There is a topic about education that is a hot topic in any era, and it is also a topic that has a long history.
The most famous and well-known story is the Three Migrations of Meng Mu.
Mencius's achievements are also household names.
"Those who have attained the Tao have more help, and those who have lost the Tao have little help."
"Born of sorrow, died of comfort."
"The rich and the noble cannot be adulterous, the poor cannot be moved, and the mighty cannot be bent."
These words are imprinted in the DNA of Chinese.
These words come from Mencius, the "Yasheng", the thinker who preached "benevolent government" and was the first to extract "the people are noble and the king is light", and we are already familiar with his achievements.
The more extraordinary, the more it can be in stark contrast to his mischievous youth.
"Xi Mengmu, choose the neighbor." The child does not learn, the machine is broken. ”
Mengmu's education of Mencius can be described as one of the most successful educational cases.
The story of "Meng Mother and Godson" comes from the "Biography of The Daughters", which tells the story of Mengke, who lost his father when he was a teenager, when he was young, and lived near the cemetery, and Meng Ke learned to mourn. Moving to the vicinity of the vegetable market, Meng Ke shouted and drank, and the scholar's family shouted and sold. Moving again to the vicinity of the academy, Meng Ke began to study.
After Meng Mu moved three times, she finally found a good place to go. Who knew that Meng Ke did not settle down, abandoned his books, and skipped school to play. After Xiao Mengke's bad deeds were discovered, there was the story in the next picture:
In The Qing Dynasty Kang Tao's "Meng Mu Teaching Son", it is a simple figure painting.
Meng Mu stood on the edge of the loom, her left finger was half woven cloth, and in her right hand she held a knife and turned her head to look at her child. Meng Mu's expression was not furious and irritable, on the contrary, Meng Mu's expression was calm.
The mother was not angry and threatening, and Mengke carefully faced her mother's gaze. His expression was focused, extremely obedient to his mother, Mengke bowed slightly, arched his hands respectfully, his footsteps seemed to move back a little, and his trembling appearance was the epitome of all the children when they were criticized.
The painter's brushstrokes are carefully conceived, the lines are smooth and skilled, and the outline of the clothing pattern is vivid and delicate, which sets off the movements and behaviors of the characters. The expressions of the characters are simple and beautiful, and both the eyebrows and the eyes are full of emotion. The mother and son are dressed in simple clothes and wear a simple turban on their heads, which can be seen that the life of the mother and son is frugal and simple.
The simple brushstrokes will invest in the author's rich feelings, and imperceptibly arouse the rich associations of the viewer.
After Meng Mu broke off the machine, Meng Ke finally understood things and began his career in learning the sea.
For Meng Ke, this move of his mother should be quite shocking.
The mother's face has not yet shown a clear color, meng Ke is still respectful and respectful, polite and filial to the mother.
You can see the daily tutoring.
Therefore, we cannot use such a behavior as a one-size-fits-all success story.
However, the way Meng Mu and Meng Ke get along has more significance than everyone can learn.
Long Yingtai wrote in "Eye Sending":
The so-called father-daughter mother-son relationship only means that your fate with him is that in this life and this life, you are constantly watching his back drift away. You stand at this end of the path, watching him fade away into the bend of the path, and, silently telling you with his back, "No need to chase." ”
Even if a mother profoundly interprets maternal love with such gentle words, she still has no intention of letting go.
"Don't have to chase", after all, it is still "reluctant".
When a child is born into this world and comes into the arms of his parents, it is a joyful family.
As children grow, they are no longer just recipients of information to their parents.
They are also an exporter.
From lifestyle to emotional cognition, children gradually form their own cognitive system.
When the child's three views conflict with the parent's three views,
The fragility of the happiness of the family is fragile.
"When You Fly Like a Bird to Your Mountain" is an extreme counterexample, the story is changed according to the real experience of the author himself, the author Tara lived with his parents and brothers before the age of 17, they did not have a hukou, did not go to the hospital, all ideological education came from a schizophrenic and world-weary father.
Some of them remained loyal and following their father from beginning to end, while Tara and one of his brothers learned about the outside world through certain opportunities and formed an independent new outlook on life.
A family that used to stand on a horizon now has a world of difference in sight.
"Fish, I want it, bear paw, I want it."
Choosing one's family or one's self becomes a black-and-white, irreconcilable contradiction.
In the end, Tara chose her own life, she completed her studies and embraced the vast world.
The conflict between Meng Mu and Meng Ke erupted as a clash of two worldviews.
Meng Mu asked the child to learn from her, and Meng Ke chose the child's nature,
The so-called parents and children, who can escape this contradiction.
When children reach adulthood and parents grow old, new contradictions arise because of disagreement.
When the contradiction broke out, it was difficult to have the scene when Meng Mother taught her son.
Because of familiarity and understanding, it hurts even more when arguing.
Meng Mu's face was gentle, and she tried the Fa by herself, and she practiced a story of giving up halfway.
Meng Ke is pious and obedient, filial piety and courtesy, which is the respect and filial piety of the child to the mother.
The biggest feature of the way this mother and son get along is politeness, and they respect each other.
When I grow up, I think that in my childhood, my parents didn't teach me anything wrong.
After communicating with friends, almost everyone has such an idea.
We will blame our parents, complain about our parents, and even hate our parents.
So much so that we often forget:
In this world, it is precisely because of the love and nurturing of parents that the terrible loneliness is driven away,
Let's have the opportunity to be that unique star.
The family is the place where love is nurtured, it is strong and fragile, and as time goes by, it also needs to be cared for.
If we learn to listen politely, make adjustments and run-ins in a relationship, will the results be better?