With the rapid development of society, there is now a popular word: fast food love.
In a society that promotes efficiency, love becomes an unattainable luxury.
Some people rush into your world, from strange to likable, in just a few days;
Then a few rhetorical words, and the good feeling quickly escalated into like.
The two people obviously have not yet deeply understood each other, and they have begun to love to death.
One day, the human set collapses, which means the end of the relationship.
Love like this that comes quickly and goes quickly cannot be called love at all, but at best it is a short-lived freshness.
So, in a relationship, how to judge a person, whether he really loves you?
The answer is actually not difficult, just look at the following points can be seen at a glance.
See if he can give you enough security
The sense of security that girls want is nothing more than the boy's heartfelt concern and care.
Not flowery words, not the promise of the mountain alliance and the sea oath;
Rather, it is the plain and firm stability that you can feel in his actions against you bit by bit.
Security is not a fleeting moment, but an ordinary and lasting state.
I have always felt that it is a thousand times more difficult to reassure a person than to surprise and move her.
Because no matter how affectionate the dialogue, no matter how expensive the gift, it is no more than that when you look back;
But to reassure her is a spreading, silent force.
And the so-called sense of security, more or less, can really feel the undistracted love of the partner;
And clearly see and hear your partner's continual use of actions and words to express his decision to stay in the relationship for a long time.
It's not that he has to say all the passwords to you to know, but even if you don't know them all, you're sure he won't make mistakes.
The sense of security is not that when you quarrel, he pulls you and puts his arms around you, but even in the cold war, you know that he will not let you go.
Security means that you trust him willingly, and at the same time he cherishes your trust unreservedly.
See if he knows you well enough
Writer Zhou Guoping said:
"Love is a desire to understand.
If you love someone, you can't help but want to know everything about her.
Take all her experiences and feelings as the most precious treasure, take care of it. ”
So if a person, he really loves you, then, he must know you well enough.
He may never have asked you what you like, but he knows your preferences very well.
It's not that he has something to call 'telepathy' with you, it's that he spends time with you.
In the process of getting along with you, he has observed you with care, or taken the initiative to ask your friends around you.
He knows what your favorite fruit is and will keep it for you at home for a long time;
He knows what kind of movies you like to watch, and when it is released, he will buy tickets in advance to take you to see it;
He knows what brand of lipstick you like, and when there is a new product, he will buy it for you.
……
He knows you far more than you think.
For example: when you forget your menstrual period, before the menstrual period, when you want to eat cold things;
He will remind you and stop you from doing so.
A lot of times, you'll be amazed at how well his memory is.
There are many things that even you don't remember, but he does.
In fact, it's not that he has a good memory, he just loves you too much.
Therefore, take everything related to you seriously and firmly remember it.
See if his love for you is firm enough
The male protagonist Henry in "Fifty First Loves" fell in love with the female protagonist Ruth at first sight.
After the conversation, they agreed to have breakfast together the next day, but the next day the girl did not know him at all.
Later, I learned from the owner of the snack bar that the girl had been in a car accident and had a temporary memory loss.
Every day before the car accident, I forget about new people and things.
Even so, the boy did not give up, but tried everything he could.
In order to make Ruth remember the bits and pieces of their time together, he insisted on recording videos and keeping a diary every day.
Ruth has no memory, but every time she meets him, she sings the same song.
In fact, she is also subconsciously in love with Henry.
Every time they 'meet for the first time', but each time they repeat falling in love with each other.
It's been like this, it never stops.
And this is probably the so-called true love.
Even though you don't remember me, my love for you remains unchanged.
If a man loves you from the bottom of his heart, then he will love you all.
Whether you are elegant, sloppy, decent, wretched, beautiful and ugly;
He will love you and spoil you.
As the phrase written in "Love Letters":
"I love you, not because there's only one of you here, but because I just want to love you alone."