In family life, many parents either see that their children are not pleasing to the eye, or see that their children have made mistakes, or encounter unpleasant things at work, and always vent their emotions on their children. If you have the ability, don't throw a tantrum at your children, you know, throwing tantrums at your children is a manifestation of incompetence, not to guide your children, but to ruin the child's personality growth, make him more and more stupid, and make him unable to raise his head in front of everyone, become extremely introverted, and even suffer from depression.
Please don't lose your temper with the child, don't use your so-called education - temper to discipline the child, as soon as you use the temper to manage the child, your anger and fire can not control themselves, run to the child's head, destroy the child's spirit, add a tight hoop spell to the child's head, give birth to a temper on the fire, add a tight hoop spell. Accumulated over time, more and more tight curses, the virtual tight curse will become the child's real headache, you will also suffer from stomach pain and other diseases, both harming the child and harming yourself, the child's sexual spirit is firmly imprisoned and damaged, wisdom has nothing to do, the more you want him to learn well, his learning will be more and more bad, and the expectations of parents are more and more contrary to the way.
Throwing a tantrum at a child is not an education for a good child. A gentleman asks for his own self, to correct himself, to change his character, and you will change if you become a child. "Children and grandchildren don't care, all rely on morality and sexiness" This is a profound truth, to change our temper and temperament of anger and anger. For children, we should adopt a "spontaneous" education method, the rate is the commander,The child's sexuality should be guided to the good side, and the child's advantages should often be found to affirm the child's shining place, and encourage the child more. While praising, persuade and guide children to correct bad habits and hobbies. Help your child unlock the treasure of sexuality.
If you think about it, annoying temper is a negative virus, which harms others and harms oneself. Especially between relatives, they cherish each other very much, care about each other, and have a heavy heart. The more annoying the temper, the more harmful it is to the other party. The probability of relatives living together and being hurt by each other's troubles and tempers is very high, and the disease is slowly accumulated, from virtual to real, from light to heavy. Resentment hurts the spleen; it hurts; it hurts the lungs; it hurts the liver; it hurts the kidneys. Everyone should be vigilant and not underestimate the daily small troubles and tempers. The of a thousand miles collapsed in the ant nest. Most of the reasons why people are generally in a sub-healthy state in middle age are mainly due to disturbing unhealthy temperaments.
You can observe that parents who lose their temper with their children, his children not only have important exams that do not go well, their work is not smooth, their marriage is not smooth, all kinds of suppression setbacks are one after another, and the blessings are very thin! Why? Throwing a tantrum once and destroying the good karma of a hundred great calamities, so there is no blessing to enjoy, and there is no blessing for children to enjoy for themselves. And the parents are rude, the children will also lose their temper with the parents, and the children will not have their own blessings because they resist the confrontation with their parents.
The child is an independent person, he wants to grow up on his own, and he can only grow up on his own, and he will devote himself to life in the future. The child's psychological state, way of thinking and adults are not the same, put the adult's ideas on the child's head, forcing the child to do things according to his own wishes, it is inevitable that it is out of place, because the child has the child's independent thoughts, has an independent mind, has his world view, because the child is an independent person, if any parent ignores this, then he will never be able to cultivate an outstanding next generation, which is natural.
For children, understanding and respect is not equal to coddling, but trust in children, parents should carefully find the positive factors in the child, correctly support, carry forward, and overcome those negative factors. Listen to your child's every word and understand everything your child does. We must boldly encourage children to speak and give children the right to speak; we must boldly encourage children to do things and give children the courage to do things. Do not ignore the adult's few words and small things, because this is a channel of communication with the child, this is a gesture of respect for the child, and it is also a manifestation of seeing the child as an independent person.
In the past, many parents often regarded educating their children as a lesson, and every education as a lesson. In fact, education is not simply reasonable, let alone education as a lesson. The atmosphere of each day in the family, the relationship between family members, the family's evaluation of various social things, the visit to family life, etc., all of this shapes the young mind of the child all the time.
Many parents have a very strong psychology of making up for it, what they lose in their childhood must not be lost in their children, they must be fished back from their children; what they did not get in their childhood must be let their children get; the suffering they suffered in childhood, never let their children suffer again... As a result, many parents have chosen cruel means to impose their own interests and hobbies on their children: buying pianos, learning art, participating in various tutoring classes, etc., stifling and depriving children of their own interests and hobby requirements, resulting in today's rich children, life is not happy and happy. They feel like they are living under high stress and have no freedom and happiness of their own.
Some parents complain that their children do not understand things at all and do not understand the parents' thoughts. In fact, the approach of these parents is too harsh. Children are tired of reading and want to go out to play ball, parents will say: no time, play ball can play diploma? When the child is sleepy, not only does the parents not comfort the child to go to sleep, but also repeatedly prompts the child to fight continuously. When the child asks to see the cartoon, the mother's face will be pulled to the elder: don't waste time. In short, in a word, it is to let the child climb to the top of the pyramid.
The above parents who are "afraid of wasting time" should stop here, and we can't use our excessive desires to stifle their children's childhood. Losing childhood will bring a lot of pain and misfortune to a child's life. Should parents seriously think about it?