These two days idle, chased a few episodes of the hit drama "I really love you", in the recent plot, Xiao Yan in order to return to the Thea Group, in the Confinement Center planned a jingbao advertising activity, the theme is that the mother should return to the workplace after giving birth to a child or at home full-time with a baby, working mother PK full-time mother, who is more secure?
Originally, the result of the internal determination was that the working mothers were completely victorious, the working mothers were more economically independent, did not have to ask for money from their husbands with their palms facing upwards, and seemed to live more self-respecting, but in the end, because Xiao Yan's girlfriend Yuya came out and said a paragraph, the whole scene was reversed.
Yuya is a stay-at-home mom, and she thoroughly enjoys being a stay-at-home mom. Her husband Cheng Haonan loves her and will make money, Yuya's daily life is to do yoga, in the circle of friends nine palaces to show her son Congcong.
She speaks on behalf of stay-at-home moms, she says that having children is her own choice, she is responsible for her own choices and gets happiness from them, she believes that independent women are not careers but inner freedom, she likes children, is willing to have children, so she follows her heart to be a healthy and happy mother.
At this time, Yuya's life is rich, her husband is handsome, her son is well-behaved and cute, she does not have to worry about chai rice oil and salt at all, naturally she will not be as bitter as other full-time mothers, nor do she complain that her husband does not help with the baby, she herself has the ability and is willing to do all this.
Speaking from the heart, Yuya is an excellent full-time mother, she has a good mentality, life is well organized, because she likes children, she wants to have another daughter, she is pregnant with a second child, the current state of life is her satisfaction, want, she has full confidence and confidence to show her happiness and happiness as a full-time mother.
However, reality soon hit her in the face, her husband's business was in trouble because of the contract, although Yuya told him that she understood his emotions and comforted him, whose life is not smooth sailing, will encounter some setbacks.
His husband still emotionally out of control told her, "I didn't think about having this child (second child) at all, I thought so at the beginning, you have always considered yourself, you like children, you want to have another daughter, you are happy, what about me?" You have no idea what this family is going through, you say you enjoy the process of bringing children, children are brought by you, but who is the person who can raise children? It's me, I go to work every day from morning to night, I make so much money, I buy such a big house, I bring you happiness, that person is me, you want children, but you haven't considered my feelings at all, not once, this child I don't want ah..."
Yuya turned around and tearfully, and commented, Yuya, do you still feel happy as a stay-at-home mom now? Are the years quiet? What's the use of cleaning up your home? How about a child who is smart and clever? In the end, it is still erased by the phrase "it is I who support the family", and it is selfish that you don't work or make money and just want to have children for me.
At that moment, she understood that her years of quietness and the so-called inner freedom were the hard work and unfree efforts of her husband, and those undertones and freedoms were in the hands of others.
Seeing this, I remembered that there was a tenant upstairs before, her husband was a Didi driver, sports car in the morning, and came back at noon to eat and rest for two hours. The hostess with her two children would cook rice every day before her husband returned, fill the soup, set the dishes, and her husband would come back and just sit on the table and eat.
After eating, she had to take her two children to wander around the alley downstairs, afraid that the two children would disturb her husband's rest, and simply treat her husband like a grandfather.
Even if she did this, once the child bumped, her husband still blurted out that she didn't have to do anything at home all day, and even a child could not be brought well. This sentence is very familiar, I believe that a considerable number of full-time mothers have heard, which also represents the voice of most of the family-rearing men, in their hearts, full-time mothers = do not have to do anything, so that full-time mothers who are not recognized by their husbands can not be healthy and happy anyway.
So what kind of situation can you be a stay-at-home mom? First of all, your partner should have a stable income, no machismo, recognize the hard work of a stay-at-home mom, be proud of family struggles and efforts, and enjoy the feeling of being dependent on him and enjoying the feeling of being dependent. Secondly, his mood should also be stable, not like Yuya's husband, everything is easy to say when life is smooth, and he will be angry with his wife when he is not happy, only under such prerequisites can full-time mothers be relaxed and happy.
In the end, this result is to pin hope on others, and there can be no change in the middle.
As a netizen said, although her husband's income is enough for her to cook comfortably at home with a baby, she still chooses to go out to work, just to maintain the vigor of living in the workplace, and not to lose the ability to cope with life changes in the day of pampering.
When it comes to the ability to cope with the changes in life, we have to mention Liu Tao, the actor of Xiao Yan, from the rich man Kuota to the wang ke who helped the bankrupt to turn the tide, Liu Tao used her own ability to prove that she can be both the woman of the king and her own queen.
Wang Ke once said this about Liu Tao in "Dear Inn", saying that she is very understanding, what kind of time it is, she can also massage when she needs to give you a massage, and when she needs to stew a chicken, she can also stew, and anything can be done. Then when you need her to do nothing, she can do nothing. When you need her to have a baby, give birth to you once a year, and it's good to go out and work.
A paragraph, four "needs", explains Liu Tao's omnipotence, and also recognizes her value and proportion in this marriage. In the past, she was "Mrs. Wang", and now she is a "Sister Tao" who must be respected when she sees her, and Wang Ke, who was once the fourth youngest in the capital, has become a "brother-in-law".
Taking the choice of life in your own hands is the greatest confidence and freedom of working mothers.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="38" > Zhang Xiaoxian once said that the best way for women is to rely on themselves when I like to rely on myself, I like to rely on men when I rely on men, the real feminism is not that women must be strong, can not rely on men, but at any time she has the right to choose her own way of life. </h1>
Although each woman's life pursuit is different, some women naturally like to gallop in the workplace, some women like to return to the family and run the rear to be warm and happy, and some women like to pick the two shoulders of the career family and find a balance between the two. But either way, hopefully it's the result of your choice rather than a compromise.
The ideal state for a woman should be that when life gives me honey, I can enjoy honey. When life tests me, I put on my armor.