Tonight (October 23rd) "Do Not Disturb", a male guest "super tolerant", "no matter how big the girlfriend's temper, there is nothing I can't stand"; a male guest "super principle", "I must not be different when I find a girlfriend, and I must not talk to me when I just get up in the morning." The three teachers said: one can endure anything, one sets too many boundaries, the two will not be too popular, "talking about love rationality and sensibility to the extreme is not enough, to seek a balance between the two, to create a good character is our life's work." ”
"There is nothing I can't stand" When it comes to falling in love, you must have bottom-line thinking
Although the male guest Rao Daowei has learned martial arts since childhood, his personality is very soft, and he is particularly tolerant and endurance, "When I was a child, my mother always said to me, 'Endure again', the shoes do not fit and then endure, endure until the toes are deformed. When pain becomes the norm, patience becomes a habit. In the relationship, the word "forbearance" was also deeply rooted in his heart, "In the last relationship, I gave up everything to go to the other party's city, and most of the salary was handed over to her." I was unaccompanied, but she didn't care much about me, and the relationship lasted four years under my repeated patience. ”
Rao Daowei said that he had never been angry in his previous love experience, "I remember one thing that impressed me deeply, one day I was at work, the girl sent a message to let me hurry home, I repeatedly explained that it was useless, but I really couldn't leave." Unexpectedly, when I came back from work, I found that everything in the house had been smashed by her, and even then I was not angry and silently cleaned up. So, there's really nothing I can't stand. ”
The female guests agreed that the male guests had a good temper, and also suggested that those who were not cherished did not need to be bitter and patient, "just like the shoes that hurt you at the beginning, if you take them off at the beginning, they will not be painful for so long." The three teachers also stated that falling in love is not to sacrifice themselves to maintain a good relationship, two people together must have a bottom line thinking, no bottom line to meet all the requirements of each other, such love is completely unbalanced. Beautiful love must be inseparable from self-confidence, self-reliance, self-respect, and self-love support, and cannot just use compromise and compromise and sacrifice to maintain the relationship between two people. While expressing "I am good to you", we must also share our true feelings and situations with each other, and true love should be that two people can get along easily and grow together in the process of mutual care.
Rao Daowei also said: "I hope that in "Do Not Disturb", I can meet the person who cherishes each other. The gentle girl on the field, Xue Jiwei, insisted on leaving the lamp until the end, can the two people successfully hold hands?
Don't overemphasize and amplify the "principles" good character is a lifelong subject
Qu Zhaoyi, a male guest with a beautiful voice line, quickly conquered the girls with his voice charm after his appearance, although the boy who talked about the principle was very popular, but the boy's "principle" was not too recognized, "I will go to any city for more than seven days, I must return to my hometown Dalian within seven days, I will definitely marry and live in Dalian in the future, so long-distance love will not be considered; Also, I don't like the other half when I just got up, I can't listen to what you tell me, and I will feel particularly annoyed. This state of affairs lasts until after I have finished my breakfast. ”
The female guests could not help but say: "There is nothing wrong with getting married and settling in the hometown, but male guests should not overemphasize." Also, he said that when he woke up in the morning, he should not talk to him, originally thought it was just a habit, but after being amplified by him, he felt that the problem was quite serious. Meng Fei analyzed: "Behind the requirements made by the male guests are pointed to a person who is more principled, and will demarcate some insurmountable and insurmountable boundaries for his life, but his so-called 'principles' do make people a little uncomfortable, I hope that he is not limited to his own small world, he should open a channel to break, first of all, he should not let the different place become the barrier between the love of two people." ”
Huang Lan and Chen Ming also couldn't help but sigh: "The last male guest said that he could endure anything, and he could hardly see what bottom line he had, and this male guest seemed to have set too many boundaries, and these two extremes were actually not popular." A balance should be sought between rationality and sensibility, and how to shape a good character of ourselves is the subject of our life. The three teachers suggested: lovers get along with each other, rationality and sensibility to the extreme, the former is easy to make people miss, the latter is easy to make people make wrong decisions. We must face the emotional relationship together with sensibility and rationality, not only to maintain a certain distance so that each other has a buffer; but also to support each other, move forward hand in hand, and let each other harvest better selves in common growth.
When it comes to the criteria for choosing a mate, Qu Zhaoyi said that the girl in his ideal is the type of bird according to the person. In the end, can he hold hands with his crush?
Watch tip: Jiangsu Satellite TV's "Non-sincere Do Not Disturb" is brilliantly staged tonight (October 23) at 20:30!