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What is it like for a woman to marry?
From then on, he became a duckweed, his whereabouts were uncertain, and his mother's family was determined not to go back.
Whether it was in ancient times or now, everyone hopes that the daughters who marry out can become the glory of the mother's family, and no one hopes that they will all marry out of the house and come back to add to the blockage of the mother's family.
Daughters who are married far away are said to be the children lost by their parents, and the kites that their parents fly, and the daughter always feels that there is an invisible hand that drags herself back to her hometown where her dreams are haunted.
But sometimes, hometown is equal to other places.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > a woman's life, it's a gamble! Bet on happiness! Bet on tomorrow! Bet on a distant unknown! </h1>
We are here in a mountainous area, a small town, but there are many daughters-in-law from other places, women from other provinces: Guangdong, Shanxi, Jiangxi, Hubei and other regions, as well as Vietnamese and Korean daughters-in-law, and occasionally see one or two black people.
It is really easy for daughters-in-law from other provinces to integrate into the lives of locals, and it is really difficult for those daughters-in-law who marry in foreign countries to take root in the local area.
These women, usually follow their men everywhere, only in the New Year, they will return to the village around, there are familiar people pointing to their backs and saying that the woman next to him is a foreign girl.
Most of the men here are very concerned about the family, most of the money they earn is handed over to their wives for safekeeping, and they are very spoiled for their wives, but there are also problems with men's hearts.
I don't have much contact with these women, I've never spoken to them, or even if they'll say Chinese. I often wonder, these women marry so far, do they miss their mothers? Want to be home? If the husband and wife have conflicts and estrangement, there is no family to protect them, how lonely and lonely these women should be!
We have a Woman in Guangdong here, and whenever she has a New Year's dinner, she always gets drunk with her own tincture and then cries with a headache. This woman's man is very spoiled for her, knows that she is homesick, always has a look of pity, touches the woman's hair, and murmurs: When you earn money in the second half of the year, you will definitely take you back to your mother's house.
As a woman, the most painful thing is probably the process of cooking and laundry every day after marrying into the in-laws' family, taking care of other people's parents and mothers, getting along better and better with men's families, and gradually drifting away from their parents and relatives. Although many women understand that this is a process that a woman must go through in her life, this kind of disconnection is really quite cruel for a person.
I once read an article about a girl with a super rebellious personality who has been working against her father. The girl found a foreign object, and although her parents did not agree, the girl was determined to marry. The reason why parents do not agree is that they are reluctant to marry their daughters far away, afraid of their children suffering, and even more afraid of their children being lonely and lonely after being bullied. Young children, who understand the hearts of their parents? In the end, he chose to elope with the man and completely escaped the warm embrace of his parents.
The girl's mother, who could not let go of her child in the end, turned several cars when her daughter gave birth to a child, and went to see it once with great painstaking efforts. The mother invited her father to go with her, and the father refused, and the tone was very large, and this daughter resolutely refused to recognize.
The daughter has the same temper as her father, and often calls back, but never asks her father. However, every time the daughter chatted with her mother on the phone, the father did not go far, but had to walk around.
That year, the life of the daughter and son-in-law was greatly improved, and she was ready to take the child back to her mother's house. After the father knew, he was very happy, a few days in advance to prepare what his daughter loved to eat, at noon on the day when his daughter was coming, he suddenly remembered that there was no dried bamboo shoots that his daughter loved to eat at home, and in the winter, he rode out to buy it, until the daughter returned home, until the afternoon, and the father did not come back.
The family had a bad premonition and hurried out to look for it. At this time, the call of the traffic police came, the father was in the hospital, and the person was almost out of work...
Originally, there was a supermarket downstairs in the bamboo shoots, but my father was disgusted and insisted on going to the big supermarket in the distance to buy, and there was a car accident in the middle.
In the hall of the hospital, the daughter cried bitterly, threw her father to her knees, and issued a heart-rending cry: Dad! Forgive your daughter's filial piety...
A thousand words, a thousand words, all the reluctance and regret, all in the back of the ellipsis.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > a person who is praised by others often swallows a lot of grievances. </h1>
When it comes to the inequality between men and women, before marriage is just a microcosm, after all, the parents of the original family, for their children, the feelings are sincere, even if there is favoritism, the heart is still taken care of.
Girls marry people, no matter how old you are, the age of your in-laws, when you are at the top of the door, you will get along with you from an adult point of view, and you will be critical, and even pick and choose.
Many men look for a daughter-in-law, as long as they like it, other conditions are almost the same. However, the family members of men are much more demanding of these women, and they are like commentators one by one, who are extremely critical of women's image speech and behavior! Although sometimes, these women who marry in are much better than the original girls of these in-laws' families.
When they grow up, the days when they are about to marry are perhaps the happiest and most comfortable times in the lives of many young women.
There is a male member of the family who likes to comment on the daughters-in-law in the family the most, saying that this is sensible and that is not sensible, which arouses the anger and resentment of his own daughter-in-law - understanding means grievance, and being very sensible can be a good grasp!
A woman, if you become a very sensible person in the eyes of others, basically you are not far from being abandoned, in this life you have become the shadow of others, others will shape a monument for you, you are not setting up a tall image, absolutely cocooning yourself.
The cruelty of marriage now is that women are separated from their original families, using a young woman's little experience, superficial knowledge, and shy personality to fight against the man's entire family.
In a relationship, if you want to achieve true equality between men and women, the most important thing a man needs to do is to completely break away from the original family like his wife. Unfortunately, women are willing to make enemies with their parents for men, and when men encounter these obstacles, most of them want to change one, except for special love.
A woman's life is a battle process of slaying demons and exorcising demons, and if you break through, you can transform from an ugly duckling into a white swan. Sinking down, the end is absolutely miserable, either to pay for others for a lifetime, or to be alone, do not know from what year, month and day, he and his beloved, has become a stranger, gradually drifting away.
One of the most intuitive ways to judge a man's sincerity to himself is to see if this man is vigorously protecting you in front of his family members. When someone talks about not being sensible, will men justify a few words for you? Even if you are not good enough, whether the man will choose to be tolerant and understanding, even if he cannot be the enemy of his parents, whether he will use a flexible way, in a soft and loving way to give back to you.
Some people say that a woman has a place in a male family? It all depends on whether this man is a wife!
I think this sentence is absolutely reasonable.
A woman who is praised by others, especially a married woman, in addition to being particularly excellent and kind, there is also a point that is particularly bearable.
In married life, there are really too many women who live by perseverance!
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > daughter-in-law who is married out of wedlock, generosity and virtuousness are the first, how is life? Who can understand? </h1>
A woman's position in the in-laws' family, in addition to relying on men, is to rely on her own various conditions: her mother's family foundation, her own ability, and her in-laws' fit.
A woman who marries far away is equivalent to seeking defeat in loneliness, the mother's family is not expected, and the woman either rises in marriage, or endures in marriage, or cannot stand it and leaves.
There are many women, published in the vibrato, regret their long marriage, give birth to men, accompany men to work hard from the dust, and then men have an affair, and the feelings of the two people gradually drift apart. When a woman is in her thirties, she has become a person again, a foreign country that cannot be left, a hometown that cannot be returned, and the bitter fruit brewed by herself can only be swallowed alone in a lonely and uninhabited night.
If you marry locally, a woman and a man have a dispute in life, the woman can run away from home, can go back to her mother's house as a girlfriend, and can play laipi in her mother's house.
Most men who want to get by will definitely lick their faces and take their wives back.
If you marry far away, the woman just wants to go back to her mother's house, and she has to measure it again and again: How much does this trip cost? With or without children? What will the prognosis look like? Can you bear all the consequences?
A man is not at all afraid of women leaving, because he will leave the house before women, throw the home to the woman, and throw the child to the woman. There are even cold-blooded men, you can go back to your mother's house, you make up the road fee yourself, no one will send you away, no one will pick you up, in my eyes - you are a transparent person!
There is no intention of provoking the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but the vast majority of mother-in-law is really bullying soft and afraid of hard, knowing that the daughter-in-law who marries far away has no one to go to the bottom, and the behavior is much slacker.
Many daughters who are married far away are really very virtuous, warm-hearted, kind in nature, and generous are the vane of their work. But the problems in life, you give generousness to others, will only reduce the scale of others to treat you.
A woman posted on the Internet that in the days of long marriage, no few days are comfortable, quarrels are the norm, fights have been beaten, scolded and scolded, for the sake of the child has been hidden, just hope that you see in the original feelings, for the child can change, but in exchange for your intensification, wanton life, regardless of the attitude, the daily cold eyes, and the hopeless torment of future life.
Luckily, the mother's brothers and parents will rush over from far and wide to pick up their daughters. Where are the girls who have been abandoned by their parents and can't find a happy way out?
Unhappiness in marriage is estimated to be something that most married girls are likely to encounter, and this proportion is more pronounced among girls who marry out of the home, who are more traumatized.
Whether it is a woman who is married far away or married to the right door of the family, she must have a clear understanding of marriage - marriage is hello and I am good, hello everyone, the meaning of marriage is the icing on the cake, not in the snow.
Girls who are married to people, must abandon the mentality of entrustment, ask for others than to seek themselves, keep their marriage spiritually independent and economically independent, find the right person to marry, if the man loves you, even if it is earned! If not, when you give up marriage, you have enough confidence.
Thanks for the support (the picture originated from the network, invaded and deleted)
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