There will be a lot of truth in our lives, and if we can know it early, we can live a good life. There will also be a lot of truth in our love, and those who understand these truths early can also harvest happiness in love.
But these truths, for people with less life experience, often will not understand and will not take it seriously, only those who have experienced it, will understand and believe, in the future in love will suffer less and less.
It doesn't matter if young people have less experience and don't understand so many truths, there are many people in this world who are older than us, and what they say can be listened to, because these are summed up after they have personally experienced it.
Song Dandan is one of them, some time ago she was suddenly praised by netizens for being sober in the world, some netizens took screenshots of some of the love sentiments she published on Weibo ten years ago, netizens read it and felt that it was reasonable.
These truths are often understood by those who have experienced them, because people who have not yet experienced them still hold very beautiful fantasies about love and cannot listen to any big truths.
I picked out three of these truths that are more common and easy to be ignored by people, and analyze them well.
First, there are only three words in a woman's life called "relying on yourself", in case someone sues you, you can rely on him, you don't really believe, he can rely on a moment, rely on a lifetime without drama, do not believe you to try!
People who have been in love or married must have heard the object say these three words "I raise you", these three words sound very moving, right, they often say it when they are emotional. It could be a date, it could be a time when you're sad, it could be a time when you're both happy.
Men like to say this sentence to show their love for you, but they often just say a love sentence, not seriously, maybe at that moment is true, they say they will be responsible for you, will raise you, if you don't like the job, quit, have them as your backer.
They feel that saying this sentence can win your trust and trust in themselves, make you think that you are a person worthy of entrusting the second half of your life, and let you rest assured that you will give the second half of your life to him.
But when you really have to rely on him, quit your job, have children at home, or do a very easy and low-paying job, you see if he will always be willing to raise you.
In the beginning, of course, there was nothing to say, and maybe he was quite satisfied with such a life, and when he came home, he could eat your cooked food and clean up the house. But after a long time, he will be bored with this kind of life, will dislike you for always reaching out for money, will dislike that you do not make money, and will see that you are not pleasing to the eye.
He said that you can rely on him, this sentence should be listened to as a love story, don't take it seriously, the work should be done, the promotion of yourself should be improved, do not leave the workplace, because you can only rely on him for a while, it is impossible to rely on a lifetime. If there is really a person who is willing to let you rely on a lifetime, it must be necessary for you to pay a certain price, such as you have to endure his little three outside, for example, you have to endure his various shortcomings, such as you have to endure his disrespect for you.
By then, you have long since lost the ability to get out of an unhappy marriage, because you have been raised to be a frog in warm water and can no longer jump out.
Second, never fight with another woman for jealousy, that will be demeaning to yourself, the point is that there is no benefit other than belittling yourself, really, believe me.
I don't know why, women seem to be quite easy to compete with another woman for jealousy, and when they find that they have the opposite sex who often chats on their mobile phones, they always unconsciously eat the vinegar of that woman, thinking that she has occupied the time and energy of their objects.
They would use her as a fuse to quarrel with the object, making trouble, and asking the man to make a choice, and only one of the two people could choose.
Whether you are married or unmarried, you may meet at least one such object that makes you jealous, and you often hate it and argue with the object every day.
I believe that many female friends will have such behavior, because of the presence of another woman, they feel that their status is shaken, so they decide to cut the grass and remove the roots, but in fact, this behavior will really be very cheap.
When you put yourself and another woman in the position of a competitor, it means that you treat yourself and the other person as goods on the shelf and let the object judge and choose. This is the thinking of the weak, and the strong will never do this, but put themselves in the position of the selector, feeling that the man can't leave immediately, so as not to let himself be chosen.
When you feel that the object will leave you because of another woman, it shows that you have no confidence in yourself, and it also shows that you look down on yourself. Maybe there is nothing between them, and giving you such a fight will make the object think that you are stupid.
You should have your own life, not staring at who the object is talking to all day, not every day to prevent the other party from betraying you, if your life is only left with this matter, you should reflect on yourself, is it too idle.
Treat your boyfriend, you just need to set your bottom line, and then look at his performance, things within the bottom line, you can completely ignore it, but once you exceed the bottom line, you should break up and never be soft. With the bottom line, your object may be jealous of your three points.
Third, when you are in love, you can't see the opposite sex in your eyes, and when this love passes, the opposite sex emerges from all corners.
Of course, this does not happen to everyone, because some girls will have their own friends of the opposite sex even if they are in love, and they will maintain heterosexual interactions that do not cross the line.
But there are some girls, once in love, can no longer see other members of the opposite sex in their eyes, only their own objects, they are addicted to the qingqing and me with the object, without their own heterosexual social interaction.
This is actually a very dangerous behavior, because when you only have your own object in your eyes, you will pay too much attention to him, what he ate, what he was doing, did he sleep, why he didn't reply to my messages, whether he was doing something to hurt me, there will be countless questions and confusions in your heart.
This will be very detrimental to the development of your own relationship, and it is easy to be affected by the object, hand over your emotions to the other party, and any movement of his wind will make your emotions affected.
In fact, even if you are in love, there is no need to lose contact with friends of the opposite sex, because the interaction within the normal social range is normal, and your world should not be only the object of one person, such a world, may be very monotonous, very tasteless.
We are in love, normal life, normal interaction with people should still have, there is no need to cut off contact, so that their life path will become more and more narrow, narrow to only the object of one person.
Although these words were published by Song Dandan ten years ago, reading them again ten years later will still feel very reasonable, and they are truths that have been verified by many people.
Always remember that love is only a part of our lives, not the whole, we must not give up our pursuits for love, give up our lives, and we must not compete with love.
Remember the above three truths and learn from this, your love road will not go too bumpy.
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Article illustration | Stills from "Love Holiday"