Tonight (September 11) "Do Not Disturb", a high-quality male guest appeared on the stage, and after two short films, 24 lights were lit up, but he claimed to be a "love brain", can the female guests accept it? Another boy suggested that a "love communication board" be set up between lovers, and many girls are very supportive of this practice, "Two people must communicate more, communicate well, and minimize emotional internal friction." The three teachers also expressed their position: reject the "love brain" in love and maintain self; actively communicate in the process of getting along, reduce emotional internal friction, such an emotional state will make people more relaxed.
A "love brain", a non-confident, please keep yourself and be more brave when it comes to love
Male guest Zhang Zhanhong called himself a "love brain", "Friends say me, you talk about love to maintain a little mysterious, learn to do what he likes, want to indulge, but I think in this case, how can she understand all of me?" And why do you need so many strategies to fall in love! If my girlfriend is on a business trip for a month, I adjust my schedule and for three weeks I fly to where she is on a business trip to spend with her, but I try not to affect my work. In the future relationship, I will continue to invest and pay in this way. Female guest Feng Kunyang is also a "love brain", "I am the kind of person who will suddenly say a word when eating with friends, my boyfriend is so handsome, I like him so much; I originally wanted to buy something for myself, but I saw a bag that was very suitable for him, and I would buy it immediately, and after buying it, I would have no money; he said that I want to see you now, even if I am at work, I will rush over immediately... Because I am a very difficult person, I met that person so hard that I wanted to give him all my love. ”
What is a "love brain"? It is that once you start to fall in love, you are all focused on love, and you can abandon everything for love, completely without yourself. Meng Fei analyzed: Male guests and female guests are different, "Boys are making some adjustments without affecting work, so that career and love get a balance; girls are always sacrificing, once it is determined that this person is what I love, like a volcanic eruption to love recklessly." Once this love does not go as you wish, will you be particularly hurt? Therefore, it is recommended to keep yourself in love, it is better to turn the strength of the volcanic eruption into a gradual heating, can not always follow the footsteps of the other party, or even become the other party's vassal, such a love relationship is unequal. ”
Zhang Zhanhong, who has a high education and high appearance, currently runs a management consulting company in Shanghai, loves sports, temperament and sunshine, treats feelings and invests, and after two short films, 24 lights are rarely still fully lit. Female guest Zang Cong has a good feeling for him but is not brave enough, "He is very in line with my criteria for choosing a mate, but I am a bit inferior, the male guest is so excellent, and I am more ordinary, afraid that there will not be so much to talk about in the future." "But the wonderful thing is that the male guest's heartbeat girl and the wisdom push girl are Zang Cong. The three teachers encouraged her to be brave, and the male guests also said: "Female guests must not feel unconfident, I think you have a lot of highlights that I like and appreciate." Moreover, my heartbeat and wisdom are all you, which is a very rare fate. "In the end, can two people come together?
Reduce emotional internal friction, this "love communication board" can have!
Male guest Tang Yimou hopes to set up a "love communication board" between him and his partner, "it can be a blackboard or other handwritten things, and when two people occasionally quarrel, they can use this communication board to write some love words or apologize on it to coax each other." Many female guests are very supportive of this practice, Chen Shengnan said: "Not only love words, but also the advantages and disadvantages of each other, the way to deal with things into a table, I even thought about doing a feasibility study report before falling in love or getting married, to see if the two people are in tune, try to reduce emotional internal friction in getting along." ”
The so-called "emotional internal friction" refers to the slow consumption of their own emotions in their own hearts, which are generally negative and will make people feel particularly tired. Especially in love, this kind of internal friction especially hurts the feelings of two people, and eventually breaks up in the "no words" that do not know how to communicate. The three teachers repeatedly stressed in the program: love must need a good emotional experience, the emotions of two people must flow positively, you are happy, I can share your happiness; you are sad, I can share your sadness, this is called love, "I hope that lovers must have more empathy, stand in each other's perspective to experience each other's emotions." If the emotions you convey to each other are always warm and positive, it will make getting along a lot of harmony. Many contradictions often arise not because of the matter itself, but because of the emotions and attitudes of the other party, and the key to resolving the contradiction lies in whether the two sides have positive emotions. ”
Tang Yimou's girlfriend, whom Tang Yimou has talked about before, is more aggressive, "She always makes all kinds of demands on me, whether she can meet them or not, she will be angry." For the gentle girl Zhang Yi on the field, he is very moved, Zhang Yi also said: "Watching the short films of male guests, I like parkour, and that kind of ease and confidence is very attractive to me; he is also a very long and affectionate person, when he was a child, the toys and travel ticket stubs have always been retained." However, I prefer a familiar environment and don't want to leave the city now. Tang Yimou responded directly: "I am willing to go to your city to develop." "In the end, can two people successfully hold hands?
Watch tips: Jiangsu Satellite TV's "Do Not Disturb" is brilliantly staged tonight (Saturday, September 11) at 20:30!