After Liang Liang was scratched by Xiao Xiao

Liang Liang was scratched by Xiao Xiao

Pick up the baby from school in the afternoon, and find that the baby's white face has several red marks, which is obvious! Just about to inquire, Teacher Yang called me and another parent together to explain the reason for the matter: "When Liang Liang passed by Xiao Xiao's desk, he accidentally touched Xiao Xiao's painting with a pen, Xiao Xiao thought that he had been violated, stood up violently and grabbed Liang Liang's face, and caught himself crying loudly. I've had the two of them recognize each other's mistakes and apologize to each other. I also helped him deal with the bright face. I'm sorry we didn't look after the kid and let him get hurt. Looking at Liang Liang's scratched face, although I was distressed, I still chose to forgive.

I was observing Xiao Xiao

In the following period of time, from time to time, Xiao Xiao got Xiao Xiao's information from the child: today Xiao Xiao scratched Nian Nian's face; tomorrow Xiao Xiao scratched Tong Tong's arm; the day after tomorrow Xiao Xiao broke Yunyun's head... For a time, the parents in the class felt deeply dangerous and fearful, afraid that the next to be injured was their own baby. Xiao Xiao's parents apologized to people everywhere, and their hearts were haggard.

In contact with Xiao Xiao's parents, I don't think they are unreasonable people, but I think they are more peaceful. So when I sent the child in the morning, I paid attention to observe it, and found that this Xiao Xiao never did morning exercises, and since his mother sent him to kindergarten, he has been following his mother with both eyes.

Mom said, Xiao Xiao, you go to, Mom is gone. ”

Xiao Xiao would cry and hug her mother, unwilling to be separated from her mother.

The mother said: "Xiao Xiao, my brother is still waiting for my mother at home, I can't see my mother, my brother will cry!" ”

Xiao Xiao listened to this, reluctantly let go of her mother, pushed her mother and said, "Mother go quickly, my brother is hungry!" Then he stood there staring blankly at his mother, tearful.

Conversation with Xiao Xiao's mother

Because of Xiao Xiao's affairs, Xiao Xiao's mother and I gradually became familiar with each other.

"My family Xiao Xiao was not like this before, it may be that he was originally in the fourth grade, to the senior class as a transfer student, more sensitive to the unfamiliar environment, so he will make a stress response." Xiao Xiao's mother said.

"It is reasonable to say that Xiao Xiao has been in this class for a semester, and in this semester, I have not heard the children talk about Xiao Xiao having these stress reactions!"

"That's it!" Xiao Xiao's mother also felt very confused, was the child's reaction too slow?

"I heard that you are now promoted to the second treasure mother, you must be very happy, right?"

"Yeah, I gave Xiao Xiao a younger brother again!" Mentioning Xiao Bao, Xiao Xiao's mother smiled and blossomed.

"Xiao Xiao likes her brother very much! As soon as school ends, I always circle around my brother! ”

"Then you must be very busy, taking care of the baby takes a lot of energy and time!"

"Yeah, I'm exhausted every day."

"That is to say, you don't have much energy to take care of Xiao Xiao now, and you don't have the energy to accompany him?"

"Xiao Xiao has grown up and understood things!"

"Xiao Xiao's mother, do you recall carefully that Xiao Xiao's 'stress response' began with the birth of his younger brother?"

Xiao Xiao's mother thought about it with a serious face and said, "Oh, you didn't say that I really didn't expect it." Your reminder, I think about it, is really ah! ”

I smiled and said, "Although Xiao Xiao is a sensible child, after all, he is only six years old, and he is at an age when he is spoiled by his parents, and during this sensitive period, his brother suddenly stole his parents' love, and his heart will inevitably be lost!" ”

Xiao Xiao's mother said excitedly: "Thank you, Liang Liang's mother, I know how to do it!" ”

The lively and cheerful Xiao Xiao returned

Xiao Xiao's mother is a cheerful and neat person, and she will do it when she says. Soon, she took her mother-in-law to help take care of Xiao Bao, she insisted on picking up Xiao Xiao every day, and after picking up Xiao Xiao in the afternoon, she was not in a hurry to go home, but took Xiao Xiao and her friends to play in the park for a while and then brought home. Parent-child companionship time is more, Xiao Xiao's face has appeared a long-lost smile, and getting along with his friends is getting along more and more harmoniously, within half a month, he has not heard any negative news about Xiao Xiao's arrest.

One day, Xiao Xiao's mother said to me with great emotion: "Seriously, Liang Liang's mother, because of Xiao Xiao's matter, during that time, our husband and wife were really anxious, and they couldn't understand it, and they were really a little crazy." Since I talked to you that day, it's really enlightening! Now I try to allocate time to Xiao Xiao as much as possible, so that he can fully feel the arrival of his brother and not the love of his parents. His mood relaxed, the previous lively and cheerful baby is back, really thank you so much! ”

I laughed and said, "Isn't there a saying that 'companionship is the longest confession of affection'?" Children's sense of security mainly comes from their parents. After many families have the second treasure, they will shift the focus of attention from the big treasure to the second treasure at once, and often come to the 'big treasure, you have a younger brother, to understand things' 'big treasure, you have to let the younger brother' 'big treasure, don't grab toys with the younger brother' and so on, which will make the big treasure feel confused and confused, and will subconsciously think that his parents no longer love him, but he will not express it. Xiao Xiao's previous attack behavior should be because after his brother was born, the environment in your family changed, and he made such a stress response. Fortunately, your mother's reaction is also very fast, and you are doing things vigorously, so your family Xiao Xiao can also quickly come out of that state, congratulations! ”

Xiao Xiao's mother said approvingly while listening: "Liang Liang Mom, you are too right, let's add a WeChat friend, and often contact you in the future!" ”

My thoughts

It is often seen that parents have evolved into a "war" because of conflicts between their children. In fact, when I found the glaring scratches on Liangliang's face that day, my first reaction was also very angry! My cute baby, that is the existence of "holding it in his hand for fear of falling, holding it in his mouth for fear of melting", how can he allow others to hurt him like this! But after listening to the teacher's introduction of the incident, I quickly forced myself to calm down. Now that things have happened, irreparable, anger and madness will not help, it will only make things worse! Moreover, years of research on the psychology and behavior of young children have also led me to believe that there are no inherently bad children, and only children who are not paid attention to and lack love will show abnormal behavior.

By privately paying attention to a series of behaviors of Xiao Xiao and reminding Xiao Xiao's mother in time to change her children by changing herself, she actually received unexpected results. Xiao Xiao's problems have been successfully solved, the children in the class can learn and play happily together again; the parents have no worries; and I have also gained the trust and friendship from Xiao Xiao's mother and other children's parents. It's really a great thing to kill three birds with one stone!