As a parent of a child, do you know how to ask questions smartly?
Our first question after school is a major factor in our children's grades, and it is also the biggest test of whether we know how to educate children!
I have a friend who has made her child a treasure student through continuous practice and summarization, and even through clever questions.
In the past, like many mothers of second-grade children, every day when the child came home from school, the first thing she would do was to ask the child: "Baby, are you done with today's homework?" ”
Her children's responses are often: "Mom, I'm done at school, can I watch cartoons for a while?" ”
Naturally, during that time, her children spent most of their time at home after school playing and resting.
When she looks back at the time when her children come home from school every day, she often asks and answers with her children, and at that time, she thinks that this is a very ordinary and ordinary way of communicating with her children, but the results of this are not very good.
Under the guidance of this question, her child thinks that her learning task has been completed, and when she comes home, she can relax, watch cartoons, and play.
After careful consideration, she finally found out that this incident was inseparable from her child's later learning procrastination, poor academic performance, improper learning attitude and other problems.
Indeed, resting and playing after school is understandable for children.
However, just thinking about learning as if it was completing the homework assigned by the school teacher can be left behind, so there is an error in the perception of learning.
It seems like an ordinary thing, but it is a foreshadowing for children to be unable to develop good study habits in the future, especially after gradually entering the senior grades, they have no way to start in the face of heavy schoolwork, and they do not know how to effectively review and preview, and they will encounter many learning difficulties and fail to achieve ideal results.
Until problems such as procrastination and lack of confidence in learning arise, which affects children's schoolwork and even their future, which is the last thing parents want to see.
So, she had an in-depth discussion with me on this issue, and made some experience accumulation and came to some conclusions.
I can now answer the following question with certainty.
So how do we guide our children with the first questions after school, so that our children can learn to allocate the time after completing their homework correctly?
You can carefully remember the angles of the following questions and the skills of asking questions, so that our children can unconsciously move closer to the direction of the treasure master:
1. Guide from the perspective of the extension of learning itself, for example: "Baby, if you don't review the key knowledge after studying for a day, you will soon forget it, in order to hold them firmly and not let them slip away, let's have a simple review, right?" ”
Description: The so-called learning itself, there are learning content, learning methods, learning attitudes, learning equipment preparation and other aspects, among which the formation of good habits of learning methods can make children get twice the result with half the effort in coping with the exam.
2. Guide from the perspective of home-school comparison, for example: "Baby, you can ask teachers and classmates if you encounter questions you don't understand in school, but at home, you can only write down the questions first, or put the wrong questions on the wrong question book first, right?" ”
In the process of asking questions, it is necessary to highlight the resources that can be obtained in all aspects of learning in the school, so that children can pay attention to the richness of knowledge channels in school and cherish the time of learning.
3. Guide from the perspective of summarizing and summarizing the knowledge points learned, for example: "Baby, what have you probably learned today, can you tell your mother in one or two sentences?" ”
Description: The so-called summary of knowledge points, some parents think that this is difficult, and in this case, it is the time to give full play to the children's summary ability, you can let the children summarize more, let the children say more, in fact, it is not difficult to be an interested listener.
4. Guide from the perspective of the child's good learning attitude, for example: "Baby, I see that the teacher praised some of the top students in the class group, can you share your feelings with your mother?" ”
Description: The so-called good learning mentality, some children will be proud of their academic performance, some children will feel inferior because of their academic performance, and some children will feel anxious because of their average academic performance.
5. From the perspective of parent-child interaction and common learning and progress, for example: "Baby, today you are learning the fourth unit, I am also very interested in this knowledge, let's read the book together, if you don't understand, I will ask you, okay?" ”
Description: The so-called learning and progress together, there is time to learn knowledge with children, which is also a very meaningful thing in parent-child companionship.
6. Guide from the perspective of planning and setting learning goals for the next step, such as: "Baby, what should we do if we are going to improve by 5 points more next time than this exam?" ”
The so-called planning and setting goals, some parents can set goals for themselves in the work, or will adjust the goals according to the leader's planning, only under such guidance, in order to cultivate the ability of children to set goals, through efforts to achieve goals, in the whole process, children will be able to continue to think, get the fun of learning, produce a sense of achievement, and then love learning, apply this way of thinking to all stages of their lives, so that the educated children can not be excellent!
Of course, it should be noted that the angles of the six questions can be integrated with each other, and the effect of family education itself is not determined solely by the first question after school. Rather, as parents, we must continue to summarize and learn, and we should also integrate these factors according to the personality of our children and the influence of the surrounding environment, so that our children can develop good learning habits and deep mature thinking under our correct guidance.
The expression of each angle of the question is broad, and we can communicate according to our own language habits and the way that our children are more comfortable with.
Our own children are also independent individuals, and modern children have distinct personalities, which require the joint efforts of families and schools to nurture and educate.
The success of children and the happiness of life is our greatest achievement and wish as parents.
Author: Wait for the wind to come
A working mother of two children, holding a pen in her left hand and a baby in her right hand, she likes to read, write, and paint, and firmly believes that even if she lives in a chicken feather, she must have her own poetry and distance in her heart.
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