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The netizen letter said:
My ex-wife and I were free to love and get married, and during our time together, our relationship was pretty good. However, the family situation of both of us is so poor that we often experience "resignation" in our married life because of poor money. Because we're enough to live on our own, let alone raise children. So much so that in the 3 years since we were married, we didn't have the courage to have children.
Until one day, my ex-wife said to me coldly: Honey, let's continue to live like this, it will not be good for you or for me, or we will divorce. I can be sure that the ex-wife said this because she was poor and afraid and did not get involved in extramarital affairs. In fact, in my perception, my ex-wife and I are not too bad people, but we lack a good platform to develop our careers.
After some thought, I "let go" of my ex-wife.
In the 3rd year of our divorce, she remarried a man who was older than her teenage, and I knew: it wasn't because of love, but because of money. In fact, in the years after divorcing my ex-wife, we still kept in touch, especially after she remarried, and would take the initiative to introduce me to my girlfriend. In the words of my ex-wife: You are single, I feel guilty. In fact, I also want to find a girl with a good family to reorganize the marriage, but men are too difficult in this matter, compared to women, not to mention, I do not belong to a tall and handsome boy. I don't think much about remarriage, and I'm worried that after restructuring the marriage, I will continue to let the marriage follow the old path of me and my ex-wife because of poor money. Right now, I'm more focused on making money.
Muzi Li emotional analysis:
I have a neighbor who broke up with a girlfriend who had been dating for more than a hundred days. The reason he gave for the breakup: He didn't have the ability to satisfy his girlfriend's material desires.
At first glance, his girlfriend seemed particularly materialistic, in fact, not, but because he was really poor.
A lot of men will always complain: women nowadays are too bad. Believe me, the men who say these things, at the level of making money, must have a particularly average ability.
In my perception, many women's requirements for marriage partners: have a common house, and each other have a relatively stable income. However, when the most basic "living" in life cannot be solved, do you think such a marriage can be happy? For this, we must mention a phenomenon of "high house prices".
It needs to be admitted that at present, there are many people who work from small places to big cities, not that they do not work hard enough, but the degree of their efforts is simply small compared with the house price. As a result, too many people of marriageable age now feel that they do not deserve to walk into the besieged city.
Regarding contemporary marriage, the reason why so many people are looking at money, in fact, the most fundamental reason is that everyone hopes that after marriage, especially at the housing level, they can get a minimum guarantee, but many people can not let their dreams shine into reality in order to have a house in the work city, living a frugal and overtime life.
We often hear a saying: At present, no matter which city you work in, as long as you can solve the housing problem, the living expenses can basically be coped with. It can be seen that the house price is too high, killing too many people's pursuit of a happy life.
Whether it is you or my neighbor, you have lost your love in a state of poor money. During this period, in fact, you exuded the kindness of human nature: you did not blame your ex for seeing the money and opening his eyes, but carried the broken love on his shoulders and claimed that he was incompetent.
When love is lost to money, it is indeed a very helpless thing. However, sometimes, we also have such a problem: we feel that we have the strength of the body, but there is no way to exert it. It can be seen that factors such as a person's family situation, knowledge, personality, platform, and opportunities play a great role in whether a person is successful or not. This means that sometimes, it is not enough to rely on brute force alone.
You are not a lazy person, but you are a poor person who does not discount it. Doesn't that sound sad?
We often hear a saying: a good job, there is a good life. The point is that many times, everyone has worked very hard at work, but they have not exchanged themselves for a glamorous life, but eventually formed the so-called inner volume.
It is inevitable that your ex-wife divorced you at the beginning, not because she did not love, but because she was poor and afraid. Now, she has at least lived a carefree life. In this case, you can say that she doesn't love her husband enough, but you need to admit that her life is bound to be much easier than with you.
At this time, she will take the initiative to help you zhang Luo girlfriend, which can only mean that she really hopes that you can have a good home. However, for many men, it is useless to be good, after all, being particularly poor is the original sin.
Since I don't have the strength to meet a girl with a better family, then it is also a reliable and helpless choice to sink my heart and work hard to make money.
Muzi Li life insights:
I have a friend who is 34 years old this year, and his current situation: no wife, a house (apartment) and a car in the work city, still carrying a mortgage and a car loan. To tell the truth, I look at him every day and I think he is tired. Because he is a tour guide, the tourism market has been particularly sluggish in the past two years, so that he has a particularly difficult time paying off mortgages and car loans every month. Probably, there are many people in life who are in similar situations to my friends. What else can you do except sigh occasionally?
I remember when I was very young, I didn't think that the house was a "commodity", at that time, people's favor for the house was not as strong as it is now, and people at that time did not eat well and dress well as contemporary people, but at that time, people's life pressure was also very small, so that people at that time were very happy. In contemporary times, although more people are crowded into big cities and maintain happiness on the surface every day, what is the inner world?
In China, there are 170 million post-90s, of which only 20 million choose to enter the siege. Is it really because they don't aspire to married life? It's just that the pressures of life make them reluctant to get married. Another phenomenon: now we are all beginning to encourage the birth of three children, but these people who do not want to marry at all, expect them to have children, it is simply a fantasy. It is hoped that one day in the future, people will no longer worry about buying a house, only in this way will people invest and consume at other levels.