Every child makes mistakes, and parents guide them as opportunities for their children to grow

Xiao Xiao (8 years old) Mother: My daughter defends herself every time she does something wrong. For example, the last time she scored 92 in math, she scored 95 at the same table. She said: The Chinese teacher praised me, not the table. Xiao Xiao also said to me: "Mom is right about everything," usually I said to her four times, she said more than ten times.

Han Han (3 years old) Mom: My family Han Han makes a mistake and always pushes on others, for example, if she knocks the brick down, she will shout: "Mom, Dad got the brick down."

Everyone makes mistakes, and we've been taught to be ashamed of making mistakes. There are no perfect people in the world, but parents often demand perfection in their children. How puzzling this is. We imagine that we made mistakes when we were young, what kind of treatment we received, at school penalty stations, at home by parents reprimanded, the little self felt that making mistakes was too terrible, felt that we were a stupid fool who did not show up. Because of the fear of doing the wrong thing, they become cowering, do not dare to take risks, and hide behind others in everything. Under such an education, too many children become flatterers, pleasing adults at the expense of their self-esteem; others decide to cover up their mistakes and try to avoid being caught, just like the little girl Mentioned above.

When parents and teachers reprimand and punish children who make mistakes, their intentions are good, and they often think that children can only correct their mistakes if they are admonished. They don't think about what the kids learned from their mistakes. There is another reason why they do this, they do not know what good way to do it, they are afraid that not condemning the child is arrogant. In fact, there are other ways to motivate children to do better, this method is not at the expense of reducing children's self-esteem, and can really motivate children to do better. That is, we ourselves learn and teach our children to see mistakes as an exciting learning opportunity. If we can hear Xiao Xiao's mother say this: "Child, you scored 92 points, too good, what can the lost 7 points tell us?" That would be good, but what Xiao Xiao heard was her mother's nagging over and over again, hoping to cover up her mistakes in the math test through the praise of the Chinese teacher. Mistakes are opportunities This is the first positive concept that parents must have, and then it is the physical line, passed on to the children, so that the children can learn from the mistakes to learn valuable experience and motivation to move forward. Whenever Han Han's mother came home from work and saw the blocks scattered all over the floor, she would shout, "Why is it so messy, who made it?!" This kind of irritability makes Han Han afraid, and little people will think like this, as long as I say that it is not my mother who will not be angry with me. Hinted at by her mother's behavior, Han Han learned to cover up her mistakes. After Han Han's mother realized her problem, she saw that the building blocks in a place no longer yelled, but said: "Han Han, let's sort out the blocks together." Han Han said, "Okay, Mom." Han Han studied his mother's appearance and put the blocks into the box. Subsequently, Han Han covered up his mistakes less and less often. Both Han Han's mother and Han Han have gained valuable learning opportunities from their mistakes.