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The "Goodbye Lover" program group wrote a letter to all the guests, and there was a sentence in the letter to Zhang He: "On May 9, in a tea room in Beijing, you told the confusion about your ten-year marriage, why why, and there are 100,000 whys about your marriage, which is our first impression of you and the beginning of our trust in each other." ”
From this passage, we can read that Zhang He was unwilling to accept his ten-year marriage at the beginning, making him seem to be more aggrieved.
Zhang He came to "Goodbye Lover", according to him, to find out what was going on, to find a worth for his past decade.
Listening to his narration, it was as if Guo Keyu was so indifferent in marriage, as if he had become like this, Guo Keyu had caused guo Keyu, and how bad Guo Keyu's life had become if he did not love him and marry him.
At first, I was biased by Zhang He, and I also thought that Guo Keyu was a very cold literary and artistic woman in life, and a kind of woman who did not eat fireworks in the world, but when I saw the end of the show, I found that I was wrong, especially when Guo Keyu sang, I was unconsciously attracted to her, her smile, and the words she said were very ear-catching.
Listen carefully to this passage that Guo Keyu said:
"I'm very honest, in fact, I have had many struggles in my heart, I think, we must be separated for a reason, this is so, when Zhanghe was in his twenties, his mother died, and then I once talked to my third aunt, and the third aunt said that his mother wrote a lot of letters to the third aunt before she died, and the letter paper was all held together, and there were many tear marks on it. I think I am also a mother now, I am also the mother of a son, in the future my son will also have his feelings, I hope they are kind to each other, heart to heart, she must not want to hurt each other like that. Then my choice today, my mother-in-law, she must also understand, people have too many faces, no one is perfect, because we are separated, I want to format a lot of things, I want to remember his good, and then I want to start again in my career, then I go by myself, take it slowly, anyway, I do what I like to do. Female numbers are OK, I like. Then I hope that Zhang He's career can develop better, I am willing to believe in my eighteen days, in ten years I have not seen Zhang He cry, I see, I am willing to believe your tears. ”
Guo Keyu had already made her relationship with Zhang He very clear.
For the sake of her son, she did not want to hurt each other with Zhanghe, so after the divorce, she and Zhanghe belonged to each other and treated each other kindly. Guo Keyu is very sensible, she has grievances and unwillingness in marriage, even if Zhang He is not good, she has formatted it. Those are all things of the past for her, she doesn't want to ask anything more, now she just wants to live well herself, want to do a good career.
Regardless of whether Zhang He is sincere or not, Guo Keyu said that he is willing to believe Zhang He's tears, you see, Guo Keyu always looks at everything with a warm heart. She did not complain about the past marriage, including Zhang He, only gratitude.
Guo Keyu's attitude to life is a big pattern, she is a person who bears a lot of negative energy on herself, leaves the beautiful to everyone, deletes and formats those that are not beautiful, and she does not want to show the unpleasant things to everyone.
Guo Keyu is very frank, why so many people like her in the end, it is because of her honesty.
In the past ten years of marriage, Guo Keyu was the most aggrieved one, not Zhang He.
Zhang He said something with a conscience in Fan Wai, but he did not apologize to Guo Keyu:
"In fact, I also have a passage that I only remembered today, that is, the last paragraph that was about to end, I saw her car stop, she was crying when she came down, and then I suddenly felt that she should have a lot of grievances in this decade, that is, this grievance, may be some of the places where I did not do well, and she felt that she was very tolerant of me in the whole eighteen days, and I had a lot of impatient things in my life, and she was sexually tolerant of me. So she didn't want to talk about this thing, but as I said, I wanted to say this thing, this decade has not been easy, hard work, or thanks. ”
Did Guo Keyu just cry when he got out of the car?
Zhang He didn't realize from the beginning to the end why Guo Keyu was crying? In fact, Guo Keyu is a very strong woman, but as long as she mentions her past ten years of sacrificing her career for her family, she will cry, and she will cry every time she mentions it. The first time she was questioned by Zhang He about whether she loved or not, she cried when she mentioned her career; Guo Keyu cried even more bitterly when she was asked in "The Ultimate Thirty-Six Questions"; and when she got out of the car, Guo Keyu cried very badly.
Zhang He rarely paid attention to Guo Keyu's emotional changes.
Can you imagine, in their past ten years of marriage, what kind of life did Guo Keyu live?
The two people could not communicate together, Guo Keyu sacrificed his career to be a virtuous wife, take care of the children and take care of her husband, but in Zhang He's view, she was pampered, after all, when she was bored, she could still watch movies and read books, which was a luxury thing. Zhang He felt that Guo Keyu was an artist who did nothing at home, and he had to work hard to earn money outside. Zhang He was very impatient, and if Guo Keyu did not answer the answer he wanted, he would be angry. Guo Keyu sent him "what time is the plane", Zhang He felt very strange after seeing it, and only Guo Keyu would say such strange love words. All the details of Guo Keyu's life, Zhang He could not pay attention to, nor did he want to listen to her inner voice.
Over time, Guo Keyu didn't want to say anything.
Ten years of marriage is internal friction for Guo Keyu, because she herself has digested too many negative energy things.
Ten years of marriage is a grievance for Guo Keyu, as long as she cries when she mentions the past, she is crying for herself.
A woman sacrifices her career during the upswing of her career, gives birth to a child, and then takes care of the child wholeheartedly, only to be seen as a pampered person by the man next to her. Your suffering in marriage, the difficulties you face with your children, the man who should have borne it with you does not understand you, how uncomfortable you should be.
I wrote an article earlier, but any woman who has brought her own children will understand Guo Keyu, and only young unmarried women will appreciate Zhang He.
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Remember the part when Zhang He asked Guo Keyu whether he loved him or not, he had to hear Guo Keyu say that he loved him, was it necessary? Guo Keyu has already said that he does not regret that decade, this is not what love is, how do you want a woman to say love.
In many cases, Zhang He is very aggressive.
Zhang He told a parking lot story in "The Ultimate Thirty-Six Questions", because Guo Keyu said that he could not speak so loudly to the security guard, but Zhang He said that the security guard was wrong, he had to do this (to solve the problem quickly), he also felt that he was right, and he had to get Guo Keyu to approve of his approach, and Guo Keyu was very angry if he did not approve of him. I think Zhang He is very interesting, you quarreled with a parking lot security guard and won, you think you are very glorious, don't you? Why can't you talk well? It has to be a very bad attitude towards people.
Guo Keyu was a persuasion, and Zhang He was angry with her because she persuaded him, which was quite speechless.
It's a very small thing, and they don't know how many of these things there are in the ten years they've lived.
There is also Zhang He who asks Guo Keyu to accept his friends and enter his circle of friends. People Guo Keyu said, I am not ignorant of things, you still let people what to do, that is your friend, you want her to show how enthusiastic. I think Guo Keyu's reaction is exactly very normal, but Zhang He is very small and childish, as if he has to get some proof, is it interesting? Fight over these things.
In addition, many netizens questioned Guo Keyu's point, saying that she was going to take care of her ex. Notice how Guo Keyu speaks, Guo Keyu is taking the initiative to praise Zhang He, in a narrative tone, Zhang He said to her that "if he takes care of him, he can accept it", which is to praise Zhang He's generosity. Guo Keyu did not take care of the ex who had suffered a stroke, but said that he had such an idea, and then mentioned it to Zhang He, and Zhang He's attitude made her quite moved. This is something that didn't happen, and I dare to say that if it really happened, Zhang He might not be able to accept it, so he also put the word "generosity" on his face.
Zhang He often intimidated Guo Keyu, Guo Keyu was just joking, he was so angry on the line, he was a big macho person. Taking care of children as what a woman should do, and the hardships that should be suffered, guo Keyu did not understand.
How does a woman's love in marriage change bit by bit?
When she wants to tell you something but doesn't dare to tell it because she's afraid you'll dislike her; when she wants to share something with you, your reaction is that you don't want to hear it, and you think she's rambling; when she asks you what time the plane is, and she has some nagging about you, you'll feel annoyed. Over time, she was reluctant to say anything, very disappointed, and little by little disappointment gradually accumulated into despair, so she used "our marriage without love" to comfort herself that she was just marrying the wrong one.
I hope that Guo Keyu's future can have love and health and freedom.
It is difficult to struggle out of the marriage of internal friction, and for the rest of your life, please love yourself and have a good career, because there are too many people who like you. As for Zhang He, he used to be confused, so he didn't understand Guo Keyu in marriage, hoping that Zhang He could reflect on himself.
It was good that the two of them did not remarry, because Zhang He was not worthy of Guo Keyu at all.
In that ten years of marriage, Zhang He had nothing to be wronged about, Guo Keyu should give you everything, and the most aggrieved one was Guo Keyu, because she alone really bore too many things. Zhang He should apologize to Guo Keyu, and even more should say thank you to Guo Keyu. In the future, don't pull Guo KeYuli's affectionate person anymore, Zhang He, you are not wronged, not at all.
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