The divorce theme program "Goodbye Lover" is too powerful, and when the show ends, our observation focus is no longer on whether the three couples will get back together. We see more of their own confusion and thinking in them.
For example, Zhu Yaqiong, Wei Wei and Zhang He can be seen that they are all people who long for the affirmation of their partners. Zhu Yaqiong had been seeking Lao Wang's affirmation of her love and ability, and Wei Wei was seeking Tong Chenjie's affirmation of his manly strength. Zhang He sought Guo Keyu's affirmation of his love and ability in the past decade.
Netizens began to doubt Zhu Yaqiong and Wei Wei's life giant baby, and slowly began to understand and encourage them. Later, when I saw the program, I didn't understand and tolerate Zhang He, who was also seeking affirmation.
In marriage, the party seeking affirmation from the partner is generally more likely to gain sympathy and understanding, and people always sympathize with the weaker party.
What kind of affirmation are Zhu Yaqiong, Wei Wei and Zhang He seeking in their respective marriages? What reflection do we get from their marriage?
Watching "Goodbye Lover" is a humble complaint from Zhu Yaqiong wearing a wedding dress, and she did not even wear a wedding dress when she got married.
She wore a white wedding dress alone, and stood with her first love and ex-husband Wang Qiuyu on a cold night.
When she burst into tears and hugged Wang Qiuyu together, she only felt that this woman was too pitiful, and in order to love humble to such an extent that she did not get a basic request.
In later travels, Wang Qiuyu made many accusations and verbal violence against her, and even belittled her favorite singing career.
She seems to have completely lost her self-confidence and keeps asking, "Do I have nothing to encourage you?"
Her sadness is like Guo Keyu said, why a person needs to give to himself.
We sympathized with her and were furious at the same time. The point is that we found that Wang Qiuyu is not completely devoid of love for her, but does not express it and uses more actions to give love.
Such as taking care of her safety, taking care of the children, helping her find a camera, etc. Zhu Yaqiong herself has the problem of being too self-conscious of others.
What is valuable is that although Zhu Yaqiong lost herself in marriage, she knows how to actively seek to break the situation and heal and grow.
She and Wang Qiuyu participated in the marriage observation program together to show the real state of getting along with her ex-husband. Even if it's so real.
When she opens her heart to ask tong Chenjie, Guo Keyu, kk and others for help, she will seriously accept and change her behavior for their suggestions.
She no longer cares about singing and solving by herself, and strives to move with everyone and learn to listen.
She was no longer often late. Instead, try to get involved in the game as early as possible.
She even began to feel the feelings of the people around her, to comfort them.
In the extravaganza after the show, Zhu Yaqiong's maturity can be seen with the naked eye, although she has just learned to understand others from innocence, which is a bit unnatural. 、
We see that she comforts Wang Qiuyu, who is crying next to her, and Guo Keyu, who is difficult to get rid of her emotions. She thanked the program team and guests.
Zhu Yaqiong, who was immersed in her own world, stepped out of Wang Qiuyu's control and protection, lived alone, and began to become calm, confident and gentle.
Sincere and modest Zhu Yaqiong, with a kind and grateful heart, we see that she is on the way out of herself and into the world.
Wei Wei's remarks on the show that he did not cook caused controversy among many people.
He said that not cooking himself was to give his wife the opportunity to take care of herself, which was an expression of love.
It may be understandable in the eyes of some people, but speaking out with great fanfare at the dinner table will make the wife very aggrieved. It seems that her efforts have not been recognized and appreciated by her husband.
Wei Wei also felt aggrieved, and his arguments were not recognized by one person, including his very tolerant wife Tong Chenjie.
When he drank on the show and left the dinner table twice, netizens' dissatisfaction with him reached its peak.
Not only did he not cook for granted, but he also drank heavily, could not control his emotions, and actually left the dinner table like a child.
The most exaggerated, in the end, the wife first bowed her head to comfort him.
Isn't this just a giant baby?
However, this person who lives like a giant baby and wants to escape when he meets everyone working is the person who can most adjust the atmosphere when everyone is together.
Wei Wei is the atmosphere of the awkward journey of three divorced couples, and this identity is not easy.
He needs to ask a somewhat awkward question, hit the soul, and ease the embarrassment.
He would immediately accept the steps when his wife talked to him.
He would communicate with Wang Qiuyu and Zhu Yaqiong separately to ease the conflict.
He would be very patient and encourage Tong Chenjie to ride a bicycle, like a very warm father.
The best part is his later changes and growth.
When the show was over, he started working out and cooking.
As he himself said, cooking is an expression of love, and he expressed his love to Tong Chenjie in this way.
He is willing to take a step first, drink less and work out more and cook.
Why can he be so active in changing with action?
One is because he has love in his heart, and another reason comes from the positive encouragement of his partner.
Although Tong Chenjie will say that he is a child, she will actively affirm him.
She said, your barbecue is awesome, she said, your acting skills will definitely become a movie emperor.
The happiness of the other two of Wei Weibi's guests is that he seeks to be sure to be sincere and express it in a language he is good at, and he can also get a positive response from his wife who is equally emotionally intelligent.
When Wei Wei received the affirmation of his partner, he had a strong motivation to actively change.
In the extras of the show, the changes are visible to the naked eye, and the appearance is very good, not greasy, but also very handsome. It's healthy and proactive to change the way life looks.
How could such a Wei Wei not gain everyone's encouragement and recognition?
Zhanghe has also changed.
He contributed a highlight moment on the show.
A little afraid of heights, but climbed the cliff and shouted loudly, hoping that in the future days, his ex-wife Guo Keyu would live like his favorite, and he wanted his son to know that his parents loved him.
Because of this highlight moment, netizens began to expect him and his ex-wife Guo Keyu to remarry.
We also saw him as a thoughtful and loving partner.
He would care about the warmth and cold of his ex-wife, and the teacup would be empty to fill her up.
He would ask the painter to draw the most accurate details of his ex-wife's face.
He would take his wife with him on a motorcycle ride and ride a camel.
He would also be jealous of his wife's conversations with Uighur boys.
He even invited his third aunt to talk about remarriage.
No matter how he looks at him, he cares about his ex-wife and is a thoughtful and loving partner.
When Zhang He asked his ex-wife Guo Keyu, what is our decade?
When he asked, why have you never seen me play all these years?
Initially, we were full of sympathy for this man who sought the affirmation of his partner like Zhu Yaqiong. Isn't it sad to be married for ten years without getting affirmation from your partner?
However, we found that Guo Keyu had obviously been praising Zhang He, whether it was an interview or a group of people. She praises Zhanghe for taking good care of her when she was pregnant, and praises Zhanghe for encouraging her to be at home and that he can support the family alone. She also praised Zhanghe for his bluntness and integrity.
When she said the problem between the two people, she said that I couldn't give what he wanted, and I didn't want to go to his world.
In this way, it is understood that the difference between Zhang He and Zhu Yaqiong and Wei Wei is that what he wants is definitely not the affirmation of Guo Keyu's husband's care, but more importantly, the affirmation of personal strength.
Even if Guo Keyu affirmed his goodness as a husband and father, it was completely insufficient.
At this time, I saw him interrupt Guo Keyu's words, repeatedly seeking answers, but refusing to listen.
When everyone came to the studio a few months after the show and recorded the show outside.
We saw Zhu Yaqiong's maturity, saw Wei Wei's positivity, only to find that this zhang he, who was once so considerate, acted wandering, and he seemed to come only to clarify that the divorce between the two was very wise.
His change changed from enthusiastic to frigid.
He politely thanked the program team and told his ex-wife that it was hard. He seemed to see his ex-wife's grievances, but he didn't seem to see it.
Only because, when he says this, it is more like an official statement, without detail and true feelings.
Everyone has something good at and not good at. For example, Wang Qiuyu is not good at emotional expression, Wei Wei is not good at emotional control, and Zhang He may just not be good at directly expressing emotions.
However, his state like this is easy to see as too indifferent and snubbed the heart of his ex-wife. It also disappointed netizens who were expecting him to reunite with his ex-wife.
Maybe we shouldn't have too much anticipation when we watch the "Goodbye Lover" emotional show from the beginning.
After all, people's hearts and emotions are complex, how can a marriage of many years, the relationship between two people, be completely changed through a journey?
Some people say that the journey is the icing on the cake, not the charcoal in the snow.
In the magnificent journey of Xinjiang, people's hearts can become very large, as Guo Keyu said in an interview, human emotions seem so small in nature.
When in a special environment, some emotions may germinate between people and people, but back to real life, perhaps two people will face problems that could not be solved in the past.
Why can't we be tolerant of some people, perhaps not satisfied with the way we don't like it, we prefer people who are honest and honest with their hearts, dare to express themselves, and are brave to solve problems.
Like Zhu Yaqiong, who is inferior and self-sufficient, Wei Wei, who is narcissistic and a bit of a giant baby. Their strengths and weaknesses are so obvious, and the change is so serious, we appreciate such people and want to live as they are sincere and calm.
However, we are not like Zhang He, eager to maintain our dignity.
Our intolerance, perhaps, is the shadow of ourselves in him, too eager for perfection and the affirmation of others.
If Zhu Yaqiong and Wei Wei are our childish side, Zhang He may be the other side of our adult world.
Today's Topic:
Watching "Goodbye Lover", who is your relationship with your partner more like, and do you crave the affirmation of your partner?
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