When children grow up, if they want to be competitive in the future society, you need to cultivate and explore the following two characteristics.
The first trait is the ability to eat, sleep, play, and work.
Many parents think that this is not an innate trait of every child? In the past, it can be thought of as such, but now the involution of education is serious, many children have to be locked in the teaching building for 10 minutes between classes, and the homework of the school must be completed after returning home, and the homework assigned by parents must also be completed, which leads to the inability of children to see the light and the wind, and there is no mental vitality.
Nowadays, if you see a child with this trait, it means that the child has a good mentality, is not entangled, and has a lot of psychological energy.
Life is a long road, and a lot of suffering will be placed in front of people, so when this child has inner energy, it can endure great hardships and can also climb out of great suffering.
And this kind of child will eliminate some meaningless things in life, empty his body, brain, and heart, and travel lightly to face many problems at work and in life.
A philosopher once said that most of people's troubles come from interpersonal relationships.
Therefore, some interpersonal matters will have a certain impact on us, and even affect the spirit and emotion.
For many children, there is no way to filter the annoyance of these relationships.
There was once a classmate in our class named Erya, she has always studied very well, but once she failed an exam, the teacher taught her in front of the whole class, and since then, her grades have plummeted.
Our classmates chatted with each other and asked her why, why is Erya's study getting worse and worse? She once said that it was because the teacher said that she couldn't let go of this matter, thinking about it when she went home to eat, when she was sleeping, and when she was studying, she would think about it, and she would ignore what other teachers taught in class, which caused her grades in all subjects to continue to decline.
So is this the teacher's reason? In fact, this is caused by the child's lack of heart, and it is also caused by family environment factors.
Or maybe the favorite thing that happens in school is that there is a girlfriend organization between girls, and today is good with this, tomorrow and that, which affects a lot of their study time and expectations for their future.
All the people and things that happen around me will settle in my children's bodies, and then they will affect the children's minds.
When a child is indulged in this kind of quagmire all the time, she will not sleep well, eat well, and study not to mention, for some things, she is not easy to turn the page.
Generally, this kind of child's gastrointestinal function is not very good, too much thinking will affect sleep and eating, lack of energy, when there is not much schoolwork in primary school, it is better, if you do not help the child to improve her mental capacity, to junior high school and high school, the schoolwork is complicated, this kind of child is easy to get depression.
The fragmentation of information in modern society is very serious, many children can't calm down, they actually want to study hard, but they have more than enough energy to start, they don't know where to start, and their spirit and physical fitness can't keep up.
What parents need to do at this time is to lead their children to be simple in thought and free in spirit.
The deeper the thought, the purer the thought, the more free the spirit.
When adults are unable to help children understand the nature of society and the nature of human nature, then something will entangle children.
In the process of growing up, people must learn to slowly see through many things around them.
When parents lead their children to understand a lot of truths, then 80% of the impurities in this world, indifferent things, will be put down, can be easily removed, focus on pursuing, to solve 20% of the most important problems in life.
Xiao Lei is used to playing football with his father during the holidays. One day, Xiao Lei ran listlessly on the court, and his father saw the problem and asked Xiao Lei: "What happened to my son?" Why is it so listless? ”
Xiao Lei said: "A good buddy of mine lost one of my favorite books, and I blamed him, but he quarreled with me, saying that I had an awkward relationship with him because of a book, and it was not worth it, but that book was my favorite book."
Xiao Lei's father told him: "If he is your true friend, he will love Wu and Wu, and if you cherish you, he will definitely cherish what you give him, and if you lend him something and he doesn't cherish it, it means that you are not true friends."
Speaking of which, Xiao Lei's father passed the ball to Xiao Lei and said: "Kick the ball out, hard, and at the same time kick away those unhappy people and things"
After listening to his father's words, Xiao Lei seemed to understand some truth, so he kicked the ball out fiercely.
If a child has the essence of being able to eat, sleep, play, exercise, and work, it means that everything is bright in his future.
The second trait is the ability to summarize and generalize.
People have to learn to grow up by themselves all their lives, isn't there a song that sings like this:
Let's go, let's go, people must learn to grow up by themselves;
Let's go, let's go, life will inevitably experience painful struggles;
In the final analysis, people can only improve by summarizing the previous shortcomings, just like a bucket full of holes, we continue to fill it with water, but we don't know to fill the loopholes of the bucket, so in the end the bucket still keeps leaking out, only by summarizing experience to plug those loopholes, can we fill the water.
There are many children who don't know how to sum up their experience and hit the south wall countless times without repentance.
There was once a classmate in our class whom we estimated to be Xiao Ming, and the teacher left a small essay in the class where each person needed to write 500 words.
Xiao Ming wrote 500 words into a calligraphy assignment about mathematical Chinese characters, that is, he would write one 10 times, two 10 times, and so on.
The teacher frowned after seeing the homework, and at first he just patiently explained the essence of the composition to him, and did not get angry with him, and then the teacher asked him to rewrite an essay.
When the teacher saw this, he was angry and asked him to stand at the back of the class.
When the teacher punished him for writing essays again, he stopped copying the essays of other students' classmates and began to copy the essays from books. In the end, the teacher had no choice but to call his parents, and the rest of us didn't know how this essay was solved, and the only thing we knew at that time was that he went home and was beaten again and again.
As an adult, we learned that Xiao Ming now lives on his parents' pension and has never worked a day.
Maybe when you see this, you think that Xiao Ming is not a fool, but he is not, he is very smart when he plays with his classmates after class, and it is normal to talk and communicate with people, the only thing is that he doesn't like to study.
Some children grow faster, some children grow slower, as parents must understand whether their children belong to fast or slow, if their children belong to slow growth, they need to be patient to accompany, and help him look back at the road he has missed, summarize his own shortcomings, how to correct, so as to improve his confidence in the future, rather than rough education methods, rough education methods will only make children more decadent.
To sum up, in the long run, if a child has the above two abilities, then he will take more important things to heart and become the person he wants to be step by step.
Author: Wait for the wind to come
A working mother of two children, holding a pen in her left hand and a baby in her right hand, she likes to read, write, and paint, and firmly believes that even if she lives in a chicken feather, she must have her own poetry and distance in her heart.
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