The old man in the village died, the funeral scene was deserted, if in the past, the lively neighbors can surround the scene inside the three layers outside the three layers, all kinds of traditional ceremonies must be meticulously done one by one, the whole process down, feel that is the respect for the deceased, no wonder there are old people in the village said, now the young people are too exquisite, doing white things is indeed saving money, but less humane.
This is not conducive to the continuation of traditional customs, but also can not create a sad atmosphere, but also not conducive to the creation of a sense of belonging to the young descendants of the family atmosphere, the funeral scene is lively, does not mean that it is extravagant waste, the continuation of tradition does not mean conservative, on the contrary, those who spend money for face to invite big bands, big banquets are the real extravagance and waste.
The reason for this phenomenon is not that the younger generation does not respect tradition, but that we are at a turning point in an era, forcing some traditional things to change.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="4" > a shift in perception</h1>
In today's rural areas, the pace of life is obviously accelerated, people are exposed to more new things, it will broaden their horizons, everyone agrees that it is better to take advantage of the old man's health to eat more things, with their own practical actions, the money spent on the old man, rather than after the death of the old man, spend a lot of money to create an atmosphere of filial piety for children.
The most typical point of the change in the concept of rural people is that in the past, when the elderly in the countryside died, they were buried by neighbors in the village to carry the coffin, and the two shifts of coffins were more than 30 people, all of whom were young and powerful young people.
Nowadays, the burial is basically pulled by car, which if in the past, the use of the car to pull the old man to bury will be scolded by people, however, now people have silently accepted, even if you want to hire someone to carry the coffin, want to find so many coffin people in the village, it is also a difficult thing that cannot be completed, and the price of hiring a professional coffin team is unacceptable, so the economical and fast coffin car has become everyone's first choice.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="19" > second, lifestyle changes</h1>
Today's rural areas are mainly divided into two groups, one is the group that goes out to work, and the other is the group that stays at home.
When encountering the death of an old man in the village, if it is not a particularly close immediate family, the migrant workers generally will not come back to attend the funeral, everyone believes that this is the helplessness created by the times, understand long live, and then entrust people with the gift money, this matter is even in the past.
For those who stay at home, the amateur life of the elderly has become colorful, whether it is going out to dance square dance, or staying at home to watch wonderful TV programs, holding mobile phones to brush short videos, or taking care of young grandchildren, in short, today's rural spiritual life is no longer as scarce as before, when the village held red and white celebrations, even if you blow a whistle, you can be crowded with people watching the liveliness.
Holding funerals in the countryside, it was once popular to spend a lot of money to hire a band, as a result, there were few audiences offstage, the embarrassment of performing on stage, and the embarrassment of the owner's money, since no one watched, why pay money to hire a band? Just find a whistleblower to blow and beat.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="20" >3. Realism changes tradition</h1>
In the countryside, it takes at least three days to hold a funeral, according to the past practice, but all the helpers are relatives and neighbors in the village (mutual help), at that time, helping people in the village is to help themselves, plus three meals a day, big fish, meat, tobacco and alcohol pipes, even if the helpers who are invited are busy, they also have to take time to come to the scene.
And today's young people, the average income of a day outside is about 300 yuan, that is to say, delaying others for three days, it may make others earn less than a thousand yuan of income, in the era of lack of money, everyone is not easy to live, even if someone is willing to come back to help, the owner is also unbearable.
Therefore, in many rural areas, no matter whether the red and white celebrations are held, there are fewer and fewer things that need the help of the neighbors, because the work of eating and drinking services is all given by the professional catering service team.
The above three changes have also caused the desertion of the funerals of the elderly in rural areas (including happy events), in fact, it is still a little inappropriate to say that money has been saved, hiring people everywhere, money is not necessarily less to spend, but the human touch is light, which is indeed an ironclad fact.