hopes of life.
In this world, no emotion is wasted, and the good and bad are all landscapes. The sooner you understand the truth of these feelings, the better:
First, it is easy to love each other and difficult to get along with
Like many people, the relationship between Song Yili and Lin Yi began with a chance encounter in the university and entered the palace of marriage from the campus.
Young Song Yili does not understand that the matter of feelings can not be blamed on anyone, bread and love, sometimes can not be both, you can never keep a person who has changed his heart, happiness can not be forced.
Song Yi carp only enjoyed a happy life of newlywed marriage for half a year, and began to suffer from the beatings of life.
First of all, the mother accidentally suffered from cerebral infarction, often delirious, and even incontinence, Song Yili had to quit his high-paying job and take over the small restaurant run by his mother alone, just to facilitate the care of his mother, and the family's economic conditions deteriorated.
His wife Lin Yi could not stand this kind of life, chose to run away from home, and then regularly communicated with Song Yili through text messages, and the content of the text messages was all to ask Song Yili to agree to divorce.
What is even more uncomfortable is that in order to let her son have a future, the mother seeks short-sightedness, only to reduce the burden and fight for insurance for her son. Fortunately, Song Yili's mother was rescued, but she was paralyzed.
Song Yili was not willing to be teased by life, depressed, and had a car accident in a trance moment, and was injured and admitted to the hospital, fortunately the injury was not serious.
Emotional things are the most untestable. From another perspective, it is true that everything is forgivable.
Lin Yi wants to live a life that is easier and less stressful, is she at fault? From the snack bitter, she did not want to live a life without hope.
Inappropriate feelings should be stopped in time, and letting go is the last tenderness. Since the future plans of two people cannot coincide, why bother to entangle.
Second, while losing, you will gain
Song Yili has become depressed since encountering a series of changes in his life, and he has used the money from the sale of the restaurant and the old house to give his mother a nursing home, and then he has been looking for an opportunity to get a hundred.
He was bent on dying, but a 7-year-old girl in the hospital who was related to him was bent on living.
This little girl is called Xiao Ju, smart and clever, especially precocious, but she has an incurable disease.
Xiao Ju accidentally got into Song Yi carp's van and let Song Yi carp take her to see the idol's concert, and encountered many things along the way.
It is the existence of Xiaoju that makes Song Yili feel that it is really good to be alive, and life does not have the despair of his own thoughts. Lost love, but gained affection.
Speaking of which, Xiao Ju also saved him twice. The first time, Xiaoju exchanged Song Yili's sleeping pills for candy, which led to the failure of Song Yili's plan; the second time, when Song Yili was about to drive into the lake in a van, Xiaoju suddenly appeared in the back seat of the car and stopped him, asking him to drive himself to the concert, breaking Song Yili's desire to take his life.
Every ordinary person's life is devastated, and it only takes a little sweetness to alleviate a lot of bitterness.
The small gathering is the little sweetness of Song Yi carp, or the glimmer of light, which illuminates the bleak road ahead.
Song Yili really should thank this little girl, he is also a blessing in disguise, in a corner of Song Yili's heart, there will always be a place for a small gathering.
There is no night that cannot survive, life is a train that cannot be stopped, some people get off the train, and some people get on the train. Some people have left you, and some people have crossed you.
Third, how many feelings are ruined by too little contact
Because of a joke by Song Yili, Chen Yan's assistant Qingqing decided to go to find her boyfriend who she had not seen for a long time, wanting to surprise him, not thinking that her boyfriend had a new love, which meant that Qingqing's long-distance love for many years had blown.
The boyfriend even said that he wanted to confess to Qingqing, but Qingqing was so busy that he didn't answer the phone at all, and he couldn't say a few words when he answered the phone, either for a meeting or a business trip. This is how disappointment is formed bit by bit, so that it becomes such a situation.
Qingqing could not accept that the house that had been renovated with her boyfriend now had nothing to do with herself, she took out a few boxes of luggage that belonged to her, and then turned to leave.
Qingqing's boyfriend must be at fault first, but it does not mean that Qingqing's attitude towards feelings is worth advocating.
She always puts her work first, her feelings behind, and disappoints her other half again and again. Even the best feelings need to be connected, need to be communicated, and there are moments when you are not present and you can no longer make up for it.
Qingqing's story tells us: good feelings, without timely communication, will fade.
Whether you like to admit it or not, feelings are destined to leave a strong mark on our lives.
Everyone has their own emotional propositions, or love, or family affection or friendship.
Accepting calmly and keeping hope is the most wonderful way to live. Being alive is the best philosophy, and every experience is worth savoring. You can't change the ending of the story, but you can choose to act out the play until the end.
Suddenly I thought of what Zhang Ailing said: "Not loving is a lifetime of regret, and love is a lifetime of tribulations." ”
Want regret or tribulation? It depends on how you choose.
Finally, I would like to end with a sentence in the book: "This is all that is in the world, whether life or love, is not eternal." The cycle goes on and The meaning of existence is not how long, but how it exists. ”
There are no tours in heaven, and there are people at the end of the world who will meet for the rest of their lives and never disperse.
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