Wen 丨 Xiong Dad (original article, copyright belongs to me, welcome mothers to forward and share)
<h1 class="pgc-h-decimal" data-index="01" > introduction</h1>
For children, the most adequate sense of security often comes from their parents, so when they encounter danger outside, they usually seek help from their parents as soon as possible. But for parents, in the issue of children's education, we must find the right way and method, if you will only let the child "lead the nose", it is likely to cause some adverse consequences.
<h1 class="pgc-h-decimal" data-index="02" > 7-year-old son was beaten to find his father's support, and his father silently hugged a bunch of clothes, but it triggered wild praise from netizens</h1>
Xiao Wang's son is seven years old this year, because he is a boy, so the son is usually more mischievous, often to the parents to cause a lot of trouble, one day, the son returned home with a scarred face, and cried to Xiao Wang for help, saying that he was beaten by other children at school, so he hoped that the father could go to himself "support", in the face of his son's request, Xiao Wang did not immediately refuse, but asked the son "Then what do you want me to do?" The child replied, "Go beat them, if you can, it is best to bring a brick to smash them", after listening to his son's words, Xiao Wang first calmed the child's emotions, then went upstairs, and after a while he took a pile of clothes from upstairs and said to his son: "Okay, now I can help you beat them." ”
In the face of his father's behavior, the son expressed puzzlement, so he asked his father: "Aren't we going to fight, why should we bring so many clothes", Xiao Wang replied: "If we use bricks to shoot them, then we have to be responsible for our own behavior, we need to live in prison for a while, so I need to bring enough clothes for us", for the father's explanation, the child was obviously frightened, and rushed to say to the father "Then we don't beat them", seeing the son change the doctrine, Xiao Wang asked: "Are you sure, But they bully you", the child said: "Sure, Dad, we don't want to hit people" The original fight storm, successfully resolved under Xiao Wang's wit, I have to say that Xiao Wang's practice is still very worthy of our reference and learning, then, when the child encounters similar problems in the process of growing up, how should parents educate their children?
<h1 class="pgc-h-decimal" data-index="03" > How should parents properly educate their children when they have feelings of revenge because of fights with others? </h1>
1, do not give the child a big reason, but "understand and support" the child's behavior
When the child is treated violently by others, go home to seek the help of the parents, the parents must not act impulsively because the child is injured, and do not tell the child a lot of useless truths in order to dissuade the child, when the child has more excited emotions, the parents should first learn to think from the child's point of view, through the practice of telling the child "I am on the same front as you", in this way, first let the child have enough trust in themselves. And tell the child that I understand and support your behavior and am willing to bear the consequences with you, in which case the child will often analyze whether it is worth paying such a big price to do it, so as to give up his original impulsive thoughts.
2. Give your child enough time to think calmly
When the child's emotions are more excited, parents should not try to let the child calm down immediately, but should be within the controllable range, let the child vent their emotions reasonably, and learn to listen, leave enough space for the child to vent and think calmly, and when the child calms down, parents can try to analyze what consequences may occur when the child does this, and correctly guide the child, so as not to make some bad behaviors because of the impulse.
3. Analyze the consequences of doing this to your child
For children, they often can not distinguish what adverse effects may be caused by doing a thing to themselves, when the emotion comes up, children often can not let themselves think calmly, at this time, parents have to act as a good child "guiding light" role, when the child tries to make some bad behavior, parents should find and dissuade them in time, and seriously inform the child, what serious consequences may be caused by doing so, and tell the child that fighting needs to pay a price, Sometimes even need to be punished by the law, in this way, let the child realize the seriousness of the problem and give up his own behavior.
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