What is freshness?
It is when you put on a new dress, see yourself that is different from usual, and feel that you have gained a lot of recycling rates from shopping today;
It is you who have arrived at a new job, everything is strange, you can learn new knowledge every day, full of fulfillment;
Or meet a deceased person who has not been seen for a long time, and his impression of him is still stuck in the youth and ignorance of ten years ago, and now he is mature and humorous, exuding an air of self-confidence and wisdom;
Or an acquaintance around him, usually in contact with ordinary people, and accidentally found that he was actually a contracted author of a novel website...
Freshness must refresh your inherent cognition, make you curious and longing.
The same goes for feelings. When two people first started to fall in love, they established a preliminary consensus and the same frequency in terms of feelings, but they did not know enough about personality, past, life, etc., so from one person's life to the world of two people, they were full of curiosity about each other, imagining what kind of sparks two people could collide with, and looking forward to how wonderful the future would be.
After getting acquainted with each other, the "information gap" that once made people fresh no longer exists, you know my true color, I can also predict your next step, so there is no freshness of the past, and love has changed from the former vigorous to the current chai rice oil and salt.
It is normal for two people to live together and the passion gradually fades. If you relive the freshness in the next ordinary life, the rest of your life of marriage gives you three suggestions for reference:
1, each find a direction of strength, strive to improve themselves, and become better together. To put it bluntly, it is to make the future self different from the current self, very different, so as to refresh each other's cognition and find the feeling of re-examination.
2, to learn to appreciate some of the other party's luminous points, especially some "habitual" and "blind" places. People are very easy to adapt to the environment, two people together for a long time, will gradually turn a blind eye to each other's advantages, but the shortcomings are more prominent. At this time, you need to "refresh" your own cognition, stand in a new perspective to look at yourself, look at each other, you will find a lot of "lost beauty".
3. Do something, plan or challenge together to create a life node. If the trajectory of two people's lives is repeated every day: going to work during the day, eating and playing games after work, staying at home on weekends... The immutable life has no points of recollection, and it will feel like time is like flowing water. The way to break this mundane life is to take the initiative to create things that the two need to do together, such as going hiking together on weekends, asking friends to come to dinner at home, or making plans to go further, such as going to the Potala Palace together in the second half of the year. When two people do something different from usual, they will further discover a different other.
There are many ways to stay fresh. Sometimes I also have to think about it, not to pursue freshness, but to savor the details of life, and jointly create a time that belongs to two people, this ordinary life can also be tasteful. The years are quiet, and accompanying a person to grow old is also a sweet and long-term romance.