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In the TV series "I Really Love You", Cheng Haonan said to Youya: "The child is brought, but who is the person who can raise the child?" It's me", Cheng Haonan said something, leaving Yuya speechless.
Cheng Haonan's words easily negated a woman's hard work with children, highlighting the difficulty of a man making money to support his family.
It is true that in this fast-paced circle of life, money is both important and difficult to earn, for most ordinary people, as long as they can simply survive, but it is undeniable that children are not easy to bring, and there are quite a few people who are talking about the difficulty of bringing children.
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Cheng Haonan went bankrupt and became a part-time worker who founded his own company, sitting by the window to smoke smog at work, and playing games without eating or sleeping after work. Yuya, who claims to have infinite happiness, becomes helpless, from a happy mother to a woman full of helplessness in life.
At first, watching Yuya talk on stage about the freedom and independence of a stay-at-home mother, it suddenly occurred to me: the ignorant are fearless. No wonder Zhang Guimei reprimanded female college students for graduating as full-time wives, see what this brain has become, but if there is a little common sense of life, it will not be so loud.
In the end, many of the misfortunes are caused by money.
Sima Zheng, the second emperor of the Western Jin Dynasty, heard the chancellor say that some people died of hunger because of famine, and he was very unexplained: "When you are hungry, there is no rice to eat, why don't you eat porridge?"
Like Yuya's childish thoughts, this is also the root of Yuya's carefree. Never worked, never lacked food and clothing, and lived a happy life, so she almost lost most of her judgment of life. Her life was not at all difficult before Cheng Haonan went bankrupt.
There is a lot of free time to practice yoga, there is no pressure to have a second child, all because the husband can earn money. But when the person who earns money can't be relied on, she truly understands what life is.
Everyone says to be free and independent, when you have no money, what do you talk about freedom and independence? A woman's freedom is not just about buying clothes, all material sources are because of the ability to earn money, or there is a person behind it who can give you money.
Happiness lies in mutual understanding when you have money, when you have money, when you have no money, and understand each other, not all kinds of dislikes. However, there is a kind of misfortune that occurs after the loss of material support.
It is also unfortunate that the family of one of my friends is that her husband is out alone to earn money, and she is responsible for bringing two children, each doing her job, and the person who earns the money will not help with the child, and the person with the child will not help to share the financial pressure.
Married for nearly ten years, with a house and a car, she was once happy, but then her husband had many accidents, his job was gone, and his savings were consumed in later life.
Her husband complained that she only knew how to go around her two children, and she wanted to say that she was also tired, but every time the words came to her mouth, she really did not earn money, and it seemed that she lacked a sense of confidence in saying anything.
The bittersweet and bittersweet when taking children, if you have not experienced it, it is difficult for anyone to understand. Even if you have never been blamed, if you encounter things, the person who often takes the child is the most useless.
In the TV series "Snail Residence", Song Siming said: "The problems that can be solved with money are not problems", and in real life, most of the problems we encounter are because there is no money.
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As a full-time wife, Yuya does not have the ability to make money, and when Cheng Haonan's career encounters difficulties, their family loses its economic pillar, and Yuya has the heart to help, but she can't do anything.
In fact, full-time wife is a very capable profession, but without any freedom and independence, women will gradually lose themselves, lose the status that a wife should have in the family, and it seems that there is no shortage of money and happiness. However, this happiness is fragile.
Once something changes, everything that a woman has enjoyed in the past will be taken out and infinitely magnified, which will make you feel that you have brought children for so many years that you cannot withstand the happiness of the past.
It is okay to be a full-time wife, but you must continue to learn and improve your ability.
Just like Gu Jia in the TV series "Thirty Only", what I admire most is that her schedule is fuller than that of normal people working, stepping out of the comfortable circle of life, making new friends, constantly learning to enrich herself, even if her identity is a full-time wife, but when the company encounters difficulties, she still needs to solve the dilemma.
Rather than saying that Gu Jia is a full-time wife, it is better to say that you are a strong woman in her career and a full-time mother of the family. Why Gu Canon calmly faces the oppression of life, it is because she lives very thoroughly, knows the direction of her life, even if she is a full-time wife, she cannot change the trajectory of her life.
Obviously, Yuya does not have the ability of Gu Jia, for Youya, probably only Xiao Yan, a girlfriend, can provide her with the greatest help when she is in difficulty.
There is a saying that "poverty limits one's imagination", but in fact, people who lack life experience are also ignorant.
Cheng Haonan's company has a problem with the fact, when he is powerless, he really deserves sympathy, but he should not be in Yuya comforting him, vicious words, complaining.
When Cheng Haonan told Yuya that he didn't want a second child and erased the credit of Yuya with the child, how much harm would be done to Youya, Cheng Haonan didn't think about it at all.
Yuya likes children so much, she really ignores the pressure of raising children, but between husband and wife, what they want is to work together. Yuya used to be carefree, but that was when she didn't know that the company was wrong, and when she knew, she began to be a good wife as much as possible, but Cheng Haonan didn't give her a chance and couldn't see her value.
Like the marriage between Youya and Cheng Haonan, without anything happening, it is impossible to be happy all the time, because in Cheng Haonan's heart, he and Youya are placed in an unequal position, and the company accident only accelerates the speed of contradictions between them.
Their marriage, most of the time, is also supported by material things, and this happens to be the powerless side of Yuya. A woman who has no income at any time has a hard time guaranteeing her life.
Stay-at-home moms have their own pains and joys, but don't give up the opportunity to make money.
I hope that every woman is content and firm, gentle and motivated, and this is happiness.