My parents prefer sons to daughters, and now that I am a mother, why do I only love my son?

2021-10-28 22:41:52

My daughter always said that I was partial to my brother and only loved my brother. When I think about it, it seems like my anger really rarely targets my son, and my daughter contracts 90% of my anger.

Why is that?

My daughter has a bad temper, is very impetuous, has a stubborn personality, likes to fight with adults, or ignores the words of adults, and cries at every turn.

It's like today at lunchtime, my daughter drew a side drawing and asked me how many points I scored, and I said 60. Then she asked why, and I told her that it wasn't very well drawn and it wasn't colored, hoping she could paint better.

Then she asked me, is it possible that she can get 100 points by coloring?

I replied to her, "It depends on how you paint it!" ”

Then she went to color, and within a minute, she was making a fuss in the room, saying all kinds of ugly things with all her anger, and to be honest, I was really annoyed to see her making such a fuss. So every time my daughter went on a rampage, I couldn't control myself and started to run wild.

However, my son has a very good personality, he does not treat everyone with a violent situation, and he rarely cries, no matter how angry I am, as soon as he opens his mouth, my anger will all disappear. Because, he didn't talk in a collision, it has always been a kind of baby cavity peculiar to children, unlike my daughter, who would say angrily:

"Bad Mom!"

"Deception!"

"Don't believe Mom anymore!"

"I don't love my mother anymore!"

……

I'm not sure if my daughter's unstable mood is related to her going to kindergarten too early and having severe separation anxiety.

My daughter was just over two and a half years old and went to kindergarten, and she would have to wear diapers. Now, my son is about to turn three years old, and after some consideration, I decided to send him to kindergarten again next year.

The reason why I sent my daughter to kindergarten so early, on the one hand, is that her language development is relatively good, she has begun to call her mother around eight months, and she can answer with adults at about one year old, so when she was two and a half years old, send her to kindergarten, I did struggle, is it too early to send her. However, I thought about it myself, if I don't send it to kindergarten, she is bored at home alone, only watch cartoons, it is not good for her eyes, it is better to go to kindergarten to learn something with the teacher, and children play with her, but this is just my own idea, my daughter may not think so.

First of all, she spent a long time in kindergarten to adapt, and in the first and second years, she was very resistant to going to kindergarten, crying when she mentioned kindergarten, saying not to go to kindergarten.

Once when she went to the supermarket, she saw a box of crystal clay that she particularly liked, and she asked me to buy it for her, and grinded it there for a long time. Then I said, you go to kindergarten tomorrow, I'll buy it for her, and then, very dryly, Mom, I don't want it, and then take my hand and go home.

But even so, I insisted on keeping my daughter in kindergarten, because these things, once they started, could not stop, and I could not make her feel that going to school was a thing to go to, including taking time off and leaving early.

Stepping on my daughter's pit and treating my son's going to kindergarten, I began to be cautious, first of all, my son's language development is far from keeping up with my daughter, in addition, my son is not alone at home, when my daughter is at home, she plays with him, my daughter goes to class, he will watch cartoons, and then he will play with toys. Rarely bothers me.

From my daughter's point of view, I am patriarchal, because I rarely scold my brother, and I always ask a lot of demands on her, but I love them as much as I do.

In fact, I also wanted to treat my daughter peacefully, but once she made a fuss without reason, I immediately lost control.

So is there any way I can control myself when my daughter runs away?

My parents prefer sons to daughters, and now that I am a mother, why do I only love my son?

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