Text/Huang Yueguo
Divorce is very emotionally hurtful, no matter how close the relationship was before, after divorce they return to strangers.
Men may not forget after losing, but most women are more dead to lose and do not want to have anything to do with it.
This may be the reason why women are more emotional, for marriage, women are devoted to life to business, to maintain, once lost, their hearts also faded, dead.
For strangers who have become ex-husbands, more women do not want to pay attention, do not want to see, even if there are children in the middle of maintenance is also the mentality of not seeing.
Ms. Fan, aged 52
I've been divorced for nearly a decade and I've met my ex twice, once when my child was injured at school and he rushed over after calling him. Another time was when the child was in college, at the airport, he came to deliver money to the airport.
At other times we talk on the phone at most, or three or five times a year.
After the divorce, the last person I wanted to meet and pay attention to was my ex-husband, who was a stranger to me.
When I met him, I didn't know what to say, and I didn't like to ask each other, how was it, and I felt that this scene was too pretentious.
Since they are not husband and wife, they are strangers, not even ordinary friends, and there is no need to meet and contact.
Ms. Ye, aged 45
I was divorced for 6 years, remarried last year, and my ex-husband remarried a year after our divorce and also had children again.
After the divorce, we didn't contact each other again, he didn't come to see the children, and only paid a fixed monthly maintenance fee for the children.
After I remarried, my ex-husband suddenly came to my place of work one day and said that two days was the birthday of the child and wanted to spend together.
I called the child in front of him to ask for his opinion, and the child said that he did not want to see his father and only wanted to spend his birthday with me.
I looked at my ex-husband and saw that he was much older, but I was very calm inside, and told him not to come to the place where I worked in the future, that there was no need for us to meet, and that if he wanted to meet the kids, he could go to the school gate by himself and wait.
My ex-husband was a stranger to me and didn't want to see him.
Ms. Cao, aged 37
I divorced at the age of 34, from the beginning of the unwilling divorce to now calm, enjoy the life of a person, I spent a full three years, finally completely put down.
In the past three years, my ex-husband has been a familiar stranger to me, and I have used time to forget and work to forget the past.
Although my husband kept contacting me three years ago and begging me to remarry, I didn't want to talk to him anymore, let alone pay attention to him.
Later, in order to completely cut off contact with him, I changed my mobile phone number.
Now, we are real strangers, if we meet in the sea of people one day, it is estimated that there will be no eye contact, let alone stop to greet.
The author's later words: Men will want to remarry after divorce, and they will never forget the goodness of their ex-wives, which is because men always want to cherish after losing.
Women, on the contrary, in marriage, women rarely move the idea of divorce regardless of whether the marriage is happy or unhappy, but if they are divorced, their hearts will not turn back. The ex-husband is a stranger to them, does not want to see or ignore, each is fine, do not disturb each other.