The emotions of people in the show business circle are delicate, and compared with ordinary people, their feelings seem to be magnified several times. And the emotion of love and hate also makes a person always immersed in his own feelings. Because they hate each other, they will list the other party as their enemies and never see each other, including the links they once had with each other.
Such feelings seem paranoid, but some people just can't jump out of it, but instead try their best to find what they're missing elsewhere. Song Dandan, a veteran actor in the show business circle, has been troubled by a relationship for 24 years, and after divorcing her second husband, why did Song Dandan blame him for so many years and has not reconciled so far?
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="6" > Song Dandan's tortuous emotional history</h1>
Song Dandan is a well-known actress, and her family ethics drama "Family with Children" can be described as a well-received one. As a successful actress with a smooth career, her feelings have been deceived and betrayed, and even a vendetta with her ex-husband has lasted for 24 years, and she has not been reconciled.
Song Dandan has three marriages, the first marriage is a flash marriage, married to a handsome guy who has known him for less than a month, but divorced due to personality incompatibility. After the divorce, her first husband offered never to mention his name in public. Therefore, this person has remained mysterious to this day, and no one knows who he is.
Song Dandan's second marriage is the director Yingda, who has thousands of entanglements with her. At that time, Song Dandan was rehearsing "Arsonist", and Yingda was the director of this show and a high-achieving student at Peking University.
Like Song Dandan, he is also divorced for more than a year, and the two people who have failed in marriage have a lot of common feelings together, and it is inevitable that feelings will arise after talking more. In the end, the two also entered the palace of marriage hand in hand. After getting married, the career development of the two was as good as day, and Song Dandan also stepped onto the stage of the Spring Festival Gala, becoming famous and becoming a very famous sketch actor of the year.
Soon after their marriage, the two gave birth to their son Batuu. Later, in order to support her husband's career, Song Dandan joined the crew of "I Love My Family". At this time, Yingda also met the screenwriter Liang Huan. Due to the busyness of their respective jobs, Song Dandan lacked the company of her husband, and she cheated. On the third day after the infidelity, Song Dandan called Yingda and said that he had cheated on him and wanted to divorce Yingda.
Yingda happily agreed, but after receiving the divorce certificate, Song Dandan found the ambiguous text message sent by Liang Huan to Yingda. Song Dandan suddenly realized that It turned out that Yingda had already derailed.
A month after the divorce, Yingda married Liang Huan and gave birth to her youngest son, Yingrudi. What annoyed Song Dandan even more was that Yingda held his younger son in the palm of his hand, but he ignored his eldest son Batuu, and even when the eldest son asked Yingda to take him out to play once when he was 7 years old, Yingda ignored it.
The 11-year-old Batuu wanted to ask Indah for a phone number, but Indah did not give it, but he took good care of his younger son, and even showed his father-son relationship in front of the media. And these Song Dandans all looked in their eyes and hated them in their hearts. Such a difference made Song Dandan unbearable, and she wrote a book called "The Depths of Happiness", which described her emotional life and profoundly recorded her feelings with Yingda.
How much love there is hate, Song Dandan complained about Indah's ruthlessness towards his own son, and compared Indah's preference for his younger son, Yingrudi. She couldn't stand the same son, why one day after another.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="17" > Indah refused to see his eldest son Batuu, cold-blooded and ruthless</h1>
In the face of such complaints, Indah only gave a clear response: Divorced, don't come back to me. He believes that divorce should be cut off cleanly, and to start a new life, it is necessary to cut off all old lives, including children. In order to show his human side, he also praised it, afraid that his seeing the child would affect the feelings between the child and the stepfather.
Such an answer is unacceptable to anyone with feelings. Why did his own son treat him like this? Even if all ties with his mother were severed, it would be understandable, but after all, he was your own child and was related by blood, which was too impersonal.
Indah's choice may have his own ideas, but treating the two sons so distinctly hurt not only Batu's mother, but also Batuu's heart. I have transformed all the love I once had into hate, and I have not let go of it yet. On the contrary, to make up for it in the new family and the little son, to find a sense of existence, such a psychology is also too paranoid.
In order to make Yingda wake up, Song Dandan came back to see Batu, and did not change his mobile phone number for 14 years, but in exchange for Yingda's cold-bloodedness and refusal to meet.
It is difficult to say goodbye when we meet, and the east wind is powerless. When such hatred is a head, being able to let go of prejudice, letting go of hatred is the real liberation. The love-hate relationship between Song Dandan and Yingda is also difficult to understand.
They are all very good people at work, but they are overwhelmed and even have a deep grudge in the face of feelings. Yingda, a psychology graduate of Peking University, once said that Song Dandan's book is a mental illness called nudity. He can give such a conclusion, which shows that he has a deep prejudice against Song Dandan.
The two divorced with considerable hatred, so that they did not forgive each other for more than twenty years, and the last thing that hurt was the child's heart. But despite this, as a mother, Song Dandan raised Batuu as an adult. As a father, Indah was not qualified. Maybe he was a good father to his younger son, but for Batuu, he did not fulfill his responsibilities and obligations as a father.
Yingda showed his younger son "love" in front of the media, including dissatisfaction and attack on Song Dandan, which also allowed Song Dandan to retain hatred for him for so many years.
Yi Nanping will eventually be reconciled. There are many examples of two people who once loved each other and eventually became enemies because of each other's attacks, but this all stems from an obsession, and being able to turn hatred into not caring and doing what you should do is the real liberation.
Hating a person must not allow yourself to hate for too long, because such hatred leads to losses on both sides is actually not worth it. Only by turning hate into indifference is the smartest protection for oneself.
Choice determines the result, Indah may think that his choice is right, but if you look at it from another angle, the real letting go is not calculated, it is inclusive, it is to give love, and I believe that if it can be resolved, everything will develop in a good place.
Ignoring Batuu is not a protection for Yingrudi, which will only cause some lack and harm to the two children. Because the relationship between people is a natural thing, blind attachment is only an excuse to escape. What do you think about that?
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