Author: Meet Bu Yu
Today my mother suddenly called me and asked how I was outside, how was I almost rich, and how happy I was living? I was amazed at why my mother asked me that, so I asked curiously why I was suddenly asking me this?
It turned out that a child of my relative's family was too bitter to run outside alone after graduation, and chose to commit suicide in the rental house! He ended his short life in the most cruel way, and left a suicide note to tell his parents that this was his last rebellion against the world.
I talked to my mother for a long time, basically around this matter in the discussion, she has a not very good family, but also caught up with the not very good time, graduation is unemployment, in the current epidemic is more abrupt, I am alone in the gritted teeth to support life for a period of time, perhaps for a long time can not find a job caused by depression, or other reasons led her to embark on such an extreme and sad road.
Hong Kong female writer Zhang Xiaoxian once said: "We are afraid of the years, but we don't know how gratifying it is to be alive." We think survival is no longer interesting, but many people struggle between life and death. When will we be grateful for what we have? ”
Yu Hua's book "Alive" writes a story of being alive, there is nothing better than being alive, and there is nothing more difficult than being alive.
Each of us is living very hard, and you look at others laughing, just because others know how to leave laughter to others and keep suffering to themselves.
I used to drink and chat with friends at the low point of my life, and tell him through alcohol that I envied his life like this, that he had a decent job at home and a heart that kept passionate every day. My friend told me that in fact, he was also envious of me, and he also felt very tired, but he needed to work hard to live, needed to support his family and needed to support himself, and he needed to take care of other people's emotions.
He jokingly told me that now is your low point I am comforting you, if I also behave very low, will it affect your emotions more?
Later, I also learned to keep sadness and sadness to myself, to send smiles and joy to others, and I learned to see people in the world who are more unfortunate than me when I am sad and depressed! If you look at it with a good eye, you will find that my current state of life may never be envied by others!
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Man lives for the sake of being alive itself, not for anything other than being alive.
There is a very subtle sentence in the book "Alive": "In the beginning we came into this world because we had to come; in the end we left this world because we had to go." ”
We have no way to choose the family and time of birth, and even more helplessly there is no way to choose the time of our own death, and the two helplessness is mixed with our life, perhaps at this time, our life should be full of hardships.
If you pay attention to the news of suicide, you will find a phenomenon that suicides are young lives, and the elderly are more praying for their own lives.
Logically, those old people who have tasted the sadness of the world should choose to live lightly, and the suffering of young people is less than one ten thousandth of that of others! No matter how hard it is, why don't you get wrapped up and eat?
Perhaps only by tasting all the sufferings of the world can we know the true meaning of living, and we can better understand how precious it is to be alive! Many of today's thoughts are talking about the sadness of the world and the unworthiness of the world! In the past, the most transmitted thoughts of the fathers' generations were to live!
My grandfather told my father the most, that is, to live no matter what, hungry can eat anything, frozen anything can wear, my father told me when he was a child that soil can really be eaten, he also ate when he was a child! I just don't want to eat it now!
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Find a reason to live first, and then find a way to live with a smile
I don't know what people who live lightly think at the last moment, I empathize with me in that perspective and think about it, I find many reasons for me to stay nostalgic, the parents who gave birth to me, the friends who cared about me and worried about me, and the social circles I lived in were the sharpest swords that made me cut off the idea of light life. I still have a lot of places I haven't been to, I still have a lot of food I haven't eaten, and I don't know what it's like to be married...
There are many reasons to stay alive, but you forgot to look for it.
I have a friend who often says that she is dead, and it is really tiring to live, but she always lives well, even better than us.
Her method is to tell herself countless times that even if she dies, she must do the things she wants most in her heart and die again before she dies, she does not say it, but does it, and applies this set of methods to her life over and over again. She may be under more pressure because of the enjoyment of a time, but she enjoys it!
If there is a kind of person who can walk away, I think it is a person like her!
Treat each of your remaining days as the last day of your life, and you will be able to find your own happiness on this day!
"To live is to feel the happiness and hardship of being alive, boring and mediocre; to survive is just the evaluation of others!" We should all learn to accept our own mediocrity, and when you truly accept your mediocrity, it is also the time when you find happiness step by step.
Taishan sealing Zen is the matter of the noble emperors among the ancient people, and we who accept mediocrity will not think of conquering Mount Tai, but may just conquer a stubborn stone at the foot of Mount Tai, and we can get our own share of happiness.
The greatest problem of human beings is that ambition outweighs ability.
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I do not ask for a name after death, but I do not want to regret this life
Now I still remember when I was a child in history class, when I heard the teacher tell about the famous traitors in history, my heart was full of hostility, and there was a feeling that if I was born in that era, I would definitely strangle the adulterers to death in swaddling.
When you grow up, when you look at the personal name in the history books, the admiration is easy to be from the heart, do not ask good or bad, do not distinguish between loyalty and adultery, and the people who can leave their own names in the long river of history belong to the tide of that era, but they are also a small group of people standing on the cusp of the wave.
We do not have to force our names to be engraved in the long river of history, but we should also cherish and cherish the fate of this life.
Everyone's life is a movie full of love and hate, we are not the protagonists of this world, but we can be the protagonists of our own lives.
You can be like the heroes of Ip Man and Chen Zhen in the movie, you can also be like the prodigal son who has been wandering for love all his life in the love movie, and you can live like Truman.
The world is too big, we are too small, we should see our own eyes around the people we can see, the elderly parents, the increasingly mature friends, the children who fall to the ground, we can see, touch, love the real people.
In the eyes of our parents we have always been protagonists; in the eyes of our friends we may not be protagonists, but we are also important characters who can live to the last episode; in the eyes of our lovers we are even more protagonists; in the eyes of our children we are the light he knew in childhood.
Find your responsibility and find out what you are living for!
The world is not biased against anyone, and there are also true feelings that touch the heartstrings in bad births, if you feel that the world is unfair, then living is the biggest rebellion against the world.
I sincerely hope that all the breathless people who are oppressed by the pressure can think about your own life, selfish or willful, give yourself a chance to rest a little, and let yourself take a good look at the world again.
Too rigid and easy to fold, we are the same, we need a relaxed and moderate life, even if the social pressure is indeed very large now, we must also learn to let ourselves go.
Everyone knows that others don't love themselves, they have to love themselves well, if they can't let go of themselves, then how to ask others to let you go?
The stage of our greatest efforts is to fight for a new opportunity in the initial struggle of thousands of troops, we can not implement this effort, then we should not let ourselves who have worked so hard regret.
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