"Asking what the world is, people can't squeeze in."
In other words, a course at Wuhan University has been squeezed out recently. To what extent? The corridor could not stand, the windows were full of students, and even some students stood on the pipes of the outer wall to listen to the lectures.
We've seen crowded campus canteens, but it's rare to squeeze into such a classroom. The "famous scene" that makes students hungry and diligent is not a celebrity meeting, nor is it teaching some "secret of absolute learning", but a course called "Psychology of Love".
Students listen to "The Psychology of Love" outside the classroom. Photo: Wuhan University
Do this class of college students have to learn to fall in love?
What exactly are young people anxious about love and marriage?
These questions may be answered on social platforms where young people are active.
Different places, different original families, buying a car and buying a house, sky-high bride price, appearance anxiety, encountering "Aquaman" and "Ma Bao"... On a certain knowledge sharing platform, the posts involving marriage and experience sharing are full of calculations and tricks.
In the process of growing up, love is always suppressed, "allowed" to fall in love is adult; young people who lack life experience and emotional education want to fall in love, but they are afraid of being hurt in love, afraid that a love cannot last forever, and even doubt whether they are worthy of being loved and have the ability to love others, so they dare not take this step.
Therefore, the "love class" opened by colleges and universities opened a fire. In 2013, East China Normal University put "love" into the classroom, opening an elective course on "marriage and love", and many colleges and universities followed suit. "Psychology of Love", "Theory and Practice of Love", "Campus Love Open Class", etc., different names, the same focus on the "love" of this university question, encourage young students to "talk about a healthy love, start and maintain a positive relationship".
Online, marriage and love classes have also attracted much attention. Fudan University Professor Liang Yong'an's lectures on love have received the attention of millions of young people in each episode, with a single episode on demand rate of 4 million.
Liang Yongan of Fudan University answered the troubles of contemporary youth on the video website
I remember Professor Liang said, "Marriage means adapting to others and overcoming the instinct of egoism" and "Love is not once and for all, love needs to be recreated, it needs to be irrigated with perseverance."
In reality, what makes people anxious is the consideration and calculation of whether the two sides are matched or not - will they suffer losses? Will it not be high? Will it consume itself? Will it be a waste of time and experience?
If you think about it more, you will be "bald", you will doubt love, you will be afraid of your head and tail...
According to my own experience, the fascinating thing about love is that "I don't know where it starts", with four eyes facing each other and sparks splashing around.
From this initial "small flame" to become a long-term warmth, it takes time and energy to operate. Whether we succeed or not, that ignorant emotion will always be our precious life treasure. It is in love that we understand the opposite sex and know ourselves.
When it comes to falling in love, there can't be too many "thoughts". To put it simply, talk about it, continue to accumulate experience, constantly improve their own concept of love, and constantly find their role and positioning in the mutual relationship.
The university launched a love course, so that students can establish a correct view of gender, learn to correctly deal with various emotions in love, and are popular with students, indicating that such a course is really necessary. However, according to the experience of myself and many people who have come over, there is no guide and no secret to love. Scheduling for class doesn't mean getting a love number plate.
Only if you dare to love, can you slowly love. Simply put, to get to the destination, you must first go in the right direction, but also have the courage and action to get on the road. As for whether it will lose to reality, we can only know if we try it.
Interestingly, anxiety about love and marital instability is not exclusive to young people. If you look at the blind date corner of the park and the blind date group on the Internet, you will find that all of them are measuring and screening with many standards and conditions. This sentiment will inevitably spread to young people.
Helping young people build confidence in love and marriage still needs the efforts of more people.
Believe me: Love, maybe late, but it will come.
The premise is not to be limited by worldly things to limit your imagination and courage to live.
Talking about a vigorous love, talking about it first, is more important than anything.
Source: Workers Daily