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Be a person with mature feelings

Carnegie is known as a success scientist, and many of his statements and opinions are deeply inspiring for those who pursue success. How do I succeed? This is the core issue of Carnegie's book", "The Weakness of Human Nature", and of course, the most concerned issue for each of us, and the success of career, marriage and family success, is undoubtedly the most important aspect. Carnegie provides more "golden rules" about success, and I will share them with you slowly in the future. Today, let's talk about an aspect that everyone pays less attention to or even ignores: emotional maturity.

As the saying goes: Whoever has the will, the matter will be accomplished. Carnegie's first rule of success is: Be brave enough to learn, to work, to create. He said: "As long as you are interested and ambitious, any knowledge, any skill, any industry, you can bravely learn and create." At the same time, Carnegie admonished: "When I say ' seize the opportunity and live bravely,' I certainly don't mean that you don't have to be careful, and I don't mean that after practicing in the pool three times, you may try to swim across the English Channel; I am not saying that when you graduate from college, you can go to the president of the United States and ask for the position of secretary of state." These are all things that are brave and foolish. ”

In Carnegie's view, there are three ages in the world: one is to remember the age of age, the second is to remember the age of knowledge, and the third is to remember the age of emotional maturity. Among these three ages, it is most important to remember the age of emotional maturity, because our lives depend on her to adjust. From this, Carnegie proposed the second rule for success: to be emotionally mature.

What kind of person is a person who is emotionally mature?

A person with mature feelings can stand on his own feet, conceive on his own, and act on his own, without the dependence of childhood; he has no hypocrisy and vanity, but has a quiet disposition, has a self-respecting and not arrogant character; he has the courage to cope with difficulties, he is not afraid of failure, and he must be successful.

For human society, a person with mature feelings must be a fraternalist, and he knows that only by working hard to do things for human society can he have happiness and happiness.

In terms of work, a man of mature feelings, he knows that it is his interest to contribute to society, because he understands that the purpose of the work he does is to work for that work, not just for his own remuneration.

In terms of family, couples with mature feelings are never dependent on each other. The husband never insults his wife and treats her like a helpless child. The wife also never worships her husband when he has the appearance of a god. They respect each other, love each other, never be controlled by the seven passions and six desires, and are willing to be slaves to feelings. They do not consider their children to be their own private property, but to belong to society, but they do not despise or indulge them for reasons that they belong to society.

A person with mature feelings should be a brave warrior, and he must kill a more suitable way to survive in this world, not afraid of how many obstacles and traps there are in the future. If a wolf came to attack him, he would get a good leather coat.

Carnegie said that to mature feelings, doctors, teachers, and books are all good teachers and friends who can help you and guide you. Emotional immaturity is not a sin, and when you are immature, you can be irresponsible; but if you know that your feelings are immature and do not try to remedy them, and do not try to do something that will make your feelings mature, then your misfortune should be responsible for yourself.

Being a person with mature feelings is both Carnegie's proposition and the need of our society. Around us, there are some people with high IQs, but they make low-level mistakes, so that they are ruined and their future is ruined, which has a lot to do with emotional immaturity.

Here to remind you, emotional maturity and what we usually call high emotional intelligence are two different things, but I believe that if your feelings are not mature, your emotional intelligence will not be high.

When focusing on your IQ, please also pay attention to your emotional intelligence. But if you want to be a successful person in your career, then please be a person with mature feelings first.