#"Flash hour" theme essay issue 2 #
What love is, I'm afraid most people can't explain, I have seen such a sentence on the Internet: "Love is like a ghost, more people hear it, and fewer people see it." "It sounds rough, but it makes a lot of sense.
Although the vast majority of people have experienced the process of getting married and having children, many people may not have seen what love looks like in their lives. The explanation of love on the internet is:
Love is the intense attachment, closeness, yearning, and selfless and all-encompassing emotions between individuals (mostly people). It is usually the contrast between love and desire, love is composed of love and sex, love is the soul of love, sex is an additional attribute of love, it is not necessary to exist, love is the root and core of love.
Ms. Li Yinhe, a sexologist, has said that the probability of love happening is not high, and fortunately I met twice.
So what does this love that is both painful and addictive look like? How does it begin and how does it end in pain?
The Hong Kong-made film "Twelve Nights" tells you about it, and is produced by Chen Kexin. Some people on Douban commented that this is the pinnacle of love disaster films, but also a cruel documentary, people who have watched it always have a strong sense of substitution, "thought that their story was made into a movie, it turned out that everyone was like this", "Completely is themselves", "Oh my God, exactly the same as my ex-boyfriend"...
"Twelve Nights" is not the real twelve nights, but a love from the beginning to the end of the twelve stages, each stage of the relationship between couples and changes in mentality, let us see the love of this ghost to come and go without a trace of the charm.
However, the coming and going of love in "Twelve Nights" is not the truest side of human nature.
Night 1 Love is like a serious illness, after it is over, it is good.
A sister's birthday party, only one sister's boyfriend Eason Chan arrived, the boyfriend of the flight attendant Cecilia Cheung could not come over temporarily because of something, and one of the sisters used tarot cards to calculate for her, saying that they cheated on each other and did not have a good ending. With doubts, Cecilia Cheung called her boyfriend, no one answered, and then returned to her seat, just when another sister told her that she saw her boyfriend holding hands with a yankee watching a midnight movie.
The sisters who originally said that it was not working immediately echoed "Hello Spirit", all these coincidences combined to be a dead end, and she did not give her boyfriend any opportunity to explain, and she went back to break up with a showdown.
Maybe they have accumulated a lot of problems between them, and the breakup is not a thought, and tonight all the coincidences have reached the tipping point of the breakup, and when you want to break up, anything can become a reason.
Lost love is a painful thing, but there is a saying that the best way to treat broken love is to start a new relationship, the sister let her boyfriend Eason Chan send the unhappy Cecilia Cheung home, Eason Chan became the reason for Cecilia Cheung to break up, acting as her new boyfriend. She quickly healed the previous one with this relationship.
On the 2nd night, only people in love think that their encounter is not accidental.
After 2 weeks with Cecilia Cheung, Eason Chan went back to break up with his girlfriend, saying that he just liked Zhang and that he would not look like a Buddha in front of her. And there are many problems between them, the last sister's birthday party, Eason Chan originally did not want to go, the girlfriend broke up, had to go, during the mood is very bad, which also indirectly gave him and Zhang the opportunity.
Two loveless men and women for 2 weeks to let a new love begin, not love at first sight, but also began with a heartbeat, his heart is in front of Zhang and in front of his girlfriend is completely different from his own, the beginning of love began at first sight, because fresh and do not understand, see each other's advantages.
Cecilia Cheung calculated the odds of being with Eason Chan, as if everything was predestined, if not, I wouldn't be... When you want to be together, everything is fate.
Night 3 Beware of those who are in love, because they are crazy.
When Eason Chan was in a meeting, he only wanted to see Cecilia Cheung at night and give her a gift, from the beginning to the end, his hand was only on the gift, and he did not listen to a word of the meeting, and the clear-eyed people could see that he was in love.
Busy work, at 3 a.m. he also called Zhang wanted to see a face, dawn on dawn, driving during the happy loud singing phone has not been hung, even the car tire burst did not feel inappropriate, 4 a.m. or insisted on meeting, bad car is bad car, can not sleep can not sleep, as long as you do not fly so far, with breakfast to see your girlfriend.
In love, he will always be free for her, try everything to meet, everything is second, he is tired and does not care at all, all the shortcomings of the other party are advantages.
Night 4 When I close my eyes, I can still remember what you looked like
They are familiar enough to begin to discover the details of each other's appearance, although they find out the shortcomings, but because they like it and do not dislike it. "Will you remember what I look like when you close your eyes," the man replied. "I remember, I closed my eyes and saw you again." Women want to know more about men, and he asks "Do you think that if you know a person, you will still like him so much?" "Okay, then you test me."
This sentence is undoubtedly showing her to him, no matter what you are, I will like it, so that I will not be afraid of the test, and at this time he has a little impatience, the questions he said are also perfunctory, the girls are interested, and the boys look reluctant.
Night 5 The dignity of men is placed on women and other men.
They are becoming more and more familiar with each other, they are beginning to think to the left, but they can still accommodate each other, in fact, the estrangement has begun to arise.
But the appearance of a male friend of the woman deepened this estrangement, and they chatted hotly, without any scruples about him next to them. So he asked, "Has he ever pursued you?" "Yes, I went to bed once."
Both people who have stories become "really hard to argue with you just because he's a man and she's a woman." "Maybe they were still in love with each other at this time, but the estrangement had deepened, and no man wanted to hear such a thing."
Night 6 The dignity of women is placed on their faces.
Women and men to participate in the dance, afraid that she wears a strong provocation is not to say where the problem is, the same woman, the original even the shortcomings also like, now the advantages have become disgust.
"I used to look good at anything I wore, but now I say I have thick calves." "What do you really like about me?" The woman finally asked the words. She had been holding this sentence in her heart for a long time. The more you learn, the deeper the contradictions.
Night 7 The more obsessive you are, the more annoying you will become.
The same guy, the same guy, the same guys, the women are calling more and more, the men are getting busier and busier. Receiving a call from a woman, the man is in a tired state, using busyness to cover up his boredom, how smart the woman is, how can she not feel it, but she does not want to be too obsessed to make the other party bored.
The hint she gave herself was that the other party was also very busy, I couldn't ask the other party to come to see me, then I went to see him, but every time I went to see him on the way back, this is how afraid the other party is bored, originally he came to see her, and now she doesn't dare to see him.
Night 8 You are happy, so I am happy?
Afraid that the man flew abroad and was anxious to use the computer, the woman begged someone to find a way to open the door after work in the repair shop, grinded for a long time and finally got the computer, ready to send it to the man, saw him and a group of people ready to go hi, did not tell the woman that she changed the itinerary.
At this time, any reaction of a woman in the eyes of men is to do, all kinds of work, "I am very busy, very hard, you don't have this kind of temper all day long, okay?" "I didn't tell you to do so many things, why do you do so many things?"
Yishu said: When a man no longer loves a woman, it is wrong for her to cry, it is wrong to be silent, it is wrong to breathe alive, and it is even more wrong to die.
At this moment, we can feel the weight of this sentence more deeply, and both of them are very hard.
Night 9 A month, to regret early regret.
Wherever the woman cried, she did not believe that men did not want themselves, colleagues called for her, the other party did not even admit it, had excluded her, friends are not.
Colleagues reminded him that it had been a month and that he should regret it earlier. He doesn't like you anymore.
Night 10 Two months later
Women think that they have passed, and when they meet men, they want to be friends back. The man advised her to focus on her career, she told the feelings of breaking up for more than 2 months, talked for a long time, tears flowed out, turned her head to see, the man fell asleep.
You think that you have touched others, but in fact, you have only touched yourself, and only those who have really experienced it understand how humble this is, and they have to rely on the "thin treatment" of others to show their own looks.
Night 11 Two days later
They rolled together again, not knowing if it was a resurgence of old feelings. When women talk about the post-breakup experience, men can fall asleep, which is already a sign of unlove.
Night 12 Two months later
When a woman goes to her ex-boyfriend to take something from a year ago, she realizes that she has misunderstood her ex-boyfriend, and the ex-boyfriend has not cheated on her. So she avoided her current boyfriend's search, and what she wanted desperately turned out to be a misunderstanding.
What is love, a reincarnation of these twelve stages makes us understand, this is the original appearance of love, if you meet again, will you make the same mistake?
Not necessarily, before we figure out what we really need, we have entered a new relationship. And liking the new and hating the old is the most real side of human nature, love also has a shelf life, because of the lack of understanding and combination, because of understanding and separation of examples abound.
And the way men and women treat feelings is different, women's feelings, like wool tangled and entangled, men's feelings, like a faucet, pour down when they come, and stop abruptly when they leave. Just like the male and female protagonists in this film.
Knowing these truths, we may not be less hurt, unless we can always be outside of love, but it may make us less obsessed with finding love.