In Pride and Prejudice, most people are obsessed with the Bennet family's eldest daughters, Jane and Bentley, and Elizabeth's love affair with Darcy. Compared with these two exciting loves, the marriage of the third daughter Lydia and Wickham is pale, but the marriage is extremely educational.
The tragedy caused by her elopement for love has awakened modern women, girls, who should think about their own lives.
Lydia grew up with Jane and Elizabeth, but their styles of behavior and concepts of love are very different. Jane and Elizabeth have self-respect and self-love when they get along with men, and they are not humble.
Elizabeth's love affair with Darcy falters for a long time, because Darcy says insulting words to Elizabeth, causing Elizabeth to have a bad impression of Darcy.
It wasn't until the two began to get along and understand each other that Darcy solemnly apologized to Elizabeth for what he had said, that the two closed the gap and slowly approached.
In addition to not allowing Darcy to insult herself, Elizabeth also valued the reputation of her sisters. As a friend of Bentley's, Darcy only saw it through a few faces, and one-sidedly labeled Elizabeth's sister Jane, thinking that she was a woman who hated poverty and loved the rich, and was good at fishing for men.
This made Elizabeth furious. She and Darcy quarreled fiercely, and the two had a disagreement.
At darcy's confession, Elizabeth rejects him, explicitly telling Darcy that her sister Jane is not that kind of person. While maintaining her dignity, Elizabeth also protected her family, not only protecting her own reputation, but also protecting the reputation of her family. In this relationship, Elizabeth loves very sensibly, she has not lost herself, and she knows what she really wants.
Among the Bennet sisters, Jane, like Elizabeth, loves reason, never let the love brain overcome her own reason, and protects her reputation while loving others. The opposite of them is Lydia, the third daughter of the Bennet family, who is like an alternative being.
Lydia liked the handsomeness of the officers, and after meeting Wickham, she was even more trapped in it, unable to extricate herself, and the relationship between the two progressed rapidly. In a short time, the two men planned to elope. Lydia secretly leaves with Wickham without the family knowing.
After learning that Lydia and Wickham had eloped, the Bennet family panicked and rushed to send someone to recover Lydia and Lydia, and Darcy rushed to save them after learning about this, helping the Bennett family to find Lydia and Wickham.
In this elopement, Lydia was clearly the one who was hurt the most. Throughout the ages, women have always been in a weak position, and social rules require that women should be virtuous and virtuous, abide by women's morality, and their speech and behavior must abide by norms. The act of elopement, in the society of that time, was undoubtedly contrary to human morality and lost good morality.
But Lydia, who plunged into love, did not care about the world at all, as long as she could be with the person she liked, she was satisfied. As everyone knows, such a childish act is quite detrimental to his reputation.
She had no sense of self-preservation and was seduced by Wickham to elope easily, without the slightest concern for the consequences. If it were not for the Bennett family and Darcy's best efforts to save, try to cover up, and bribe Wickham with money to facilitate his marriage to Lydia, then Lydia would face the abandonment of the whole society, and she would not be able to stand in the world. The tragedy caused by that time will be irreparable. But Lydia couldn't see through this layer, and love blinded her eyes.
If a man truly loves you, he will think about your future and reputation, plan for your future, rather than pushing you to the margins of society by violating morality.
On the other hand, when Lydia did not know Wickham very well and did not know her well, she dared to elope with Wickham and completely abandon her reputation, and she did not understand what kind of person Wickham was, nor did she know whether Wickham would marry her after the elopement was discovered, but she was extremely irresponsible to herself.
In a relationship between the sexes, instead of expecting the other party to think about their reputation, life and future, it is better to make plans for themselves. Only a woman who lives transparently and soberly can live this life well.
Such was the case with Lydia, who had never thought about herself from beginning to end, but had only indulged in the false love that Wickham had orchestrated, and the consequences of which Wickham had never considered for her.
Whether before or after elopement, Wickham was thinking only about money. Before the elopement, he wanted to rely on the elopement of the two to blackmail the Bennets for money. After the two were caught, he did not want to marry Lydia, until he extorted a large sum of money from Darcy and saw that Darcy's feelings for Elizabeth were so sincere, he agreed to marry Lydia.
His purpose, from start to finish, was to get money. Even if they are married, it is for Elizabeth and Darcy's sake, that is, Lydia's marriage is dependent on her sister.
Lydia is fortunate that she has sisters like Elizabeth and Jane. But in real life, the girls do not have such a powerful and sober family member, what kind of life tragedy will the "Lydias" face?
Not every girl is fortunate to have a native family of equal strength, not every time we encounter difficulties, the original family can give us advice and solve problems.
Therefore, you need to understand a little as soon as possible: relying on parents will grow old, relying on brothers and sisters, they can help you for a while, can not help for a lifetime. The last thing everyone can rely on is themselves.
When in love, you should keep your sanity, do not love the brain, the other party's conditions are not good, the family distance is far away, the two sides are not right, the three views are not in harmony, no matter how the parents oppose, you are plunged into it.
Not to mention being as reckless and childish as Lydia, for love, desperate for the consequences, following men. In the end, it is you who suffer losses.
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