Foreword: No matter what age a woman is, she hopes to meet a man who truly loves and cares for her on the emotional road. Choosing a partner that suits you and moving further into marriage is not an easy task.
Especially after a certain period of time and a marriage, it is more difficult for women to find someone to accompany them.
A 43-year-old woman remarried, originally thought that the marriage in front of her was a godsend, who knew that she regretted it in just one month, she also said that she was afraid of dark now.
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My name is Ash and I've had a failed marriage.
It wasn't until the moment I signed the divorce agreement that I truly accepted this terrible fact.
I never thought that the original honest and reliable man, in the end, since he was hopelessly addicted to gambling, repeatedly chased after the door by the creditor, let me know that such a day can no longer be lived.
Once my ex-husband and I started a family from scratch, relying on some money from my mother's family, opened a small factory, and then slowly developed and grew, and began to do the export business.
At that time, others would praise me for marrying well and praising my husband's ability, and I was also satisfied in this sentence of flattery.
Unfortunately, last year, for well-known reasons, many enterprises, especially export enterprises, could not support it, and we were no exception.
In the end, the sale that should be sold, the break that should be broken, the husband has become depressed.
When a person reaches middle age, the career he suddenly established collapses in an instant, and he no longer has confidence in life, and he is also addicted to gambling at that time.
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From the very beginning of tens of thousands, to hundreds of thousands, and then to hundreds of thousands, like a bottomless pit has been paying back money, his repeated confessions have also made me numb.
He and I completely broke off relations. I thought that divorcing in middle age would end up alone in the future, but the fate thing was very clever.
His name is Ah Hua and he is a salesman in my friend's shop. After a chance encounter, he pursued me.
Counting the ages, he was 16 years younger than me, and I quipped that I was about to be your mother.
But he said that age should not be the distance of love, as long as two people are in harmony, everything is not a problem.
To be honest, there is a man in his 20s who pursues himself, his heart is still very happy, there is an illusion, he is still very young, and he is beautiful and attractive.
He was constantly infecting me, taking me to niche restaurants, taking me to popular attractions, taking me to camping...
His various actions made me feel fresh and novel, and I gradually got used to his company, and I believed that he was sincere to me.
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A few months later, we got married. But happiness comes and goes quickly.
Soon after I got married, I noticed a change in him. He no longer circled around me every day, and any dissatisfaction was thrown at will.
His habits are unacceptable to me, ordering takeout when he is hungry, sleeping when he is tired, and never cleaning up dirty.
What I can't accept the most is his "youth". He told me that since I was married, I didn't want to go out and do sales work anymore, and he asked me to support him in starting a business.
I asked him what he wanted to do, but he didn't plan anything, saying that he liked to play games and open a game-themed hotel.
I didn't understand, he didn't say it, and in the end it didn't work.
Besides, the biggest fear I have with him is the night.
At night, after eating takeout, he either lay on the couch and played mobile games, or went to the room to play games on the computer, and he could play until two or three o'clock in the morning, and the noise from time to time made me unable to sleep.
Now that I have been married to him for only a month, I regret that this kind of married life is not what I want, and I don't know where to go in the future.
Conclusion: Ah Shi herself is not short of money, and in the eyes of some younger brothers, she is even a rich woman with some assets.
Although her external possessions are her advantages, they are also "stumbling blocks" on her emotional road, and some men do not hesitate to obtain each other's belongings through feelings in order to meet their own interests and needs, just like Ah Hua.
So no matter what age a woman is at, when facing love and marriage, she may wish to ask herself more whether the other party is really worthy of trust, whether she is really familiar with his character, have more time to investigate, and avoid making regretful decisions and crying without tears.