Wang Feng and his wife have been married for 15 years, the two have a son and a daughter, the married life is also very happy and harmonious, when they were young, the two people worked together for this family, and also suffered a lot.
But in order to give birth to the second daughter, the couple also suffered a lot of sins, after the birth of the child, because of the birth of the congenital defects, so the need for surgery, which also made the mood of the two fall to the bottom.
Fortunately, the family still insisted on it, and now watching the children grow up day by day, their hearts have become softer and softer, Wang Feng said that what he is most worried about now is the health of his daughter, he does not ask for anything else, only hopes that the children can grow up happily.
In life, families have difficult scriptures, not every family can harvest happiness and well-being, and sometimes, family life will also have difficulties and bitterness.
But as long as the family works together, they will certainly be able to face the pain of life together, and for a man, after reaching a certain age, there will be his own responsibilities and pressures.
At this time, they are also struggling to move forward, men are not easy, so as their wives, they must also learn to give them more understanding, so that they can make the family life more happy and beautiful.
After a man has passed the age of 40, the most desired married life is only these two.
01.
Get the understanding and respect of your wife
In the psychology of gender, there is such a sentence: men care more about women's bodies, and women care more about men's minds, that is, men can't stand women's spiritual betrayal, and what women can't tolerate is often a man's spiritual betrayal.
In the world of feelings, men will also aspire to happiness, in front of women, they also look forward to getting a woman's understanding and attention, in the face of life, each of us will have unspeakable sadness, boys have tears not flicks, but not to the sad place.
Men's difficulties, no one can really empathize, after a certain grade, they are often more concerned about the warmth and happiness of the family.
If at this time, there can be a woman willing to accompany him unconditionally, care for and take care of him, then it will also make their hearts unusually happy, although men rarely express their love for you in their mouths, but their hearts will remember the good for you.
02.
Have your own time and space
Men also need to be free, and if his life is always limited by you, he will love you less and less.
Many women will always become sensitive and suspicious after marriage, and even become nagging, at first men may accept, but over time, if you always keep nagging your husband, then over time, he will also become unusually anxious and insecure.
What men need is time and space, the more you nag, the more men want to escape, and some women may feel that as long as they work hard, they can make their husbands change or even become better.
But in fact, such a practice is not rational, because your love will only suffocate people and destroy a happy life, gold is not enough, naked people are perfect, and many things are formed through decades of time.
It is also completely impossible to want a man to change in a short period of time.
Therefore, when women communicate with men, they also need to learn to think from the perspective of men, give them more understanding, and give them less pressure, which will make them love you more and let them stay with you for a long time.
As a woman with high emotional intelligence, often understand the wisdom of communicating with men, such a woman, will make men have more sense of security, women in real life, but also to learn to be confused, everything to see through do not say thoroughly, because men also have self-esteem, when you force him too tight, his attitude towards you will naturally change.
The law of sour grape sweet lemon tells us: as long as you want, there is always a reason to be happy.
In real life, a person's happiness is often in their own hands, if you want to be happy, then you can also influence your own thoughts at any time, so in the end of life, the fight is still an attitude.
In the world of feelings, happiness also needs to rely on their own to fight, two people together, the most important thing is to understand each other, rather than complaining to each other, only when you understand the art of getting along, love will go more long, in the world of feelings.
What men crave more is often the happiness and warmth of the family, and if they can live with an understanding and reasonable woman, it will also make this man feel very pleased.
Happiness is not far away from us, only when you read a man's heart, can you really grasp a man, between husband and wife, there is no obstacle that cannot be passed, two people understand each other together, is the best happiness.