Perhaps many people have imagined this.
One quiet afternoon, turning the corner alone, I was greeted by a girl in a flower dress, with a smile on her face, her eyes clear and warm, and déjà vu, but she came to herself and said: I have been waiting for you here for a long time.
This is love at first sight.
So, does this love at first sight really exist?
Some people may think that this kind of feeling really exists, but it is impossible to meet, few people encounter it, or the people they meet do not say it, no one knows, after all, feelings are only a matter of two people, there is no need to publicize everywhere.
However, personally, I prefer to believe the words of the famous writer Wang Shuo, who said: Love at first sight is just a glimpse.
The implication is that love at first sight is not non-existent, but a kind of imagination that exists briefly in people's hearts, when two people live together, deeply contaminated by chai rice oil and salt, at most only family affection is left, not love at first sight.
Why?
We analyze from the following three aspects, namely:
First, people's emotional needs will change according to the change of their own conditions at the time and place
The so-called love at first sight, in the eyes of many people, is a white head and an old man, who only loves one person in his life.
But this kind of cognition is nothing more than moral "kidnapping".
Because people's emotional needs will not only change from time to time and place, but also change with the change of their own conditions.
If there is a saying that "husband and wife are originally birds in the same forest, and they fly separately in the face of great difficulties", it is about a change in conditions that will lead to a change in the relationship between husband and wife.
Therefore, human emotions cannot be static, but will change at any time due to changes in time and place and their own environment, and love at first sight, even if it exists, is very short-lived - just like Wang Shuo said, "a glimpse of the sky".
Second, love at first sight is just a perfect imagination
The so-called emotions, in the final analysis, are nothing more than artificial imagination.
Love at first sight is no exception.
Some people say that when the ideal shines into reality, it is no longer an ideal, but a reality.
I think so.
Because love at first sight is just a perfect imagination, just like an ideal, once it is contaminated with reality, it will become vulgar in an instant, at least it is no longer the original perfect imagination.
Therefore, from this point of view, love at first sight is just a perfect imagination of people in special circumstances.
Third, behind love at first sight, in fact, there are needs
In real life, many people like to show affection everywhere and claim that they are love at first sight.
However, most of the couples who show affection and love cannot avoid the end of "seeing the light and dying".
Because behind this "show", in fact, there are needs - the drive of their own interests.
Therefore, the so-called love at first sight is more of a pretense, and it is not a true portrayal of the heart at all.
Of course, some people may say that they fell in love with someone at first sight and chased them for years, never changing their minds.
But such a situation is nothing more than self-deception - because you can't chase it, you will have such a feeling, and once you catch it, the two live together, and their feelings are completely different.
Therefore, in summary of the above contents, we can conclude that love at first sight is just a perfect imagination under special circumstances, just like Wang Shuo's teacher said "a glimpse of the great".
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The materials in this article are mainly quoted from the Analects, Zhuangzi, Tanjing, Tao Te Ching, Wang Shuo Anthology, Dream of the Red Chamber, Jin Ping Mei, Waste Capital, Walking Alone, Philosophy of Life, Plato As He Said, History, The Complete Works of Wang Yangming, Huayan Jing, University, Li Ji, Tiandao, Sun Tzu's Art of War, Wang Biji's Interpretation, Zhou Yi, and The Book of Poetry.