"Gently I go, just as I come softly, I gently beckon, as the clouds of the western sky are noted." The great poet Xu Zhimo of the Republic of China, you must know it, his original wife Zhang Youyi you may not understand, as a poet's wife, everyone will definitely think that she will have a romantic, enviable marriage, but not!
When Xu Zhimo went to Study in Europe, Zhang Youyi accompanied him, at this time Xu Zhimo was pursuing Lin Huiyin, ruthlessly leaving Zhang Youyi, who was pregnant with his second child, in a foreign country, and soon Xu Zhimo divorced Zhang Youyi and married Lu Xiaoman. Everyone must not have thought that the great poet turned out to be such a "scum"! Ever wanted to tear him apart?
After giving birth to a child, Zhang Youyi taught herself German and early childhood education, but unfortunately the child died prematurely. The darkest time of life, like a big net, covered her, and at this moment, she suddenly understood that everything in life had to rely on herself! After six years of solitude abroad, after returning to China, she entered the university to teach German, and after returning to Shanghai, she became the vice president of the bank and the manager of the clothing company, and she insisted on studying after working every day. Xu Zhimo probably would never have imagined that the "rural buns" in his eyes had become a fashionable woman on the beach! Zhang Youyi's other businesses are also booming, and her fame in Shanghai is getting bigger and bigger.
After the divorce, Zhang Youyi not only reaped the success of her career, but also harvested the happiness of marriage. She met Dr. Su, who has a gentle temperament and elegant conversation, and in this marriage, she has received the respect she deserves.
In her later years, someone asked her if she loved Xu Zhimo, and she replied, "You know, I can't answer this question." I was confused by this question, because everyone always told me that I had done so much for Xu Zhimo, and I must have loved him. If taking care of Xu Zhimo and his family is called love, then I probably love him. Zhang Youyi's definition of love is a classic, reflecting her tolerance and kindness.
Although Zhang Youyi does not have a vigorous feat and a shining story, she is so ordinary that she can no longer be ordinary, but everyone around us is not ordinary? And who can face the misfortunes of life calmly like her and live a wonderful life!
What does her story teach us?
In marriage, two people's outlook on life, values and worldview should be on the same frequency, have similar views, the same views. Instead of you saying that the sea is beautiful, but he has come to say that many people have died, you say that tourism is very good, he said that the thing burns money! Many marriages today are broken up because of the discord between the three views. So everyone must find a person with the same three views!
Xu Zhimo is an open-minded person who pursues romance, and Zhang Youyi is just a traditional woman at the beginning, so their marriage was wrong from the beginning. In the face of a wrong marriage, let go in time. Zhang Youyi fulfilled Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman, in fact, he also reopened a door for his own happiness. In today's real life, there are many phenomena such as entanglement, revenge, and suicide because of emotional problems. When you don't have to keep a relationship, you must learn zhang Youyi to put it down!
Zhang Youyi said, "I want to thank Xu Zhimo, I want to thank the divorce, if it were not for the divorce, I may never be able to find myself, in that era, there is no way to grow." He freed me from being another woman. What force made her "the other woman"?
Some people say that women are indispensable to several things: self-confidence on the face, kindness that grows in the heart, bone qi and strength that melt into the blood!
Women must have the ability to live independently and have independent thoughts. Growing yourself is the best way to be kind to yourself, and when you are confident enough to stop clinging to others, you must suddenly be open in front of you! Zhang Youyi became the first female banker in China, which is the best result of her growing herself!
Women, can not spend the appearance of the moon, but must be kind, Zhang Youyi after the divorce also supported Xu Zhimo's parents to the end of the old age, xu Zhimo died, she paid for Lu Xiaoman every month, her generosity and kindness is her most dazzling light.
Woman, you can lose everything, but you can't lose your dignity, you can't lose the backbone of being born as a human being. In the face of Xu Zhimo's ruthless abandonment, Zhang Youyi did not give up and complain, but used her dignity and backbone to tell everyone that she lived well!
Zhang Youyi told us that even if you have nothing, you must have nothing to fear!