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Marriage is made up of many elements of synthesis, and which of them are necessary and which are not necessary, or which are the right way and which are the wrong ways?
In fact, the most critical area of marriage lies in the gains and losses of marital emotions.
In this article, you will be able to gain:
1. What is the manifestation of "emotional deficit"?
2. The cause of "emotional loss"
3. How to fix the "emotional deficiency" in marriage?
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Movie "Blue Valentine's Day":
In the metropolis of the United States, there is a couple who have been married for nearly ten years, they have been a model couple all the way, there are no huge problems and forks, and life is very harmonious.
To us, their marriage seemed perfect.
However, under such a seemingly almost perfect marriage, the couple has huge potential contradictions and troubles.
The wife wants to go further in her career and get ahead, but the husband repeatedly opposes it.
The two often quarreled behind their backs, and finally on a Valentine's Day night, when the two went out for a walk alone, they found that each other was no longer the same person they had known, and the two chose to divorce.
In this marriage that lacks emotional resonance, the two seem to have made the right decision.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" >, what is the manifestation of "emotional loss"? </h1>
1, couples lack topic resonance
This is the first sign of "emotional loss" and the most difficult to detect.
Many couples often ridicule themselves and each other's partners for not being on the same channel at all, unable to speak at all, difficult to communicate, and often classify such a situation as a joke as a talking point after dinner, but they do not know how dangerous such a situation is.
When couples lack the resonance of the conversation topic, it is their interests and focus that begin to deviate, and their "lack of emotion" may only be a matter of time.
2, husband and wife lack of humor and casualness
The strong emotions between husband and wife, and a major trait, are not respectful as guests, not a century-old good union, not a model couple, but simple and unpretentious casual and witty.
Any couple that exudes such an atmosphere, their feelings will definitely not be weak, will not be thin.
And if there is a lack of such humor between husband and wife, so casual, then what is left between them may only be serious, boring, and careful.
Can such a lack of fun emotional life still be considered sufficient and thick?
3. Husband and wife lack mutual understanding
Mutual understanding, mutual understanding, that is, the highest level and most important emotional communication between husband and wife.
If couples lack such mutual understanding, they will soon find it more and more difficult to communicate with each other, and they and each other will go farther and farther, even if they share the same bed and table, but they have been dreaming different dreams and thinking about different things.
Always scoff at your partner's thinking and behavior.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > second, the cause of "emotional loss"</h1>
1, the wear and tear of the years
Ten years of life and death are uncertain.
This was done by Su Shi while mourning his deceased wife Wang Fu.
Don't say ten years, it is five years, it is a huge time challenge for couples, and it is not easy for couples who can go through the test of time.
With the passage of time, if you do not pay attention, if there are some life contradictions between husband and wife, then their emotional life is likely to be of lower and lower quality, because if there is any contradiction during this period, time cannot dilute them, but may also intensify.
On the basis of contradictions, the longer we get along with the person in front of us every day, the more likely we are to feel bored, and the feelings will naturally fade.
2. The annoyance of marriage chores
Marriage is complex and subtle.
If you compare marriage to a garden, a flower and a grass in marriage, a tree and a tree, may be an important object to decorate the garden.
And if we don't get even one detail right, our marriage will suffer.
Marriage, not only love, but also responsibilities, relationships, children's education.
There is more survival and development in life.
There are too many marriage chores, and under the intrusion of these things, it is difficult for our feelings to remain as single-minded and deep as before.
3. The husband and wife's patience with each other is reduced
The emotional basis of the husband and wife must be based on the tolerance of the two people to each other, in layman's terms, that is, patience.
When couples become more and more grumpy, and the fault tolerance rate is getting lower and lower, any mistake made by the partner may be infinitely magnified by the other party, and may be regarded by the other party as something unforgivable, contrary to and destructive feelings.
Under such a "high standard" attack, it is difficult to be as deep as the original.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" >3, how to fix the "emotional deficit" in marriage? </h1>
1. Learn to moderately "separate"
"Emotional deficit" doesn't mean that the longer couples are together, the more they can make up for it.
The lack of emotion may sometimes be due to the principle of "things must be reversed".
When you find that your feelings with each other are not so strong and deep, you may wish to try to maintain a certain appropriate distance from each other for a while, giving each other a certain space for life and thinking.
Let both of them have a place to vent their emotions and think about what they should do in their married life in the future.
2. Seek the opportunity to talk about the solution
When a series of problems such as "emotional deficiency" are found, it is necessary to try to solve them immediately, and passively waiting can only sit still.
In addition to the above methods, we must also take the initiative to solve this problem.
We need to take the initiative and find the right time to talk.
For example, it may be better to communicate when the other person is promoted and when something happy happens today.
3. Grinding and synergy brought into the family
Marriage and family are basically constant ties.
The vast majority of marriages establish a family, and the rest of the family, especially our children, is one of the keys to reconciling the couple's emotional problems.
Since the emotions of the two are missing, it is advisable to shift the emotional focus to the child slightly, and in the construction of the family, the emotion will naturally produce tacit understanding, and it will slowly return to the couple's side.
In summary, the "emotional lack" of marriage is fundamentally due to the wear and tear of the years, the annoyance of marriage chores, and the reduction of each other's patience of husband and wife. We must learn to maintain a moderate "separation" distance, bring in other conditions of running-in, and take the initiative to solve problems.
< h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > concluding remarks</h1>
"Emotional lack" is a normal phenomenon of marriage, and if it is handled well, it is just a series of small episodes, and if it is not handled properly, it will bring about a huge destruction ending. Whether we face the difficulties or retreat depends on our courage.
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