My husband cheated, I didn't divorce, I was going to kill the dog man and woman
In the circle of friends, there is a friend who is not very familiar recently, her dynamics are very frequent, and her words are full of anger, basically scolding cheating men and seducing married men.
Men who say that men who do not keep their marriage contracts and women who break other people's marriages must not die well, and if God has eyes, he must let them go to hell for the rest of their lives. And in this life, they have brought so much pain to people, why can they still live a happy life in two enclaves?
Therefore, I will never let go of such a dog man and woman, and I will let them be like street rats, everyone shouts and beats, and they will never see the light.
Looking at every word she uttered, I could feel her anger and resentment, but I didn't dare to ask her what had happened, because I thought I was not a person who would comfort people, and I couldn't soothe her emotions.
Finally, I saw a well-known friend comfort her in her comments, saying that a man is gone without it, and it is the least worthwhile to make himself unrecognizable, and her reply is to scold her friend for not having sympathy, things did not happen to her, you can say cool words on the side, and the friend finally only returned a wordless expression.
I watched, I actually wanted to laugh, and finally gossiped, and privately sent a message to a friend, asking what happened to this woman.
Friends said that the woman's husband had another woman outside and came home to divorce her. She did not agree to the divorce, saying that as long as her husband broke off with the women outside, the family could still live a good life.
But his husband also seemed to have an iron heart, that is, to be with the women outside, originally promised to leave the house where the family now lives and a large part of the cash to her and the children, he himself wants a car that is currently driving, basically out of the house.
But now because the woman's life and death do not agree, men not only move out of the house to live with women outside, but also change the previous divorce plan, saying that they will not give more to women, sue for divorce, and the court will judge how to execute themselves.
Later, women have no way to do anything about their husbands, can only go around in front of relatives and friends to say men's desperate and cruel heart, at the beginning, family and friends also have great sympathy for her, comfort her really can't keep the man's heart, just give up, they can live with their children well.
But she immediately said that her relatives and friends had no conscience, and they were all speaking for her husband, and insisted even more stubbornly that she just did not divorce, that is, she could not make her husband and the women outside satisfied, saying that she had a bad life, and everyone had not had a good day.
In the end, she sent her emotions to the circle of friends every day, so that now even relatives and friends have to retreat from her when they see her, because her anger and resentment in this body, in addition to making people uncomfortable, will be left irritable, and what is more, she knows that no matter what she says, she will not listen, and she will say nothing.
The friend said indignantly that she really didn't understand this kind of woman, and some people looked down on this kind of woman, although it was also worthy of sympathy at the beginning, but the look of scolding this and scolding that and complaining in the back was really ugly.
Regardless of whether the man is scummy or not, the person who can't stay will let him go, and letting others go is letting go of himself, so how can he be so difficult to understand in such a simple way?
Why bother to let yourself be ugly because of a man, and even look beyond recognition?
At this point, I can only persuade my friend to calm down, and other people's things are not worth her being so indignant.
However, for the departure of a man, the woman holds the psychology of the fish dead net, that is, she is unwilling to divorce, is this good or not? Is it worth it?
First of all, we need to understand that for a man who has an iron heart to divorce, in fact, no matter what the woman does, it is impossible to make him change his mind, that is, using some extreme ways may keep him as a person, but his heart will definitely not be retained.
Because for a man, the iron heart wants to withdraw from the marriage, he must be carefully considered and measured by all parties, only if the temptation outside is far greater than the family, he will not hesitate to choose the woman outside.
By this time, it shows that the value of the woman in the family in his eyes is already insignificant, or the feelings have really been exhausted.
So at this time, even if a woman wants to keep it, what can she do to keep it? Don't casually talk about children, the average man does not love children so deeply, at least compared with his future.
If the woman outside can give a man great help in his career, such a temptation is something that most men cannot escape, even if the woman herself may not have other conditions as good as his wife at home.
And if the women on the outside are generous and decent and knowledgeable, needless to say, how many men will not fall into it?
Therefore, we should also understand human nature, in the final analysis, people are seeking benefits and avoiding harm.
Of course, we are not saying that the women outside are all excellent, in fact, most of the women who can tangle with married men are criticized, and how good can they be?
It's just that the man has the points he values, there are the aspects of his trade-offs, and if we lose on this point, or in the aspects that men choose, it is a loss, and the excess salvation will only make him more embarrassed.
Because feelings are no more complicated than others, human nature is also a more complex thing, sometimes we can not do well or bad to determine whether we win or lose, and what cannot be retained does not need to be forced.
Because for a scumbag who sees things, is ungrateful and ungrateful, what is the purpose of keeping him? Do you feel that you haven't had enough of your days in the water? Or wait for him to squeeze himself completely and worthlessly before watching him throw his hands away?
And for a man with a slight conscience, even if he chooses a woman outside, he will still have some guilt for his former wife and children.
Since he can no longer keep him, it is better to let him start again with this guilt, and only in this way can the beauty that was once shared remain in our hearts, and we can face the future life more frankly and fearlessly.
And only when a man is guilty and indebted, will he take the initiative to leave more things to us when he leaves, compared to the stable life in the future, does the entanglement at this moment have any meaning?
If we have to wait for men's patience and guilt to be worn away by our entanglement, what else can we get but resentment?
Emotionally, men have long been gone from us, money, men will not have any compensation, and even intentionally conceal and transfer their own property, in the end, the gains are not worth the loss, people and money are empty.
Therefore, smart women should know what kind of posture they should take to face the departure of men, do not entangle, do not resent, even if it is painful, they must be strong to face.
Because rather than entanglement and resentment, the future life is the most important, we just lost a man, did not lose their own life, let ourselves calmly, frankly face the future life, is not much better than an ugly complaining woman.
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