"Explanation of Women's Ancient Poetry" No. 6: The first of the ancient Chinese virtuous mothers, Mengmu

Homeschooling is an age-old topic. Looking forward to the son of Jackie Chan and the hope of the daughter chengfeng is the goal of every generation of parents who work tirelessly. So, from ancient times to the present, what parenting experience can be learned?

What Mr. Mengman wants to share with us today is the story of Mencius's mother.

Mencius was a Confucian master after Confucius, and his ideas had a profound influence on future generations and had far-reaching significance. Mencius and Confucius were called "Confucius and Mencius". Later, people also called Mencius "Yasheng".

People are curious about outstanding great people who trace their family backgrounds. So, what kind of family was Mencius born into? How did his parents raise him to be talented?

In fact, the "Three Character Classic", which we are familiar with, tells us the story of Meng Mother's godson.

In the beginning of man, nature is good. Sex is similar, habits are far away. Sex is not taught, sex is migratory. The way of teaching is expensive and specialized. Xi Mengmu, choose the neighbor. The child does not learn, the machine is broken.

The two most sentences are "Xi Mengmu, choose the neighbor." The son does not learn, the machine is broken" said on the MengMu Three Migrations and the Mengmu Broken Weaving.

Mencius came out during the Warring States period. It is said that he is a descendant of the Mengsun clan of Lu Guogui, and by his father's generation, the family has declined.

Despite the decline of the family, reading has always been the ideal pursuit of the nobility. Thus, Mencius' father was well educated. However, when Mencius was still young, his father died, leaving his mother to support the family alone, and Xin Ru raised Mengzi as an adult.

At that time, Meng Mu took Mengzi to live in a place close to the cemetery, where drums were played every day. Mencius was a child, and it was the nature of a child to look like a child, so Mencius followed suit and learned some things to worship. Meng's mother thought that her son should not learn this, so she decided to move.

She took Mencius and moved to a market to settle down. The bazaar is a trading place, and the shouting and selling are endless every day. Therefore, Mencius also learned from the merchants and began to buy and sell. In Meng Mu's heart, she thought that Mencius was not the one who did these things. So, she moved again.

This time, Meng moved to a school. Here, Mencius became orderly, polite, and studied with Mr. Reading. At this time, Meng Mu was satisfied, thinking that this was the place where the child should live.

From the story of Meng's mother's three migrations, do we realize the importance of the environment to a child? Near Zhu is red, near ink is black. Whether it is the environment or the people around them, they all have a subtle impact on children. This is a valuable experience left to us by the ancients.

After telling the story of Meng Mu's three migrations, then, what is Meng Mu's broken weaving saying?

It is said that Mencius, like most of our children, grew tired of learning.

One day when he came home from school, Meng Mu was weaving cloth, and when she saw her son out of school, she asked him, "How is it studying?" Mencius said carelessly, "Same as yesterday!" When Meng Mu heard this, she was very annoyed. With scissors in hand, he cut off the cloth he was weaving. Frightened, Mencius quickly asked his mother what was going on.

Meng Mu said, "If you waste your studies, it will be like I cutting this cloth." Reading and studying is not a matter of a day or two, just like when I weave cloth, I must start from the thread one by one, and then weave it into cloth inch by inch, and the cloth can only be used if it is woven into a horse. And reading is also the truth, if you don't persevere, halfway through, how can you become a talent?

After Mencius listened, he suddenly realized that he had been learning from then on.

This is truly a wise mother, and she has truly done a good job. As we all know, as a single mother in the old days, it is not easy to survive. Meng Mu made a living by weaving cloth, and her act of cutting the cloth undoubtedly shocked Mencius, and her teachings were even more shocking and touched Mencius.

Therefore, celebrities of all generations have praised Meng Mu, and there are many poems about singing in praise of Meng Mu. For example, Zhu Yu's "Meng Mu Broken Machine Hall Poem":

Ya Sheng was still a child, and the three moved homes were nearly exposed to the book table. Madame is constantly in the machine, that shows the life of the world.

Another example is Xu Bing's "Gurudwara's Mother's Temple:

The godson worked hard to break the silk weaving, but the ancient loving mother was strict with the teacher. The hole gate is endlessly like a thread, and it continues to be at this time.

From this point of view, a mother has an influence on her son. Therefore, Teacher Mengman said that it was not Mencius who fulfilled his mother, but Mengmu who made Mencius. Meng Mu is ashamed of the title of great mother, and at the same time, she is also the mother of virtuousness and a model of morality. This can be seen from the story of Meng's mother's godson to avoid repudiating his wife.

Mencius came of age. One day, Mencius came home and saw his wife resting at home, sitting with her legs crossed. This was not allowed in ancient times when etiquette was emphasized. In ancient times, women sat on their knees with their legs together. Therefore, Mencius ran to his mother and told him, "My wife is not polite, please leave her." Meng Mu listened and asked him why? Mencius said, "She sat with her legs crossed. Meng Mu asked again, "How do you know?" Mencius said, "I saw it with my own eyes." ＂

What would Meng Mu say?

From ancient times to the present, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been a headache in China. The famous poet Lu You, because his mother beat the Mandarin duck with a stick, parted ways with Tang Wan, leaving regrets for eternity. There is also the Ming Dynasty Qing official Hai Rui, also because of his strong mother, and his relationship with several wives is not harmonious, giving people a handle. In modern times, there are also endless cases of the tension between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law affecting the family. It can be seen that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a major factor in family happiness.

Meng Mu knows this well. So she said to Mencius, "It's you who are rude, it's not that she's rude." Doesn't "Li" say that when you enter the gate, you must first ask who is inside? It's respect for people. When you want to go to church, be sure to speak aloud, which is to make people prepared. When you want to enter the inner room, you must look down so that you can't see what you shouldn't see. Now when you go to the place where your wife is idle and resting, you don't say a word before you enter the house, so that she sits like this so that you can see, this is not right, you in turn count the wife's not, is this not the end of the world?

You see, what a wise mother-in-law! She not only does not provoke trouble, but when it is critical, she enlightens her son, understands it, and maintains her son's small family. This is not only a kind of wisdom, but also a kind of open-mindedness and tolerance. Meng Mu influenced her son with her own character, and having such an excellent mother also created a generation of saints.

Shandong Inspector Yushi Zhong Huamin wrote:

Life godson, aiming to be bruised. Lady godson, aiming at Confucius. Ancient and modern, one person is alone.

The extraordinary thing about Meng Mu is that she gives her son different education and understanding at different stages, and never drags her son's hind legs.

When Mencius was unable to promote his political ideas in the State of Qi, he was eager to go to the State of Song, which was willing to promote his political ideas. However, considering his mother's advanced age, he was in a dilemma. After Meng Mu knew about it, she said to him: "When you are young, you follow your parents, when you get married, you follow your husband, and when your husband dies, you follow your son and Li Ye." Imako is an adult too, and I'm old! The Son acts in righteousness, and I act in my courtesy. ＂

The meaning of this passage is to tell Mencius to do what he should do, and the boy is determined to be in all directions. As a mother, we must follow her son's ambitions and support her son's ideas.

As an ancient woman, with such foresight and foresight, it is no wonder that she is revered as the head of the Chinese virtuous mother. Think of modern mothers, who are bent on kidnapping their children in the name of "love" and attaching themselves to them. Shame on you as much as the ancients!

The story of Meng Yuzi has been passed down for thousands of years, and once people regard it as a model of parenting, even to this day, it still has the role of reference. May the contemporary Bao Ma Andhu Mother take Meng Mu as an example and encourage her!