Xu Wei's songs, before the age of 30, listen to freedom, after the age of 30, listen to life monologues.
Some people call Xu Wei a philosopher in the music industry.
The confusion of youth can be healed in him, the wounds of love can be soothed in him, and the pain of growing up can be comforted in him.
His songs will always tell us that accepting loneliness is a kind of cultivation, staying awake is a kind of wisdom, and loving people well is a kind of skill.
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In an interview, Xu Wei talked about his current situation, saying: "After the age of 30, he began to reflect on his life, before many things were going outward, the pursuit is expression and release. Now it's all about inward pull-in, the so-called 'self-observation'. ”
Xu Wei, who suffered from depression and turned to open a shop during the low tide but ran a dismal business, was also a person with a dream of superstardom.
He wrote his own life feelings into the song, although semi-reclusive, but the jianghu never forgot his existence.
A music producer once said of him: not commercial enough.
But he didn't care.
In a seemingly lonely pursuit, Xu Wei became the richest person in his music world.
He was pure, clean, and lived like a child.
It is precisely this righteousness that his musical talent gives people warmth all the time.
He sang in "Once Upon a Time You":
"Every time I'm sad
Just look at the sea alone
I always think of my friends who are walking on the road
How many are waking up
Let's dry this glass of wine
A good boy's heart is like the sea
Experienced the cold and warm of life in the world
This smile is warm and innocent."
This life is destined to be a lonely practice.
As you grow older, you will find that even a great life must be able to withstand the baptism of time, helplessness is commonplace, and ordinary is the majority.
No longer dreaming of becoming Superman, but secretly wearing pants into it, hiding the sadness in the depths and healing alone.
Zhou Guoping said: "From the perspective of the vast universe, each of us is indeed a helpless orphan, who came to the world by chance and inevitably left. ”
There are no two identical leaves in the world, and there will be no same trajectory in life.
No one can move forward in your place, no one can accompany you to the end of the world.
One day, you will get used to a person reading a book, a person listening to a song, and a person feeling the joys and sorrows of life.
Accepting loneliness is a sign of a person's maturity, and maintaining innocence and independence is the best respect for life.
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Some musicians have commented on Xu Wei: "Understand the world by feeling." ”
Cancer's Xu Wei is soft and introverted, when he was young, paranoid and sentimental, he gave up his studies and ran away from home with a guitar on his back.
Dreams are full, reality is bone.
When the problem of food and accommodation became the biggest stumbling block on the road to chasing his dreams, he doubted his life and even thought of giving up his life.
After middle age, he cut off his long hair, transformed the loneliness and wandering of his youth into a deep understanding of life, and began to become introverted and calm.
The person who sang "Dream of fighting the sword to go to the end of the world" became more and more aware of what he could and could not do, and only hoped to be a passerby in this materialistic world, ordinary but not mediocre, ordinary but not confused.
He sang in "Empty Valley Orchid":
"In the red dust, your mistaken wound is cool
Silent light, silently illuminating the world
Walk like the wind, like a jun riding the dust
Holdings have been ringing so far, who is listening
A thought of the state of mind, the blossom of the world."
People, in this life, the most difficult thing is to see themselves, want a lot, and get not enough.
When looking at others, enter the wood for three points; when looking at yourself, look at the flowers in the fog.
Born to be a human being, there is no escape from life, old age, illness and death, flowers blossom and fall at the end, and peaks and loops also have different scenery.
The ultimate thinking of life is the destination of the soul, in the face of noise and glitz, having a calm and calm heart is more important than anything.
The grinding of life can make a person frustrate the edges and corners, have a sober heart, not only can recognize the world, reflect on themselves, and constantly seek the existence of truth, goodness and beauty.
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In 1993, Xu Wei took his "Fly" band to hold his first premiere in Xi'an.
In front of more than 3,000 spectators, he sang "Don't Cry Baby", a song that was later renamed "Persistence" by Tian Zhen and swept the country.
"Every night comes
Loneliness is always around me
Every dusk heartbeat awaits
It is my infinite tenderness
Every time I face you
Don't dare look into your eyes
Behind my gentle smile
How many tears of sorrow
No matter how time and space change
How the world has changed
Your love is always in my heart
Do you understand?"
Offstage, among the people listening to this song was Xu Wei's wife Yuan Feng.
By this time, she was in tears. She knew that this was the love and affection that her husband had never uttered.
Xu Wei and his wife met in the military camp, and it was not all smooth sailing for the two people from the initial ignorance to the acquaintance after they met.
During Xu Wei's depression, he could hardly play the strings with his hands, and even his own life became a problem.
Yuan Feng decisively quit his job and called her former music friends in her husband's phone book one by one, hoping to form a small band and talk about music and play rock and roll in her own courtyard every day, thus stimulating her husband's enthusiasm for life.
At this time, Yuan Feng did not have any complaints, and taught himself to play the guitar, not only as a porridge wife for all the band owners, but also as a player around her husband.
In the end, the kung fu paid off, and Xu Wei, under the careful care of his wife, embraced the guitar again, began to create, and became a "rock poet".
Gu Cheng once said: "Whether you are by my side or in the sky, thinking of having a you in the corner of the world, I feel that the whole world has become gentle and stable." ”
The person who loves you will always let you be a child and retain a piece of innocence.
The person who loves you will always make you feel like yourself and give you a sense of security.
As the saying goes, if you want to win the hearts of one person, the white heads are not separated.
It is easy to love each other, it is too difficult to get along; it is easy to be happy with each other, and it is difficult to share suffering.
How much true feelings have been erased from the chicken feathers in life, and how much love has been washed away by calculations and losses.
Between people, acquaintance is valuable in knowing each other, and knowing each other is valuable in knowing the heart.
Only by loving a good lover can we feel the true feelings in the laughter and anger of fireworks, and can we know how to cherish it in the entanglement of chai rice oil and salt.
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In 2011, when the Hot Wave music industry performed, Xu Wei sang the song "Gift" with tears in his eyes.
"In the silent night
Ever prayed for you
Wish you were
A gift in life"
Every child is a unique gift from a parent.
As we grew, we drifted away from our parents.
Xu Wei once confessed that he spent more time with Ji He than with his parents.
When Xu Wei was a child, he was very rebellious, and his father, an engineer, hoped that his son could study hard and be admitted to a key university and enter a scientific research unit to engage in decent work.
But Xu Wei, who likes to play rock and roll and has long hair, obviously can't get into his father's eyes.
The conflict between the two was imminent, and his father even beat Xu Wei.
Until one time, Xu Wei returned to Beijing to visit his relatives, and when he was leaving, he couldn't help but turn around and hug his father. Suddenly, he realized that he had never been so intimate with this man before he was 30 years old.
Since then, he has begun to let go of the past, open his heart, and try to understand his parents.
It turned out that over the years, my father had cut out almost all the newspaper reports about his performances and carefully pasted them in a notebook.
And Xu Wei was completely unaware.
Bi Shumin said: "When parents are here, life still has a place to come; when parents go, life is only a way back." ”
There are thousands of ways to leave home, and there is only one way home.
We are often accustomed to leaving bad tempers to the people closest to us, and always like to blindly take and calculate gains and losses.
When we see all the flowers and taste the taste of life, we will understand the good intentions of our parents.
In this life, as people grow older, they must subtract from their own minds.
Let go of what should be put down, and learn to shake hands with the person closest to you.
Instead of having a thousand knots in your heart and falling into the vortex of resentment and anger, it is better to think in a different position.
Let go of attachment, accept each other, tolerate each other, life will not leave regrets.