Today to introduce a more special anti-routine love movie "Blue Valentine's Day", the director used the romantic movie name to play the audience well, but in fact, it is an anti-fairy tale love story.
Blue means romance, purity and depth, but blue in English means melancholy and sadness.
The two lines of the film cross, and the two timelines of the male and female protagonists when they are in love and the six years after marriage are constantly changing, but there is no sense of chaos. The details of the film are real, the style is sweet and sad, and it makes singles and lovers and married people feel a lot.
youth
After marriage
"I think at some point my parents must have loved each other, right?" But did they run out of all their love before they had me? ”
The heroine, Cindy, is a smart and excellent college student, but her parents are not harmonious, so she has a vision of love and marriage at the same time, but also a little hesitant.
Cindy Mother
Cindy's father
Cindy
She had a handsome boyfriend at the time, they were classmates, they could talk and have a good relationship. However, during an intimate relationship, she found that her boyfriend did not take safety measures, which made Cindy very angry, and expected that her boyfriend did not pay attention to her.
Cindy's boyfriend
She did not easily forgive, the boyfriend is also flesh and blood, after the apology failed to start an awkward, the two gradually separated.
At this point, another very different boy enters Cindy's life – a moving brother named Dean.
Dean (young)
Although the male protagonist Dean is not highly educated and has no money, he is straightforward and romantic, and he will help the old man decorate the house when helping people move, lamenting the love between the old man and his wife when they were young.
In that apartment, Dean fell in love with Cindy at first sight.
Cindy misunderstood him, and he bluntly said that he had stolen money, so he understood her eyes, but this time he didn't, the money was earned by him; he didn't have a mobile phone, and gave her the phone number of his place of work.
"What's your name?" "Go away." "Go away? Interesting name. Cindy giggled and closed the door.
Cindy didn't call him, but Heaven let them meet again, they were singing and dancing on the street late at night, lying drunk on the street, Dean helped her tie the buttons of her shirt, and they fell in love fiercely, because this Dean was also beaten by Cindy's ex-boyfriend.
To be honest, this ex-boyfriend is really handsome
Cindy soon found out she was pregnant, the child of her ex-boyfriend, and she wanted to have an abortion for Dean, but in the end she couldn't bear it; Dean comforted her for a long time, and suddenly said warmly: "Let's get married and start a family." ”。
Dean had said he wouldn't get married and wasn't fit to get married, but Cindy made him change his mind.
Dean's own family was also not harmonious, and his single father was a janitor who played musical instruments, and he didn't even remember what his mother looked like.
But they got married. In pale blue suits and pure white skirts, they burst into tears in front of the priest, their hands clinging tightly to each other and not letting go.
Let's get married and create our own warm home.
After six years of marriage, Cindy became a good doctor, she was very busy, the trivialities of the family made her more enthusiastic about work; Dean did not have a fixed job, usually did odd jobs, drank and played guitar and accompanied the children, he felt that such a peaceful life was the best.
Dean and daughter
After six years, the two people's lives are getting more and more divergent, but after all, there are years of feelings and common goals of raising children, the relationship is still stable, but the long-term non-communication consumes the sweetness of the past.
On this day, the impatient Cindy forgot to close the door in her busyness, and the family's pet dog, which had been raised for many years, slipped out and was killed. Cindy cried and informed Dean of the news, and Dean was even more temperamental and couldn't help but say, "I told you to close that damn door." ”
Who would have thought six years ago that Dean would have said such a thing to Cindy.
Dean buried the dog and couldn't help but lie down on the table and cry, Cindy hugged him from behind, and Dean said, "Oh, I'm all right, baby." It was a rare moment of warmth for them.
They love each other, but staying together for a lifetime is not just love.
In order to repair this unpleasantness and release the pressure that the two people have been putting, Dean booked a lover's hotel on Blue Valentine's Day, Cindy was reluctant, she felt that the work was still too busy and not in the mood, but reluctantly agreed to It's explained and strongly recommended by Dean.
The two deliberately sent their daughter to her grandfather's house, Cindy went to the supermarket to buy wine and food, and Dean waited in the car. She actually met the ex-boyfriend from college in the supermarket, and she couldn't help but feel a lot of emotions.
Back in the car, Cindy talks about meeting her ex-boyfriend, which causes another quarrel, and Dean is now very sensitive, saying that he doesn't care, but he can't hide his inferiority.
"I'm sorry." Cindy was as perfunctory as her mother had been to her father. Now she's driving because he drinks a lot; it's her work, she cooks, she maintains her husband's fragile self-esteem.
Cindy felt like a man instead, just because he had no ambition for an ideal life, and indeed, he had said that he liked to do whatever he wanted, but now his lack of motivation could no longer attract her.
Upon arriving at the hotel, Dean began to play tricks on her. "There's no refrigerator here." Cindy just frowned and said.
The ideal lifestyle of the two is different
She wasn't interested in Dean's courtship either, especially when Dean said, "Let's have another child, I want to have a baby of our own." ”
Dean wants to ease the relationship between the two, but Cindy is nervous again - is he not worried enough about having a child? Does he still care that his daughter is not his own? Cindy couldn't resist with uncontrollable force.
"What are you doing here?" How many rejections should I endure? I deserve better treatment, I'm good to you, good to my daughter, I love you, you shouldn't be so kind to me! ”
Cindy accepted, desperate, indifferent. Dean felt: "Baby, I can't do it, I can't do it... What do you mean? Is this for me to rape you? I wouldn't do that! Because I love you! ”
The two men went crazy and lost control, not stopping to hurt each other with words, Cindy separated the two of them in two rooms, and Dean knocked on the door for a long time.
The next day, Cindy answers the work call and leaves the sleeping Dean, who wakes up and goes to Cindy's hospital.
His aggressive appearance made the nurse think that Cindy's drunken husband was looking for trouble, which further aggravated Dean's anxiety.
Dean and Cindy start arguing without saying a few words, and Dean makes a big fuss and beats up the male doctor who has a crush on Cindy out of jealousy, and Cindy especially hates such an unreasonable husband.
- "Do you know why I'm here?" Because it's here to see your smile! ”
" Shut up, I really can't hold on." ”
The two were still arguing on the way home, and Dean threw the ring out, but after a while he immediately got out of the car to find it.
Back home, Dean finally calmed down and realized that the marriage had come to an end, and both of them couldn't help but choke.
"Baby, I'm sorry."
"I really can't hold on."
"I know, I'm trying, you know, for this home. I don't know what to do... Tell me what to do. ”
"I don't know, I don't know how to do it!"
"Tell me, I'll do it, I'll do it."
"I'm sorry, I don't know what else can be done, we are no longer suitable for each other, we can't get along, I can't change, you can't change!" 」
Back six years ago, when they got married, they were also in tears, but everything was different, who would have thought.
They loved each other so much that they promised to stay together forever.
The pale blue suit, sweet, intense, melancholy blue, "You're so perfect, no one deserves you." ”；
The blue of the hotel, the cold blue.
"Cindy, you promised me, regardless of happiness and misery, you said, this is a promise."
"I'm sorry..."
"You have to give me a chance to get better, I can change well, do you want your children to grow up in a broken home?"
"I can't let my child grow up in a family where they argue all day..."
Like the last knife of the execution, Dean collapsed and collapsed in tears.
In a firework, Dean gradually walked away, the daughter went to chase, was tricked back, they turned their backs, did not look back.
In the fireworks, all the sweetness shattered into bright and sparkling sparks, and their love song "You and Me" seemed to still be in the ears:
"Except for you and me, there is only you and me, baby ~"
The whole play ends.
With the progress of society, there are more and more free love, but the divorce rate has also risen.
Maybe it is precisely because of love that there will be so much madness and irrationality, love is your weapon to hurt each other, the other party hurts you;
Because of love, they will be jealous, jealous, inferior, and crazy;
From handsome teenagers to top men, the gap in the image of lovers will also be unbearable, and shortcomings will gradually be magnified.
On the contrary, there is no emotion, but you can be confused, live rationally, and don't care so much.
Both Dean and Cindy are not affected by the good concept of marriage from the family because of the discordant relationship between their parents, and they just keep arguing.
This is also the reason why many young people dare not get married and have children, perhaps their families and parents themselves are not happy, where will they be optimistic about their marriage?
So people who dare to love are brave, do not have too many unrealistic expectations of love, but do not dare to love because of fear, true love is very rare.
"Love is the most beautiful thing in the world", do not lose the only beauty in this noisy world.
Sometimes, if you don't dare to pay, there is no return, even if you love, it is always left to the brave people.
We can work together to heal our respective painful pasts, I can't do it alone, but with you, maybe it's okay.